In-law problems?

[bebe]

CWC - can sympathise you…that is why I told my man…dun ask yr mum to babysit nieces and nephew in MY house if they cannot follow my rules. I do not wanna set double standard for my own kids. MIL can let the other grandchildren do whatever they want at their own house, but at my place, they have to listen and abide my rules.

[janet88]

jessicawongcs:

LOLMum:

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anyway she's a modern MIL, dressed so in-fashion that some frds thought she's my sister

friends didnt say she's your younger sister, i hope. :wrongmove:

:lol: no lah of coz older sis :p[/quote]So she isn't giving you problems since her mindset is modern, I hope.

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janet_lee88:

Cool down...don't get mad over this...be smarter and don't babysit next time. If old lady wants to, make sure she is the one doing it and leave the house.

Did that liao....but think never learnt lesson yet. BUT she'll know when the boy starts to misbehave next time....tho I hope not cos' it's MY house. Anyway, no my problem I guess. Thanks.

[janet88]

cwc:

janet_lee88:

Cool down...don't get mad over this...be smarter and don't babysit next time. If old lady wants to, make sure she is the one doing it and leave the house.

Did that liao....but think never learnt lesson yet. BUT she'll know when the boy starts to misbehave next time....tho I hope not cos' it's MY house. Anyway, no my problem I guess. Thanks.

If she wants to baby-sit, SHE does it ALONE...while you escape for those few hours of peace.

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bebe:

CWC - can sympathise you..that is why I told my man..dun ask yr mum to babysit nieces and nephew in MY house if they cannot follow my rules. I do not wanna set double standard for my own kids. MIL can let the other grandchildren do whatever they want at their own house, but at my place, they have to listen and abide my rules.

Well, if it's so easy good liao. Problem is MIL stays with me. Even MIL have trouble following basic rules eg. my room is parquet flooring so with years, there is gaps and since it's dark colored, hard to see ants. I have managed to cleared out all traces of ants a few times & warned all NO FOOD in room. But alas MIL still insist on eating in room loh
Also tried feeding the toddler in MY room loh...so I chased them out. But during my absence, who knows what happens....sigh.

DH told her off a few times also no use....either denied vehemently, claim only first time or tear lah. What can we do? NOTHING.

[janet88]

cwc:

bebe:

CWC - can sympathise you..that is why I told my man..dun ask yr mum to babysit nieces and nephew in MY house if they cannot follow my rules. I do not wanna set double standard for my own kids. MIL can let the other grandchildren do whatever they want at their own house, but at my place, they have to listen and abide my rules.

Well, if it's so easy good liao. Problem is MIL stays with me. Even MIL have trouble following basic rules eg. my room is parquet flooring so with years, there is gaps and since it's dark colored, hard to see ants. I have managed to cleared out all traces of ants a few times & warned all NO FOOD in room. But alas MIL still insist on eating in room loh
Also tried feeding the toddler in MY room loh...so I chased them out.

DH told her off a few times also no use....either denied vehemently, claim only first time or tear lah. What can we do? NOTHING.

That's the prob...want to be angel by offering free babysitting service but not in own house. Funny lah, why must feed in YOUR room ?

TEARS, DENIAL and ACTING...what else are they good at besides these 3 ?

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janet_lee88:

cwc:

[quote=\"bebe\"]CWC - can sympathise you..that is why I told my man..dun ask yr mum to babysit nieces and nephew in MY house if they cannot follow my rules. I do not wanna set double standard for my own kids. MIL can let the other grandchildren do whatever they want at their own house, but at my place, they have to listen and abide my rules.

Well, if it's so easy good liao. Problem is MIL stays with me. Even MIL have trouble following basic rules eg. my room is parquet flooring so with years, there is gaps and since it's dark colored, hard to see ants. I have managed to cleared out all traces of ants a few times & warned all NO FOOD in room. But alas MIL still insist on eating in room loh
Also tried feeding the toddler in MY room loh...so I chased them out.

DH told her off a few times also no use....either denied vehemently, claim only first time or tear lah. What can we do? NOTHING.

That's the prob...want to be angel by offering free babysitting service but not in own house. Funny lah, why must feed in YOUR room ?

TEARS, DENIAL and ACTING...what else are they good at besides these 3 ?[/quote]Somehow the toddler likes to come into MY room....新鲜感 probably? So come feeding time, bring bowl and chase after him lah. However, yesterday I did see them trying to feed outside, seated cos' I started commenting liao. But when he started to move, they allowed him.....I grabbed and held him on my lap, ON children DVD and got him rooted on my lap. Only released when he finished his food But of course he cooperated, if the boy was to struggle and cry, MIL will step in and I have to let go.

[janet88]

Hi cwc,

So the toddler is your BIL or SIL’s son ?
Not in your position, but can understand how frustrating it can be. If want to allow eating in the room, do it in your own house lah. I scream when I see my kids bringing cups into the room…even though it may be water, but if break the cup, have to vacuum and mop or else get cut.

[LOLMum]

i have seen some grandmums who are obviously above 60+ and yet has coloured hair (mind you, bright orange yellowish reddish), full make up, permed hair, bright red/orange lipsticks and wearing the loudest colour dresses and high heels. :salute: them because they bother to make an effort to look nice (sometimes in their opinion) and didnt limit themselves to dull coloured clothes like t-shirt, blouse and pants as many ladies their age do.


as i am always in t-shirt and jeans, hope to change my wardrobe cos i dont want to be wearing t-shirt and jeans when i am in my sixties.

[janet88]

LOLMum:

i have seen some grandmums who are obviously above 60+ and yet has coloured hair (mind you, bright orange yellowish reddish), full make up, permed hair, bright red/orange lipsticks and wearing the loudest colour dresses and high heels. :salute: them because they bother to make an effort to look nice (sometimes in their opinion) and didnt limit themselves to dull coloured clothes like t-shirt, blouse and pants as many ladies their age do.


as i am always in t-shirt and jeans, hope to change my wardrobe cos i dont want to be wearing t-shirt and jeans when i am in my sixties.

I hope to change my wardrobe when kids are bigger. I want to age gracefully.