Myanmar maids

[yanyan]

My maid will need to help out in looking DD here and there…my mum will be around la…hire this maid is solely to do hsework…but i know my mum…sometimes she is "lazy" or need a break…she sometimes may outsource DD to maid (if she knw she can depend on her). BUt the thing is I dun trust the maid esp she’s juz a 16 yo! How can she handle a todd if my gal were to throw tantrum…


This is actually not a new prob…when i juz give birth…my mum is particularly close to a neighbour…so when i leave my gal to her after my ML…i know sometimes my mum will put my gal to the neighbour (which i absolutely hate coz she has 4 kids on her own and i dun really like their behaviour…dun want my gal to imitate => which she already does some and i am still trying to correct her) I did tell my mum off but her reason to me is she is too tired juggling between hsework and an active todd… That is the reason why I hire a maid! But now…haiz…that’s y i know if my mum feel comfy with maid ard…she may outsource my gal to her…BUT a 16 yo may be able to handle hsework…Handle an active todd / when she throw tantrum…Def NO NO…doubt she can handle…

Anw…i told my mum since a maid is here…her job is mainly hsework…and my mum’s job is to handle my gal…Hopefully my mum will listen…

Haiz…sometimes i do feel that…i may have less of these problems if i decided to put her to a cc instead of passing to my mum…one of the major prob of letting grdparents take care…is they really spoil her… my dad even let my gal climb the bed bunk… and even told me jokingly say my gal is strong…I am fuming mad when i heard it… I scold him and say he dun know wat is called dangerous?? why let her climb… WL…really mad manz… I am lucky to have family support in terms of taking care of my gal…But sometimes too much support may not be good too…

Sorry abt this post… I need to rant!!!

[bigsnoopy]

No worries! I have been through pretty much wat you are experiencing. I took the cc way. I know being the only grandchild, they are going to spoil her. Maybe u need to let ur mom know that the maid is only 16 and there is no way a child can look after another child. If it really doesn’t work out, then cc might be the only option. Better be safe than sorry. I am also paranoid over maid looking after my DD. I don’t allow my DD to interact too much with the maid as my DD will throw tantrum (only child problem) to her. Children are smart and they know who they can bully. One of them is the maid.

[yanyan]

bigsnoopy:

No worries! I have been through pretty much wat you are experiencing. I took the cc way. I know being the only grandchild, they are going to spoil her. Maybe u need to let ur mom know that the maid is only 16 and there is no way a child can look after another child. If it really doesn't work out, then cc might be the only option. Better be safe than sorry. I am also paranoid over maid looking after my DD. I don't allow my DD to interact too much with the maid as my DD will throw tantrum (only child problem) to her. Children are smart and they know who they can bully. One of them is the maid.

Yes...in actual fact..from start i do wanna go the cc way..but my dad is faster than me in the sense tat b4 i announce any decision on care-taking..my dad say let them take care of my bb..so I in a way LL...i spoil my parents also so dun want to upset them..so juz let them take care..but after i give birth..i regretted it immediately.. Yes..i am paranoid too..and when i am home with DD..i do not allow them to interact much..give instructions to do hsework..DD i take care myself..but when i call my mum for past two days..my mum is trying to get DD used to maid..but DD refused..juz stick to my mum (hopefully stay this way) and Yes..children are real smart..my dd already start bullying my maid on 1st day..i change her diaper..ask her to throw (usu she will walk to dustbin and throw) instead..she pass to maid.. i am speechless! :yikes:

[moonee]

yanyan:

today my parents gave me a shock...i left my 3-day old maid with my parents as i need to go for a biz trip... my parents this morning ask her how old she is...she say she 24 to my mum...say 25 to my dad...my dad test her further ask her wat year she born...she say 1995 (which is 16 years old!) my mum say no wonder! she dun look 24/25..look less than 20 years old! OMG..is she that young? her passport / wp / agent all say she born in 1985...

Nothing new! The indons and mynmar agents are responsible for this, their ages are normally inflated. The maids are taught to say they are 23 or they will be reported to the police. MOM requires the maid to be 23 b4 they can enter sg thats why. My first mynmar was 38 but she looked young and her passport states 29. The 2nd tol me she is 21 but her passport states 25, my third mynmar is only 19.
Only the filipinas ages are quite correct but not their height especially if they are short.
I suggest you call yr agent and c what he says. He will probably tell you that they rely on info given by the agent in mynmar and they dnt get to c the girl. :nailbite:
Actually we are employing children to look after children and paying high salary for them to :lol: MOM knows their ages are incorrect but still issue w/p. :evil:

[yanyan]

moonee:

Nothing new! The indons and mynmar agents are responsible for this, their ages are normally inflated. The maids are taught to say they are 23 or they will be reported to the police. MOM requires the maid to be 23 b4 they can enter sg thats why. My first mynmar was 38 but she looked young and her passport states 29. The 2nd tol me she is 21 but her passport states 25, my third mynmar is only 19.
Only the filipinas ages are quite correct but not their height especially if they are short.
I suggest you call yr agent and c what he says. He will probably tell you that they rely on info given by the agent in mynmar and they dnt get to c the girl. :nailbite:
Actually we are employing children to look after children and paying high salary for them to :lol: MOM knows their ages are incorrect but still issue w/p. :evil:

Yes lo..haiz...i ask agent before when i am gg thru the bios..coz some of the photos really look super young..but bios state they 27/28...agent already say they juz rely on what was given by the agent from myanmar...

So for ur 3rd maid who is juz 19...is everyting ok? u still keep her after u know she's juz 19?

[bigsnoopy]

I thinks young maids are only good for house work and not taking care of very young children. I think you should have a really good talk with ur mom when you get home to settle this issue. If not cannot concentrate to work. Haiz I know that feeling.

[fifiyeo]

bigsnoopy:

fifiyeo:

My maid used to call my 6yr old boy \"Mess\" and he was so upset. His name is Max but we sometimes call him Maxi. My boy tried so hard to teach her for over a year and still it was \"Mess\" or \"Messy\"! :slapshead:


I was called \"Mehh\" sounds like a horse!

Whenever I corrected her, she either ignored me or insisted that was what its called in her language. :stupid:

I make my maid repeat the correct word over and over again until she get it right. Lucky my maid did not insisted that was what its called in her language. If not I will tell her this is Singapore not myanmar. So you don't speak your own language.

I told mine that too but she still walks with her nose held high up. Pride is the result of her refusing to learn and learning nothing!

[bigsnoopy]

Fifiyeo- what happen next? You sent her home?

[fifiyeo]

No, I tried not to send her packing 'cos her passport was less than 2 years (22 months) when I took her in. I knew she would have a hard time finding another employer even though agent suggested that I get a replacement as they couldn't talk sense into her thick skull after I complained.


So as she ignored me, I had to ignored her too. She refused to learn English and therefore I couldn't take her out with us. If she wanted to go shopping, I had to take her and babysit her while the kids were in school. She damaged a lot of things but never felt that she was wrong. Sometimes even answering back. Whenever I opened my mouth to give instructions, she would open hers at the same time trying to shut me off. :mad:

Then about 1 year 5 months into the job, 2 weeks after I took her for medical check-up, she demanded that I make immediate arrangements for her to return home. Agent asked her to stay until a new maid comes in and she simply refused. Reason - She was intending to pay for her own ticket home so why can't she leave whenever she wanted to!! :stupid:

So I was suddenly without a maid. School was going to re-open in 5 days and my younger boy was starting P1. I had to push back getting a new maid and after awhile I got use to the housework with the help of robot vacuums etc. and so I am now maidless and happy! :please:

Guess what, when I brought her to the agent for her \"goodbye\" trip....her eyes suddenly turned red when I was going off. She said that we had treated her well and she was wrong! :slapshead: Really don't understand her but if sure didn't pay to be nice. I can't imagine having to tolerate another maid again.

[bigsnoopy]

Oh! I didn’t know there is so much problems with Burmese maids. How did you manage without maid? Did you hire part time ones? Have been thinking about it quite often especially now with govt intending to give compulsory off days to maid. If the off days kick in, then I think I might not employ one. Maids without off days alrdy giving so much problem.