Indonesian maid salary to be increased to $450???

[missbluey]

3Boys:

missbluey:

am i abit too ngiow over her off days? hmmm.

Personally, I think 1 day off every 3 months is a little thin. Even if her work isn't too heavy on the weekends, I'm sure she would like to go out and blow off some steam, manage personal affairs and meet friends. Imagine yourself cooped up with your boss for months on end, it can only lead to resentment. If you lay ground rules on behaviour, and you can spare her, I'd say 1-2 days off a month is fair, and perhaps weekly if you want to be generous.

weekly off is definitely out as what i see from her behaviour - her huay kar-ness turned me off.
hmm, any examples of ground rules? actually this is my first time hiring maid.
i need ideas, thanks!

[3Boys]

missbluey:

weekly off is definitely out as what i see from her behaviour - her huay kar-ness turned me off.
hmm, any examples of ground rules? actually this is my first time hiring maid.
i need ideas, thanks!

What is 'huay kar' ar?

No boyfriends, come back on time, be contactable. Basic stuff. Other things, have to go on faith..... I basically close one eye.

[missbluey]

3Boys:

missbluey:

weekly off is definitely out as what i see from her behaviour - her huay kar-ness turned me off.
hmm, any examples of ground rules? actually this is my first time hiring maid.
i need ideas, thanks!

What is 'huay kar' ar?

No boyfriends, come back on time, be contactable. Basic stuff. Other things, have to go on faith..... I basically close one eye.

huay kar (hokkien) is something like keep wanting to go out.

hmm, she is married with 3 boys. i asked is it because she has boyfriend outside, that's why want more off? her reaction was pretty big. :lol:

but hor she never came back on time leh. how ah?

[missbluey]

latest news: just now maid asked hubby whether she can go down (void deck) to celebrate another maid (few doors away from us) birthday. she left with my 2 boys @ about 12+ until about 2.30pm then returned!

1hr is fine with me, but she only moved her big butt WHEN hubby went down to call her go back & that was after don't know how many missed calls. hubby said if i were to see #2 face was like covered with cake and #1 was busy eating cake, i'd have scold her. now i feel like calling her hp and #$%^%$!&#. :x im so sure that she didn't make #1 nap so that she could enjoy the celebration.

how to give her more off days like that?!

sorry, i need to rant. :rant:

[gumiho]

missbluey:

latest news: just now maid asked hubby whether she can go down (void deck) to celebrate another maid (few doors away from us) birthday. she left with my 2 boys @ about 12+ until about 2.30pm then returned!

1hr is fine with me, but she only moved her big butt WHEN hubby went down to call her go back & that was after don't know how many missed calls. hubby said if i were to see #2 face was like covered with cake and #1 was busy eating cake, i'd have scold her. now i feel like calling her hp and #$%^%$!&#. :x im so sure that she didn't make #1 nap so that she could enjoy the celebration.

how to give her more off days like that?!

sorry, i need to rant. :rant:

If I were you, I would had send her packing.
I cannot stand her attitude and behaviour.

[3Boys]

missbluey:

huay kar (hokkien) is something like keep wanting to go out.

hmm, she is married with 3 boys. i asked is it because she has boyfriend outside, that's why want more off? her reaction was pretty big. :lol:

but hor she never came back on time leh. how ah?

Its a bit of chicken and egg. The more you want to constrain her, the more she will want to push the boundaries. If it comes down to a contest of wills, obviously you, as the employer, will prevail. Again, my opinion only, put yourself in her shoes, how would you feel if all you got to do was step out of the flat once every 3 months? Its hard to imagine because you go to work, do groceries and the like. So every small little bite at the cherry, she will want to prolong 'coz the next occasion is months away. If there is some predictability to it and some generosity, her reaction may surprise you. What have you to lose to try it for a couple of months? At worst, just reign back.

My sincere opinion only hor, don't take as preaching please.

[missbluey]

re: yesterday drama

both hubby & i had talked to her nicely last night. i told her i don't like her friends carrying my #2. she can go down to celebrate her friends' bday but don't go down too long, max 1hr.
as for her off, hers will be 2mths 1 off & said she has to reach home on the dot.

3boys,
appreciate your opinion.

but hor she really buey zi dong to go back on time & i simply dislikes it. i seriously think she has no time management.

[3Boys]

missbluey:

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3boys,
appreciate your opinion. |

You are most welcome. I hope it works out well for both of you.

[Littlefly]

missbluey:

hmm, any examples of ground rules? actually this is my first time hiring maid.

i need ideas, thanks!

Have you managed to find any? I referred to Tamarind's blog here for ideas and developed one set for my maid
http://singaporemaidinfo.blogspot.com/2008/11/house-rules-by-tamarind.html

[Littlefly]

tannggy:

mine start 380 with 2 sundays off from oct 2010. since jan, attend sunday class (indo system- high school), now off every sunday 11.00-6.00pm.
but felt maid not appreciative of this freedom. now day in day out thinkg of her study. and she had unlearnt my 6 mths training. :rant:
so busy/lazy that she throw her sweets, biscuits wrappers in the drawer in her own room, spread 2 packets of mothballs under the mattress, in the drawers (tellme smell nice) :stupid: warn her that if i can still find wrappers thrown in the drawers, i will take back the room and she can sleep in the living room. i had spend $100 for pest control to chase the cocroach before this findings.
(my family of 5, youngest 8yrs old)
this am, saw her reading her old contract, haiz, learning her rights, want to give up and be maidless.
:x i work long hours to pay for housing n i dont get to enjoy the house. and have a maid to drive me up the wall :rant:

Did you pay for your maid's course or she pay herself ? does she get a day off every week in her contract already ? if not, then she really not appreciate. Maybe better to let her go if she wants to... rather risking pests breeding in your house! :!: