Recruit tried to swim out of Tekong camp
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Luckily he didn’t lose his life by doing that. I hope they will provide counselling instead of just punishment. Maybe he just snapped and tried to swim to freedom. Quite poor thing, actually.
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cwc:
You should let him try. I think it's good that he wants to be independent. Let him try once or twice while you fetch him the rest of the time. Ease him gradually into it. He's P5 now. Do you expect to be fetching him around at secondary school?
Ha ha....now I worry & guilty. My P5 DS has been pestering me to let him go home himself after school everyday. It's either a 15 mins public bus ride + 7mins walk or 25mins walking.....with a damn heavy schoolbag. Mahjiam like a army backpack since the bag is ~20-25% of his weight. Let him get trained up now? Scared he gets too comfortable and next time lazy.....jtoh:
Children these days live a more sheltered life. Many are ferried everywhere because parents do not allow them to take public transport, even at secondary school. Some don't do much physical exercises - their CCA in school is chess, mind games, math society etc. Some struggle through yearly NAPFA tests.
Even at boarding, some parents insist on helping their kids to pack up every weekend, some going so far as to bring in maids to help. On compulsory overseas trips, some parents tag along, stay at the same hotel etc, just so they can be near their precious just in case.
How do kids learn to be independent and to develop physically for NS? Not surprising that they have a hard time dealing with it.
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My son went for a program before NS to become an officer. During the course the trainer who was a psychologist in mindef last time warn us that sometimes people have problems in NS because in school they are treated like the star with very good results, and at home they are the darling of the house. But once they go into NS, they become a nobody and get punished and shouted at. Some people cannot cope with this change. This case reminds me of what he said.
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Notto:
My son went for a program before NS to become an officer. During the course the trainer who was a psychologist in mindef last time warn us that sometimes people have problems in NS because in school they are treated like the star with very good results, and at home they are the darling of the house. But once they go into NS, they become a nobody and get punished and shouted at. Some people cannot cope with this change. This case reminds me of what he said.
I guess EQ plays a very important role in this instance -
Maybe it’s good for boys to join uniform groups like NCC or NPCC. Then they get a feel of training , punishment , foot drill…
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sall:
Maybe it's good for boys to join uniform groups like NCC or NPCC. Then they get a feel of training , punishment , foot drill...
good idea and maybe have a 2-3 day camp in actual army barracks during the year end school holidays to get a first hand taste of how army life is like -
jtoh:
How to help pack up when parents not allowed into boarding school?
Even at boarding, some parents insist on helping their kids to pack up every weekend, some going so far as to bring in maids to help. On compulsory overseas trips, some parents tag along, stay at the same hotel etc, just so they can be near their precious just in case.. -
smurf:
You mean go around or what? I let my elder boy take public transport by himself at pri 3. But the others only at pri 6...basically due to their personality.But nowadays, there are so many perverts out there, of course some parents tend to be more careful and try to protect their kids. Last time dun have so many perverts? Think p1 boy been molested at school toilet, etc.
The point is, at what age would you let your kid off by himself/ herself? -
pinky:
Actually the trainer my son went to has this type of bootcamp. He holds it in Pulau Ubin and make the clients experience what bmt training is like.sall:
Maybe it's good for boys to join uniform groups like NCC or NPCC. Then they get a feel of training , punishment , foot drill...
good idea and maybe have a 2-3 day camp in actual army barracks during the year end school holidays to get a first hand taste of how army life is like -
cwc:
Ha ha....now I worry & guilty. My P5 DS has been pestering me to let him go home himself after school everyday. It's either a 15 mins public bus ride + 7mins walk or 25mins walking.....with a damn heavy schoolbag.
Maybe you should try to let go as he is P5. My P3 boy did it this year. We started with him taking a bus home by himself and the maid will wait for him at the bus stop. Then it progressed to him taking the bus home and walk home by himself. He was very excited and proud the 1st time he did it independently. My P4 girl is still alittle hesitant to do so by herself....
Frankly I was initally alittle worried eg. will he look out for the traffic near the school as they have to cross the car parks to reach the bus stop, etc...???? But when he took the 1st step, I guess yes it's time for us to let go otherwise they will never have a chance to learn to be independent. There is always a first. I recalled taking SBS bus by myself from Marine Parade to geylang when I was P4 everyday.
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