Club SAHM

[bebe]

Can I check with you SAHM…how do you manage couple time? Frankly speaking, I am already struggling for ME time…couple time is the last thing on my mind…and I know my hubby is not very pleased…but what to do? Kids come first…I wake up at 5am…go to bed at 11pm…really no time for romance…

[kids_r_innocent]

I have been a SAHM for close to abt 4 yrs, and is caring for two preschoolers singlehandedly; wif my hubby as the sole breadwinner.


There have been times when i am so tensed up, stress, sian or watever you name it... However, i pick myself up everytime coz i believe only we can help ourselves. It's the attitude that matters...

Family should be the utmost priority, this is especially so for us, the SAHMs coz we have chosen to stay at hm for our children so tat we can bring out the best, love and care for them...

PERSEVERE, PATIENCE, PRACTISE (hee.. i mean try to do better the next time when we err wif our kids) and LOVE for ur children/partner is the pill for a HAPPY family :love:


Afterall, life is a short journey.. I am learning to love/cherish wat i have and FORGIVE and FORGET quickly, especially to my family.

Cheers and JIA YOU to all Parents out there!!! :grphug:

[janet88]

Hi tjm,

I stay on the opposite part of island from in-laws. I stay arms length from them. I keep relationship to mainly talking about weather since we don’t see eye to eye on most stuff. She always feels her son is very poor thing to have to work so hard to feed wife and 2 kids.

It’s tough when kids are still in preschool, but cheer up and hang on, they wil attend primary school and you have few hours to breathe. But it will be another set of stress when they are in primary school.
All the best to you and take care of yourself. That is most important.

[SAHM_TAN]

bebe:

Can I check with you SAHM..how do you manage couple time? Frankly speaking, I am already struggling for ME time...couple time is the last thing on my mind..and I know my hubby is not very pleased..but what to do? Kids come first..I wake up at 5am..go to bed at 11pm...really no time for romance..

We get our kids to sleep at 930pm, yes even the baby.So after 930pm is couple time. We will talk, catch up on stuff. If you are talking about date, like go out, at the moment, we can't becos baby is only 6mos and refused any other to babysit her.

[SAHM_TAN]

Admummy:

what coincidence, your elder two same gender and age as mine..except no. 3, mine is boy and 13mth plus...salute to you leh...no helper...my maid contract gg to expire in Jun and she not renewing, dunno how i will survive coz she's quite a good helper...maybe i shld adopt your kind of thinking be strong and pick myself up whenever there's obstacles instead of having doubt on my decision of switching to SAHM...

You are welcome, SAHM must support each other, it's tough and not always appreciated

Have u decided which primary school for your DD? I'm still in the midst of PV. Your DS1 is in N2?

I still have some help, once a wk a cleaning aunty will come to clean the house and iron clothes. My mil will help with dinner 4 times a wk. For lunch I cooked single meal that includes everything :lol:

Just have a sense of humor, kids are very cute

[SAHM_TAN]

Admummy:

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staying cheerful is really tough...i tend to flare up easily...and everytime when i flare up and scold my kids, i will feel terrible and start to doubt myself as SAHM...Actually i enjoy bonding with the kids, just that when my plan gets disrupted like the kids throw tantrum or when my youngest cling onto me and spoil my schedulte, i will panick and get frustrated...

Understand fully, I've been there as well. Now I learn to be more relax. Sometimes when it gets really bad, like kids are especially naughty, I will take time out and cool off. Does not always work, when I'm in the wrong, meaning it's not the kids' fault, I will say sorry and hug them.

It takes time to work out a routine which works for all.

[bebe]

SAHM_TAN:

bebe:

Can I check with you SAHM..how do you manage couple time? Frankly speaking, I am already struggling for ME time...couple time is the last thing on my mind..and I know my hubby is not very pleased..but what to do? Kids come first..I wake up at 5am..go to bed at 11pm...really no time for romance..

We get our kids to sleep at 930pm, yes even the baby.So after 930pm is couple time. We will talk, catch up on stuff. If you are talking about date, like go out, at the moment, we can't becos baby is only 6mos and refused any other to babysit her.

All my 3 kids are in bed by 930pm as well..so after 930pm, I will do some housework like sweeping/mopping/laundry/simple ironing..otherwise it is ME time all the way until 11pm when my #3 wakes up for his milk feed. I think it is hard to go par tor now.

[SAHM_TAN]

SAHM_TAN:

bebe:

We get our kids to sleep at 930pm, yes even the baby.So after 930pm is couple time. We will talk, catch up on stuff. If you are talking about date, like go out, at the moment, we can't becos baby is only 6mos and refused any other to babysit her.

All my 3 kids are in bed by 930pm as well..so after 930pm, I will do some housework like sweeping/mopping/laundry/simple ironing..otherwise it is ME time all the way until 11pm when my #3 wakes up for his milk feed. I think it is hard to go par tor now.

If your hubby is game, can have movie date at home from 930 to 11. Sometimes we have movie night at home, will switch off lights and eat snacks

[Admummy]

Have you guys read TODAYonline? There's an article on \"For full-time mum, a maid’s a necessity\"...


Here's the link:
http://imcmsimages.mediacorp.sg/CMSFileserver/documents/006/PDF/20110223/2302VOP018.pdf

I especially like the conclusion...
Engaging a full-time maid to help a SAHM cannot be considered a “luxury”,
especially when considering the many demands of raising a child owadays and, more importantly, the need to maintain a healthy husband-wife relationship.

If only the govt can allow some incentives to SAHM too...

[buds]

SAHM_TAN:

buds:

[quote=\"SAHM_TAN\"]I'm worst, I'm an \"accidental\" mummy. I never imagine I would be a mummy let alone a mummy of 3 kids

Alamak! :slapshead:

Dis wan lagi best! :rotflmao:

You take the cake boi! :laugh:

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:udawoman:

Ya lor......Even my frens commented never thot I would be a mummy :rotflmao:

1st one hubby planned sneak attack. I can't let her be without a sibling, poor thing when we are old and gone. So thought we agreed to stop at 2 but who knows I never learn my lesson about his sneaky nature and now we have 3.[/quote]You crack me up, SAHM_TAN!!! :laugh:

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