So angry, be warn, this is a rant session

[SAHM_TAN]

Laughing:

Are we getting more bully in school these days? My DD just told me that her classmate had been saying to her lately \"I don't want to see you face anymore!\"

Think kids watching adult drama series is not helping too. The language used by the actors are quite harsh. Now I only let them watching kiddie shows

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cwc:

Thanks Insider for your sharing and advice. I specially took lunch to DD just now (1st time this year), just so that I know if she managed to 'contribute' today. She smiled and din say much....well, seems a good sign. Will only get more details this evening. Hope all turns well for future too.

Hi Insider,
DD came home and seemed pleased cos' she managed to help out during recess (tho complaint of hunger cos she has to forgo recess). However, she has no idea if the whole issue is resolved cos' L totally ignored DD despite her effort to try speaking to her. It's back to the early days when L accused her of 'leeching' on another girl\".
Anyway, DD commented that L gave some instructions and when the rest queried, she said \"Can all of you dun ask so much, just LISTEN TO ME!!!\"......hmmmm......

Anyway, shall let it rest. Told DD to inform me if her name is taken out...will then go straight to Teacher for help. Really hope I dun have to and hope L will stop making unfair statements about DD. The price to pay to go to a more competitive school? Sigh.

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SAHM_TAN:

Laughing:

Are we getting more bully in school these days? My DD just told me that her classmate had been saying to her lately \"I don't want to see you face anymore!\"

Think kids watching adult drama series is not helping too. The language used by the actors are quite harsh. Now I only let them watching kiddie shows

Dun :clubmyself: me. Sometimes, our own behaviour and attitude could be sending the wrong teachings/signals to our children. Generally, kids are a reflection of the parents
The L mentioned in my posting....
when I first saw the mom in a sch event, I was like \"gosh\" (but I din know who she was)
When DD told me about L, I was like \"hmmmm\" (yet to meet L)
When I finally met both L and her mom together, I went \"now I see....no wonder.....\"

[SAHM_TAN]

cwc:

SAHM_TAN:

[quote=\"Laughing\"]Are we getting more bully in school these days? My DD just told me that her classmate had been saying to her lately \"I don't want to see you face anymore!\"

Think kids watching adult drama series is not helping too. The language used by the actors are quite harsh. Now I only let them watching kiddie shows

Dun :clubmyself: me. Sometimes, our own behaviour and attitude could be sending the wrong teachings/signals to our children. Generally, kids are a reflection of the parents
The L mentioned in my posting....
when I first saw the mom in a sch event, I was like \"gosh\" (but I din know who she was)
When DD told me about L, I was like \"hmmmm\" (yet to meet L)
When I finally met both L and her mom together, I went \"now I see....no wonder.....\" :|[/quote]That is true to an extent. I've also know of cases whereby child and parents are like cheese and chalk. There are so many factors..........

[Faun]

Do you think we sometimes blow things out of proportion because we were not at the scene of the problem? We just hear from what our child tells us but perhaps it is not as bad as we think it might have been.


This happens to me sometimes. I don’t like to see my child feel hurt too. But I try my very best to control myself and not judge too much.

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Faun:

Do you think we sometimes blow things out of proportion because we were not at the scene of the problem? We just hear from what our child tells us but perhaps it is not as bad as we think it might have been.


This happens to me sometimes. I don't like to see my child feel hurt too. But I try my very best to control myself and not judge too much.

Hi Faun,
If DD comes complaining to me, I'll generally try to analyse the situation, console her and ask her to just ignore and let go. Which isn't often cos' she's quite happy-go-lucky kind....you can call blur too.
However, in this case, it was another mommy whom I knew got concerned and feedback to me (her DD will tell her about what happened in sch & comments/complain) And that's how I got to know and started asking DD about the situation. DD was so blur that she's not even aware of it until I started asking a lot about the project. TO her, it's ok....that gal has been behaving that way to her (ignore most of the times and on a few occasions, nice). I would have totally ignored it if not for the fact that that GAL is trying to omit DD's name from the project, which I thot was not right nor fair. Guess, depending on situation, we may have to intervene esp. when the child is the blur kind.

[jedamum]

My ds2 almost got into a fight today. I was outside the playroom and could not hear the conversation going on inside. First that boy threw a plastic ball at my ds2 (not those type of ‘catch’ game). It caught my attention but because ds2 was smiling, I guessed they must be playing. Then after the boys ran around the room for a while, I noticed ds2’s expression changed. Then I saw that boy pinching ds2 - a quick pinch. I stood up but waited to see how ds2 would react. He pushed the boy and the boy pushed back and then ds2 raised his fist, I rushed into the room. I scolded ds2 that he should not push people. Then I asked that boy why he pinched ds2. I asked him twice and he kept quiet. Knowing that he (ds2) was in trouble, he wanted me to leave the playroom, and I did. The two did not play together thereafter although ds2 was clearly still in distress (I could see from the glass panelled wall. After a while, he came out sobbing and I asked him why he got into a fight and he gave me ridiculous reasons. After explaining and getting him to promise never to do it again, he hooked my finger and begged me not to tell the dad. Then he went back to play. I was still contemplating whether to confront that boy’s mother for the pinching incident, but dismissed it after seeing that both boys played together again after a while.

That boy looks (size and maturity) like a lower/mid pri student (he was carrying a iphone around). My ds2 is only in K1.

[Chenonceau]

jedamum… what a poised and controlled response.

[Faun]

cwc:

However, in this case, it was another mommy whom I knew got concerned and feedback to me (her DD will tell her about what happened in sch & comments/complain) And that's how I got to know and started asking DD about the situation. DD was so blur that she's not even aware of it until I started asking a lot about the project. TO her, it's ok....that gal has been behaving that way to her (ignore most of the times and on a few occasions, nice). I would have totally ignored it if not for the fact that that GAL is trying to omit DD's name from the project, which I thot was not right nor fair. Guess, depending on situation, we may have to intervene esp. when the child is the blur kind.

Hi CWC,

You know how sometimes stories get peppered along as they travel from one person to another. Do you think the 3rd party you hear from has her own agenda or just trying
to help? Sorry to doubt your friend but sometimes I think friends can help us in the wrong way too.

I think whether the group has authority to kick your dd out of team, it's for teacher to decide. You may want to intervene but sometimes it can appear petty as parents are not directly involve in the project, so it's going to be a lot of 'She says, I say, They say'. No hard evidence. If your dd is in this group only for this project. You may want to consider to wait the situation out. It will pass. DD can also have a chance to work things out herself. What don't break her will make her. There are more projects to come.

About that girl blowing hot and cold in her friendship with your dd, it's pretty normal for gals that age. My dd just got dumped by her best friend 2 weeks ago. She was hurt and confused. Like you, I analyzed the problem with her. DD concludes that it's not her fault. That friend was just getting b****y. Yes a lot of girls get b****y P5 onwards. Got to do with hormones, mood swings, stress I guess. I took the opportunity to remind her to nurture herself as her No.1 best friend so she will never be lonely. Friends come and go but you are always there for yourself. I think they call this intra-personal skills.

[Faun]

jedamum,


My ds once had a big quarrel with his best friend in the computer room. It was so bad both of them were screaming at each other. Form teacher punished them to stay back in school until 2 pm with big lecture.

Ha ha. The next day, the two were playing like nothing happened the day before. That’s what I like about boys, they forgive and forget very fast. For girls, aye… a lot of sulking. Hell knows no fury like a woman’s wrath :x