Depressed mum

[LJHLJH]

Hi IJJ,

Thks for reminding me that my boy is a blessing. It is so easy to get caught up with this rat race and forget to enjoy just being their mummy.

It really broke my heart when his preschool mates asked me why he talks ‘rubbish’. I know he felt it too, though he can’t express himself. If I had the means, I’ll homeschool him till he is ready to take on the rigours of our mainstream school. I fear for him being bullied or teased in primary school.

I definitely feel better writing down my thoughts here in this forum and meeting everyone who’s so support and in similar situations. Am taking it one day at a time, and reminding myself to be grateful for my wonderful healthy children.

[IJJ]

LJHLJH:

It really broke my heart when his preschool mates asked me why he talks 'rubbish'. I know he felt it too, though he can't express himself.

Young kids can be brutally honest. For that, I will consider moving the child one level down, in a smaller school setup and a small class size. It is very bad for his self-esteem.

For the meantimes, if ever any kid comes to you to tell you this again, just tell the kid that your son is not spouting rubbish, he has a special way to speak and only very special people can understand what he means.

When you come to terms to accept him as who he is, the disappointment and hurt will not be that bad. Focus on his virtues then others will see what you see in him. Take care.

[LJHLJH]

Thanks IJJ and agreed, I think if I’d stood up for him to what his friend had said, he’ll learn that it’s ok to be different and not something to be ashame of. I think building his self esteem is equally if not more impt than getting his speech right.

[ImMeeMee]

Can definitely understand your feelings of helplessness, fear and anxiety, being a parent to a special needs child myself.


Take the cue from your child when it comes to pacing, and dont push it if your child is not ready. it is understandable that as parents we want the best for our kids and would try our best to provide as much as possible, but the downside is that it could backfire if the child is not ready and over-stimulated.

if you need to defer schooling, so be it. let the child improve at his pace. I have already mentally prepped myself that my child will be later than her peers, although i am still hopeful that she could catch up.

your hubby may have made his comments out of confusion and helplessness. we all go through periods of denial and anger when such things happen. the most important thing is that we as parents dont give up and try our best to improve the situation even while we go through a self-healing process ourselves.

it is tough, spiritually and physically. but dont give up and do hang on. we as parents owe that much to our kids.

[Augmum]

LJHLJH :welcome: to u to KSP forum,

dun give up and be disheartened, hope u can find some consolations here......

[kiddo]

LJHLJH:

Hi IJJ,

Thks for reminding me that my boy is a blessing. It is so easy to get caught up with this rat race and forget to enjoy just being their mummy.

I definitely feel better writing down my thoughts here in this forum and meeting everyone who's so support and in similar situations. Am taking it one day at a time, and reminding myself to be grateful for my wonderful healthy children.

Bravo LJHLJH enjoy yourself , your child is healthy just learning at his own pace.
Watever others said is not important.
Jiayu, jiayu... you doing right with him. :celebrate:
Love him as he is that what he needed most from his Mummy. :love:

[LJHLJH]

ImMeeMee:

if you need to defer schooling, so be it. let the child improve at his pace. I have already mentally prepped myself that my child will be later than her peers, although i am still hopeful that she could catch up.

Thks ImMeeMee... it's this crazy paper chase society that drives us parents nuts Come to think of it, looking back, I think I might as well have been a dyslexic and dysprexia with all my struggles in school. But it has all turn out just fine for me... esp with my wonderful kids

[ImMeeMee]

LJHLJH:

Thks ImMeeMee... it's this crazy paper chase society that drives us parents nuts Come to think of it, looking back, I think I might as well have been a dyslexic and dysprexia with all my struggles in school. But it has all turn out just fine for me... esp with my wonderful kids

can understand. while i am mentally prepared about my child's delay, i am constantly worried about the options that we have on her future.

we all try our best.