Depressed mum
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His current diagnosis is suspected Language impairment (or MERLD, mixed expressive/receptive language delay), but is showing signs of slow progress. He’s coming to 6 yr in sept, but has a speech and language level of a 2 year old. We only started intensive speech therapy this year as kk was very full and had only monthly therapy since he was 3+yrs. Think we wasted some time there, and they didn’t want to test him for anything as he wasn’t showing obvious signs of autism, ADHD or dyslexia, so it was like an elimination style. And now that he is gradually talking with more words, langugage impairment is just suspected becoz he might just have speech delay and will catch up in time.
I think I was starting to panic now that his P1 enrollment is drawing near and his peers are so way ahead in communication.
Desertwind is right, negative comments from preschool teachers really puts me off for the day. And yes, come May, there’s a KK appt for school readiness testing, IQ testing etc. I’ll see how this turns out… -
Dont be dishearten. My niece is 6 years old this year and not able to speak at all. She has been going to speech therapy for the last few years and till now no imporvement.
Every kid develop differently. Dont give up. Jia you. -
Coming from a parent with a special need child, it is a blessing to have them. I learnt alot, alot… Of course, when the diagnosis was first heard, there was a period of griefing. It is normal, just don’t keep it long.
You love your child, so you want to do your best for him, hoping that he will catch up. Don’t blame yourself and don’t him when result is not seen. Both of you have come a long way. Pat on your shoulders All is definitely not lost. Perhaps it is time to rethink and review how to walk this long route now.
IMO, delay a year or even a few years of school is no big deal. Look around, some adults do mid-career change, they could be a decade or 2 older than their peers. So what?
Most importantly, enjoy your time and bonding with your child. No matter how his/her performance is, he/she is precious. I know it can be hard not to be frustrated and anxious especially when he/she is not meeting the social standard. Parents have to constantly remind ourselves to readjust our expectations.
MOE does allow late admission to school, as long as you can provide assessment report to proof that the child is not ready. For the assessment, I think Ovspring Development Clinic and James Cook University Psychological Clinic do that. When my eldest started P1, she had 2 or 3 classmates who were about 2 years older. Hence, it is not uncommon.
Take care of yourself, mentally and emotionally. You need to be healthy to nurture your precious child well. You are definitely not alone. -
Thanks Village Girl
Is your niece intending to enroll for P1 next year or will she defer? -
Hi IJJ,
Thks for reminding me that my boy is a blessing. It is so easy to get caught up with this rat race and forget to enjoy just being their mummy.
It really broke my heart when his preschool mates asked me why he talks ‘rubbish’. I know he felt it too, though he can’t express himself. If I had the means, I’ll homeschool him till he is ready to take on the rigours of our mainstream school. I fear for him being bullied or teased in primary school.
I definitely feel better writing down my thoughts here in this forum and meeting everyone who’s so support and in similar situations. Am taking it one day at a time, and reminding myself to be grateful for my wonderful healthy children. -
LJHLJH:
Young kids can be brutally honest. For that, I will consider moving the child one level down, in a smaller school setup and a small class size. It is very bad for his self-esteem.
It really broke my heart when his preschool mates asked me why he talks 'rubbish'. I know he felt it too, though he can't express himself.
For the meantimes, if ever any kid comes to you to tell you this again, just tell the kid that your son is not spouting rubbish, he has a special way to speak and only very special people can understand what he means.
When you come to terms to accept him as who he is, the disappointment and hurt will not be that bad. Focus on his virtues then others will see what you see in him. Take care. -
Thanks IJJ and agreed, I think if I’d stood up for him to what his friend had said, he’ll learn that it’s ok to be different and not something to be ashame of. I think building his self esteem is equally if not more impt than getting his speech right.
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Can definitely understand your feelings of helplessness, fear and anxiety, being a parent to a special needs child myself.
Take the cue from your child when it comes to pacing, and dont push it if your child is not ready. it is understandable that as parents we want the best for our kids and would try our best to provide as much as possible, but the downside is that it could backfire if the child is not ready and over-stimulated.
if you need to defer schooling, so be it. let the child improve at his pace. I have already mentally prepped myself that my child will be later than her peers, although i am still hopeful that she could catch up.
your hubby may have made his comments out of confusion and helplessness. we all go through periods of denial and anger when such things happen. the most important thing is that we as parents dont give up and try our best to improve the situation even while we go through a self-healing process ourselves.
it is tough, spiritually and physically. but dont give up and do hang on. we as parents owe that much to our kids. -
LJHLJH :welcome: to u to KSP forum,
dun give up and be disheartened, hope u can find some consolations here......
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LJHLJH:
Bravo LJHLJH enjoy yourself , your child is healthy just learning at his own pace.Hi IJJ,
Thks for reminding me that my boy is a blessing. It is so easy to get caught up with this rat race and forget to enjoy just being their mummy.
I definitely feel better writing down my thoughts here in this forum and meeting everyone who's so support and in similar situations. Am taking it one day at a time, and reminding myself to be grateful for my wonderful healthy children.
Watever others said is not important.
Jiayu, jiayu... you doing right with him. :celebrate:
Love him as he is that what he needed most from his Mummy. :love:
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