Advice - Divorce or Not to Divorce

[3Boys]

sall:

Having grown up in a #$%^* family, I always wonder why my mum did not have the courage to divorce that bas#*@# who treated her and us so badly. Some people said that for the sake of the children, a couple should not divorce. But from my personal experience, my mum and her children will be much better off if she could muster the courage to divorce her husband. If the wife really cares about her kids, she should protect herself and her kids by getting a divorce, especially if his attitude gets from bad to worse. Some men are beyond hope, no amount of counselling will help.

We suffered so many years under the tyrancy of that ba$%#8d. My mum is still suffering now.
Please don't get me wrong, I'm not promoting divorce, but if things are very very bad, divorce seems to be the wisest option.

That's sad to hear. Certainly a marriage require both partners to work at it, if one partner does not care, then better to separate, as you say.

[Dark Hope]

Hi smartmummy


i didn't received your PM.

smartmummy:

Hi Dark Hope!
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[smartmummy]

Dark Hope:

Hi smartmummy


i didn't received your PM.

smartmummy:

Hi Dark Hope!
I have PM to you.Pleace check ur inbox

Oh! what happend to my pm?Is any technical fault.
Anyway I send again.Sorry for the incident.
Thanks for telling me.
May be you have got from concern_parent.I have changed my name recently.
That time I was new to the forum,may be I did wrongly :?

[Dad42]

LLK:

philipsteele:

i absolutely against the divorce,life is only one time so enjoy the life with family.

I have a female colleague who was known to have slept with different men for years and I heard she has divorced recently. For her case. divorce is fair to her husband. In fact, I think she should divorce much earlier.

Why did she want ot get marry in the first place when she still want to sleep around? To get maintainence fee from ex-hubby?

[smartmummy]

LLK:

philipsteele:

i absolutely against the divorce,life is only one time so enjoy the life with family.

I have a female colleague who was known to have slept with different men for years and I heard she has divorced recently. For her case. divorce is fair to her husband. In fact, I think she should divorce much earlier.

:rotflmao: :rotflmao:

[smartmummy]

philipsteele:

i absolutely against the divorce,life is only one time so enjoy the life with family.

:hi5: i am in the same boat.

but need two hand to clap!

[bigsnoopy]

Reading the post here sound very familiar to me. Not to divorce because kids are still small. I have a friend whose DH had 2 other women (who had his children) but my friend did not divorce him as she got 4 children in primary school.

[Dad42]

smartmummy:

philipsteele:

i absolutely against the divorce,life is only one time so enjoy the life with family.

:hi5: i am in the same boat.

but need two hand to clap!

Not everyone is so fortunate to be happily married. Some may marry to get out of the house, some may marry for money. Some may sweet talk into married. Some may still want a clubbing nightlife. Some attention seeker may still want guys to 'sweettalk' them after married. Some may marry because they don't want to lose the HDB deposit. There are many reason why divorce happen and it may be beyond your control.

[sall]

philipsteele:

i absolutely against the divorce,life is only one time so enjoy the life with family.

For philipsteele, I'm sure you have a very happy marriage. But you also have to consider many people, whether man/woman who are suffering because they are in an unhappy marriage. Their children suffer a lot too. Some spouse can be abusive, if that's the case, are you still against the divorce.

[sall]

bigsnoopy:

Reading the post here sound very familiar to me. Not to divorce because kids are still small. I have a friend whose DH had 2 other women (who had his children) but my friend did not divorce him as she got 4 children in primary school.

Some women choose to close their eyes because even though their DH have affairs, he still treats them well and provide for them and their children. So if they chose to ignore this, they can still lead a comfortable life.
I know a lady who has 3 kids, her DH is doing very well, provides and treats the family very well. But he's keeping a woman outside, this lady knows and chooses to ignore it. Maybe because she's dependent on him and also she's not young and no longer attractive, so she has to ignore the affair in order to continue her comfortable life.