Throwing Tantrum

[Oppsgal]

My toddler also same, but still young, think cannot express. When water pen runs out water, the next thing will have a flying pen towards me. :roll: I will try made my kid say sorry.

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In some schools, there is a counsellor who conducts anger management classes for selected group of students. Parents can check with the form teacher if there is such programme.

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HoSayLiao:

Frankly speaking, if the child dares to throw temper at his mother, one tight slap across the face will do the trick. He must also not be allowed to eat dinner. Lock him out of the house for him to repent. This is to let him learn what will happen when he dares to be rude and ungrateful.


PAP also like that mah. No upgrading if u vote wrongly. 5 years to repent.

Politically incorrect but effective. But first do determine if he has psyco problems/ ADHD etc which he is unable to control and need assistance. If determine to be normal, a slap is effective and quick and cheap to correct the behaviour.

[beardpapa80]

WCW:

think there is some classes for the child to attend to control their temper, i read it somewhere, just cant recall...

i think i read that in last night's or the day's before chinese wan bao/xin ming. they have some classes on emotion/temper management for kids :scared:

[poppy15]

HoSayLiao:

Frankly speaking, if the child dares to throw temper at his mother, one tight slap across the face will do the trick. He must also not be allowed to eat dinner. Lock him out of the house for him to repent. This is to let him learn what will happen when he dares to be rude and ungrateful.


PAP also like that mah. No upgrading if u vote wrongly. 5 years to repent.

wow, hosayliao, u very fierce leh :laugh:

beardpapa80, sometimes anger management got to be deal back with anger as well.

hv u tried shouting back at him saying : DO U THINK WHAT U HV JUST DONE IS CORRECT??? ARE U SUPPOSE TO SHOUT AT ME?

then get him to go to his room now & think abt it.

will the above method work?

[poppy15]

WCW:

poppy15:

[quote=\"HoSayLiao\"]Frankly speaking, if the child dares to throw temper at his mother, one tight slap across the face will do the trick. He must also not be allowed to eat dinner. Lock him out of the house for him to repent. This is to let him learn what will happen when he dares to be rude and ungrateful.


PAP also like that mah. No upgrading if u vote wrongly. 5 years to repent.

wow, hosayliao, u very fierce leh :laugh:

beardpapa80, sometimes anger management got to be deal back with anger as well.

hv u tried shouting back at him saying : DO U THINK WHAT U HV JUST DONE IS CORRECT??? ARE U SUPPOSE TO SHOUT AT ME?

then get him to go to his room now & think abt it.

will the above method work?

u will only get \"World War 3\" as children nowadays dare to talk back[/quote]i thought maybe can use the reverse psychology on them. they shout we shout, they cry we cry, they smile we also smile.... :oops:

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smurf:

I dun think it's his school friends that influence him, coz his hot temper was not develop recently, it's months and months ago.


If he shouted at me, I can tolerate him for first few times, but after 3 times, my patience worn out, then I will scold him or take away his privileges. But I believe that he has a problem managing his temper and emotion. I think he doesn't know how to handle them. He is very affectionate. Sometimes, when I hugged him, he will cry with emotion. If I asked him why he cried, his answer would be \"dunno\". That led me to think that he still doesn't know how to handle his emotion.

If he watch a very emotional show between a mother and a child, he will sometimes smile at me, I dunno why. But when he is angry, he will not hold back, he will shout with anger.

smurf,
no great advice to give, but to be honest, not knowing how to handle emotions sound like a very normal growing up stage to me. Many adults are still like that. The difference between the past and now is the kids today dare to show their emotions, whereas during our times, we were scolded for it.

After talking to other mothers with older children, grandmothers and reading some books, my conclusions are learning how to manage emotions is part of growing up.

We can introduce some ways of controlling emotions while still validating the emotions. E.g \"I understand you are angry, I will be too! But just because you are angry doesn't mean you can throw things. What if everyone does the same??\" You can underline this in daily life by giving real-life examples of what happens when someone controls his emotions, and someone doesn't. (many examples in the newspaper.) So basically, introduce anger management as a SKILL. It's not something that we are born with, but rather, learnt. Whenever he IS able to control his anger, praise him immediately and show some verbal appreciation, and maybe like, \"I can see you are really growing up to be a fine boy!\" So, lots of validation for appropriate response and self-control.

I also get my children to rephrase. eg the glue incident. It will anger me and I will tell him so sternly. I will then tell him it is a perfectly good point, but the way he told me was not acceptable. There are many ways to say the same thing, some better than others, and he could have told me in a nicer milder way,\"What about the glue? It's not dry yet\" which would make the whole incident a non-issue.

Try this consistently for a few months. At the same time, make sure your child is well-rested and well fed. Kids are always more prone to outbursts when they are tired, hungry or overwhelmed. If you think your child is already in the throes of emotions, use something to bring him back to reason. For my children a small snack always work.

[poppy15]

WCW:

sometimes i have to say a firm NO then DS will do the opposite haiz... really must know how to read his mind though, no wonder i am having more white hair :sad:

uh-oh, i donch know how to handle my own emotions too
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[puff]

Our family motto:

\"Dun do things you dun like others to do to you\"

[Oppsgal]

So next time my kid throw empty water pen at me, I throw back and scream like the toddler?


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