Club SAHM

[smartmummy]

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[LeeTaiTai]

Hi I am a ftwm , I just had a pair of twin girls and a 4 hr old. Thinking if I should quit my job to be a sahm buut hubby seems to prefer I work as he feels try to work while I can or until until the kids realli need me to take care ( now maid and mum). I feel I have missed out so much on my #1 progress and is worry if I don spend time with her , she will be closer to my mum in future. She gets jealous cos of her meimei and always threaten to go back my mums place over the weekend . I feel sad when she does that as she used to be closed to me , can't imagine how much time I will have for her once I start work

[smartmummy]

LeeTaiTai:

Hi I am a ftwm , I just had a pair of twin girls and a 4 hr old. Thinking if I should quit my job to be a sahm buut hubby seems to prefer I work as he feels try to work while I can or until until the kids realli need me to take care ( now maid and mum). I feel I have missed out so much on my #1 progress and is worry if I don spend time with her , she will be closer to my mum in future. She gets jealous cos of her meimei and always threaten to go back my mums place over the weekend . I feel sad when she does that as she used to be closed to me , can't imagine how much time I will have for her once I start work

We need a lot of time to spend with them.Yeah I also felt the same way when i was working,I and my DD2 was watching TV,She went and ask my mom(sleeping) milk for her.She didn't ask me.Its seem to me she close to her.Its important they close to us.Otherwise they never listen to us.Grandmas don't know how to discipine them.So I decided to quit the job.For me I need children discipline and studies important.So I decided to SAHM.You think which is your first priority.

[smartmummy]

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[mummy of 2]

Good morning smartmummy

[Angelight]

There is a price to pay for being a SAHM, and that is having to live on a single income, no fancy vacations or restaurant dining and sometimes even a lack of social life. But to me, it's all worth it cos I never missed a single milestone of my child's development. And she is very close to me, physically and emotionally. So it depends on what your priority is. Just don't regret your choice cos you can never turn back the clock.

LeeTaiTai:

Hi I am a ftwm , I just had a pair of twin girls and a 4 hr old. Thinking if I should quit my job to be a sahm buut hubby seems to prefer I work as he feels try to work while I can or until until the kids realli need me to take care ( now maid and mum). I feel I have missed out so much on my #1 progress and is worry if I don spend time with her , she will be closer to my mum in future. She gets jealous cos of her meimei and always threaten to go back my mums place over the weekend . I feel sad when she does that as she used to be closed to me , can't imagine how much time I will have for her once I start work

[SAHM_TAN]

LeeTaiTai:

Hi I am a ftwm , I just had a pair of twin girls and a 4 hr old. Thinking if I should quit my job to be a sahm buut hubby seems to prefer I work as he feels try to work while I can or until until the kids realli need me to take care ( now maid and mum). I feel I have missed out so much on my #1 progress and is worry if I don spend time with her , she will be closer to my mum in future. She gets jealous cos of her meimei and always threaten to go back my mums place over the weekend . I feel sad when she does that as she used to be closed to me , can't imagine how much time I will have for her once I start work

I can understand your feelings, becos my DD1 was very close to my mil when I was working.

As the kids grow older, there will be more expenses, so have to take everything into consideration before you take the step to be a SAHM. It's important to have your DH's support if you want to be a SAHM.

There's a book titled: Siblings without rivalry: how to help your children live together so you can live too / Adele Faber & Elaine Mazlish. You can check it out in the public library.

I think as a FTWM, you can still spend time with your kids. I think the difficult task is to keep the wkends free, so that you have time with the kids, and the kids' time are not taken up with enrichment classes.

In the meantime, you could arrange some alone time with your DD1, like take her shopping, outing, etc. After the birth of my DD2, my DS felt a bit left out and would request for hugs, to carry him and such. Sometimes I would cradle him like a baby to let him know that mummy still love him For DD1, it's hug and to do things together like cooking. At night, I try to have bedtime storybook reading with them, a chance for them to cuddle up with me

You could also visit the FTWM club to find out how they balance work and kids

I don't think there's a one best arrangement. It really depends on individual.

:hugs:

[LeeTaiTai]

Thanks all , yes I will consider carefully , sometimes feel a bit stress out and will cry quietly in my room when I feel I am not doing enough , wish I have the energy to do more !

[SAHM_TAN]

LeeTaiTai:

Thanks all , yes I will consider carefully , sometimes feel a bit stress out and will cry quietly in my room when I feel I am not doing enough , wish I have the energy to do more !

:hugs:

Your love is really enough for them, the rest are just icing on the cake