Club SAHM

[terry]

buds:

terry:

i oso cannot cook. i love to watch cooking shows, they make it look so damn easy! i love jamie oliver and nigella's kitchen. i have many cookbooks, always telling myself..one day..


smtimes, i really did make it to the supermarket to buy ingredients with a list. then will always fail to find a certain ingredient/herb or whatever, then will gv up, complain say singapore cannot make it, always no fresh ingredients like in Australia..so hw to be like jamie oliver!?

my mum used to cook frm stratch,eg assam fish. but nw she oso play cheat, will buy pre package sauces n stock. itz quite convenient actually..once a while i shop in NTUC and realise wah! so many food nw comes pre package..i can oso cook like chef! but i do worry abt the MSG content tho.

last time when ds was starting solids, i very hardworking will cook for him only. Follow recipe books like annabel karmel. but my sis always look at the food and say look so yucky,pity my ds must eat wat i cook.

aw, the gist is i CANNOT cook well enough for my hb to depend on me 3meals aday. i make my mum teach the maid hw to cook simple dish. so nw maid will cook for ds and me. when my hb ard we usually eat out to gv me a break frm maid's cooking.

buds is asking me what i do evday...i very shy to say leh :oops: ,sure kena stone here. Btw, im NOT a tai tai ok? i do my fair share of hsework even with maid. im juz very blessed in many ways. i will share next time.

Actually, i think you are a tai-tai. But will wait for more juicy details. :rubhands:

But seriously tho, you are already blessed in many different ways from how i see it in this just one post.

Pssst.. by the way.. i cook mostly from scratch.

my hb dun do hsework. im happy if he doesnt make mre mess for me to clean. initially, he wun even bring his plate to the kitchen after meals.juz leave on the table for me to clear. i do once,twice, then fedup. i told him,im also working same job as you(last time). if u tired, im also tired. juz bcos im woman,i gotta do hsework? the world is unfair, so in my world, im gg to make it fair. if ur mum or ex-gf treated u like king, then itz gg to chg..

he noes his ds is hard to handle..very active and time consuming to teach. he also noe b4 we got married tat im not the hsewife type to cook,clean and jaga kids. i din want kids cos i noe he's not the family type. he persuaded me and when itz edvident nothg will chg.i told him i cant do it without his help and if he dun wanna do his fair share then get me some help. all these yrs, i alrdy think thru..it doesnt make sense for him to splurge and for me to tolerate/save for him..like making life miserable for myself. wat for?

he's got a gd life,so did i b4 i married and quit to have kids. dun get me wrong, im not born rich. i worked hard to earn my own $. nw i juz wanna concentrate on my kids and not slog like ahorse,no time with my bbs..really no time for them and makes me feel so lousy. i wanna make up for lost time. so nw i really spend my time with my ds,i missed 3 precious yrs of his life doing smthg i detest. i wanted to escape into my son's world,juz the 2 of us, to get to noe him like a mother shd. im so sick of all the politics and backstabbing in the working world. with my child, evthg is so pure and innocent. black and white ,no grey shades in between.

so tats the trade off with my hb..u not ard, then employ maid to help so i can spend time with my boy. tatz all i ask frm him.

in tat way, im blessed with a hb who understands my way of thinking. maybe other man will think of me as selfish or tyrant. he accepts me as i am. :imanangel:

as for maid,im also blessed with sm1 patient. not fantastic, not gd, juz patient with my son. she's with me for 3yrs, so she noes my son's routine and she recently extended another yr, so i can focuse on my NB.
alot of thgs i really close 2 eyes. no pt getting worked up..

so far im still adjusting to life as a sahm.. :xedfingers: and its great to read abt others in this thread..abit like watching reality tv.

[buds]

Err I dun think SPCA was established yet. :scared:

[Happy Mama]

buds:

I remember playing in those huge drains... Canals... Scooping up tadpoles and BBQ-ing them over fire on a stick.

:yikes: Buds, you BBQed tadpoles?
So were they delicious? :evil: :laugh: :siam:

[BeContented]

autumnbronze:

cwc, chanced upon your post here .....

:salute: and :hugs: to you ....

Hi Autumnbronze,
thanks.....but sometimes, feel really really :gloomy: , the MIL is no joke and neither is FIL. Recently, he has turned bad tempered, would shove his plates/bowl/food and spit his phelgm everywhere or onto his hand and just fling!!! I really dunno how much can I tolerate and MIL is just making things worse with her yells and scoldings (can't touch me too much....so she'll go after the maid loh....but I get angry cos' I think she's being ridiculous and I can't stand all the yellings. For goodness sake, this is my home, it's supposed to be quiet and peaceful :mad: :stompfeet: )

Sorry, guess a little off topic and upset now....cos' just had another encounter with her....no matter how happy I was, step into house will get fedup.

How is your little one? Actually just went to a 1-month celebration of a friend.....holding a baby is always so peaceful (that is when they are sleeping ).

[Champion]

cwc:

, the MIL is no joke and neither is FIL. Recently, he has turned bad tempered, would shove his plates/bowl/food and spit his phelgm everywhere or onto his hand and just fling!!! I really dunno how much can I tolerate and MIL is just making things worse with her yells and scoldings (can't touch me too much....so she'll go after the maid loh....but I get angry cos' I think she's being ridiculous and I can't stand all the yellings. For goodness sake, this is my home, it's supposed to be quiet and peaceful :mad: :stompfeet: )


Sorry, guess a little off topic and upset now....cos' just had another encounter with her....no matter how happy I was, step into house will get fedup.

Hello, my dear friend :snuggles: :hugs: ,
Sorry to hear what you are going thru so allow me here to give you a big hug! http://i56.tinypic.com/9lixck.gif\">

[BeContented]

Thank you Champion. It's really a nice pic and I feel a lot better now :love:

[Kabby]

champ, where do u get all those nice pics? u google?

[linden2000]

cwc:

Hi Autumnbronze,
thanks.....but sometimes, feel really really :gloomy: , the MIL is no joke and neither is FIL. Recently, he has turned bad tempered, would shove his plates/bowl/food and spit his phelgm everywhere or onto his hand and just fling!!! I really dunno how much can I tolerate and MIL is just making things worse with her yells and scoldings (can't touch me too much....so she'll go after the maid loh....but I get angry cos' I think she's being ridiculous and I can't stand all the yellings. For goodness sake, this is my home, it's supposed to be quiet and peaceful :mad: :stompfeet: )

Sorry, guess a little off topic and upset now....cos' just had another encounter with her....no matter how happy I was, step into house will get fedup.

:hugs: Hope you are feeling better.

[linden2000]

sleepy:

smurf:

Wow, so nice that most of your dh can do housework...

That's how he lured me into marrying him! When we were studying overseas, he cooked for me, cleaned my room, washed my clothes, carried my heavy school everyday.

So sweet of your DH!

[BeContented]

linden2000:

cwc:

Hi Autumnbronze,
thanks.....but sometimes, feel really really :gloomy: , the MIL is no joke and neither is FIL. Recently, he has turned bad tempered, would shove his plates/bowl/food and spit his phelgm everywhere or onto his hand and just fling!!! I really dunno how much can I tolerate and MIL is just making things worse with her yells and scoldings (can't touch me too much....so she'll go after the maid loh....but I get angry cos' I think she's being ridiculous and I can't stand all the yellings. For goodness sake, this is my home, it's supposed to be quiet and peaceful :mad: :stompfeet: )

Sorry, guess a little off topic and upset now....cos' just had another encounter with her....no matter how happy I was, step into house will get fedup.

:hugs: Hope you are feeling better.

Definitely better, thanks.
Usually after all are asleep, I will calm down. Sometimes, just pity my kids cos I tend to lose temper over small trivial matters when I'm all worked-up.....sigh.