In-law problems?

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cwc:

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Doing this while my MIL sitting here and yakking away and she did it while interrupting my DS who was asking me some work. CHAMPION!!!!

How you tahan all her yakking??

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cwc:

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Doing this while my MIL sitting here and yakking away and she did it while interrupting my DS who was asking me some work. CHAMPION!!!!

How you tahan all her yakking??

Behave like teens.....耳边风
I already have no solution, despite telling her off numerous times, simply ignore. Anyway, like DH says, she has very low EQ....think she quite used to it, her sons do it to her quite frequently. But just dun tell her off, that she'll get pissed and react more. I just kena last month.

[janet88]

Hi cwc,

It’s really hard to deal with a MIL with low EQ. If low IQ, it would be easier. At this point, I’m stressed with son’s exams and just couldn’t be bothered with the ‘package’ which just returned from US.

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janet_lee88:

Hi cwc,

It's really hard to deal with a MIL with low EQ. If low IQ, it would be easier. At this point, I'm stressed with son's exams and just couldn't be bothered with the 'package' which just returned from US.

Concentrate on son more important With so much training，wonder next time can we achieve 慧根, oh弥陀佛

[janet88]

cwc:

janet_lee88:

Hi cwc,

It's really hard to deal with a MIL with low EQ. If low IQ, it would be easier. At this point, I'm stressed with son's exams and just couldn't be bothered with the 'package' which just returned from US.

Concentrate on son more important With so much training，wonder next time can we achieve 慧根, oh弥陀佛

Son more important anytime...after all, it's her same old crap.

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janet_lee88:

Hi cwc,
2 of them cause enough problems...another maid added on means 3 sets of PROBLEMS. :?:

Hi Janet,
my 3rd set of problem has reached new level liao.....both are accusing each other more & more. Just yesterday, both dunno do what and made my DD cried while I was out. Then both keep trying to take me to a corner & whisper & blame each other. Xiong.

Today, basin stuck....straightaway MIL accused Maid never do good job last week & showed me her pail which was rather clear.....actually maid cleared a lot the other day, I witnessed. MIL rant and rant until DH stopped her. Then still curse and swear under her breath for quite a while....irritating.

Think at the rate it goes....it'll escalate soon. All my previous maid.....every time ~6 months they will start asking to quit.

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cwc, your tolerance level is very high. :salute:

[WeiHan]

cwc:

janet_lee88:

Hi cwc,
2 of them cause enough problems...another maid added on means 3 sets of PROBLEMS. :?:

Hi Janet,
my 3rd set of problem has reached new level liao.....both are accusing each other more & more. Just yesterday, both dunno do what and made my DD cried while I was out. Then both keep trying to take me to a corner & whisper & blame each other. Xiong.

Today, basin stuck....straightaway MIL accused Maid never do good job last week & showed me her pail which was rather clear.....actually maid cleared a lot the other day, I witnessed. MIL rant and rant until DH stopped her. Then still curse and swear under her breath for quite a while....irritating.

Think at the rate it goes....it'll escalate soon. All my previous maid.....every time ~6 months they will start asking to quit.

You have to understand the psychology. The old MIL may have the hidden fear that she is old and is no longer useful. She is just trying to prove otherwise. This could be manifested as picking faults with the maids etc.....I pity these elders that do not know how to direct their retired years to more meaningful actitivities. Alot have to do with the mindset (aka psychology). This also serve as an alarm to younger generation. Do we want to be like them when we get older?

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WeiHan:

You have to understand the psychology. The old MIL may have the hidden fear that she is old and is no longer useful. She is just trying to prove otherwise. This could be manifested as picking faults with the maids etc.....I pity these elders that do not know how to direct their retired years to more meaningful actitivities. Alot have to do with the mindset (aka psychology). This also serve as an alarm to younger generation. Do we want to be like them when we get older?

Ha ha, not sure if my old lady fear OR think too highly of herself To me she always think she is the best, cos not just maid, she interfere into my stuff too. Just that I refused to let her & DH told her off sometimes, so she no choice but to lessen. But sometimes, I do agree she's better ESP in chores aspect.

Sad to say, my feel is she's just being domineering & likes to interfere ..... to the extent she will try to stop DH & I from going nearby for breakfast on weekends as DH prefer noodles to bread at home. My only consolation is DH knows when she is too overboard & step in to stop her nonsense.

I do & have constantly remind myself not to end up with such behaviour. Hence need to have own interest & not focus entirely on my kids.

[janet88]

cwc:

janet_lee88:

Hi cwc,
2 of them cause enough problems...another maid added on means 3 sets of PROBLEMS. :?:

Today, basin stuck....straightaway MIL accused Maid never do good job last week & showed me her pail which was rather clear.....actually maid cleared a lot the other day, I witnessed. MIL rant and rant until DH stopped her. Then still curse and swear under her breath for quite a while....irritating.

Think at the rate it goes....it'll escalate soon. All my previous maid.....every time ~6 months they will start asking to quit.

Actually maids do not like to work in families where there are senior citizens around. As it is, getting a maid is hard enough...sometimes the maid gives problem, but others the grandmother is the cause. Fortunately, your hubby stepped in but it's hard to go on if your MIL continues.