Growing apart

[Chenonceau]

kiddo:

Yap this is my DH too Sistas....simple act of love .... i probe for

mine fair share until i get it ....while he is cutting the vegetable
\" tell me \" :heresmyfish: \" you love me\" now and he have to oblige. :faint: then i go away happy...not enough come back for more.

Haha! So cute!

How about this though... I buy something I really like and then say to him \"This is a present that you bought for me because you love me. Say 'yes'\". He says 'yes' and if not enough, I go buy me some more pressies. That works great for me.

[Chenonceau]

sleepy:

My dh's love language is 'words of affirmation' and 'physical touch'. This is easy. I only need to sweet talk him and hold his hands when watching TV. We've the exact same love languages.


Interestingly, he doesn't express his love using his own languages. He expresses his love by 'act of service' so he does a fair bit of house chores voluntarily. Erh, still accetable la, that means I've less chores to do at home :evil:

Hey... that's like us!! I think I have an easier time. All I have to do is open my mouth and say \"I'm so glad you're by hubby\" or other soppy stuff. He actually has to DO stuff for me. But well... I ain't complaining. Nope nope... not complaining.

[Funz]

sleepy:

Funz:

DH's is, words of affirmation followed by receiving gifts. So I get a lot of 'I love you' and 'you look great' and 'thank you for choosing me'. And without fail, I will get flowers on special occasions and gifts for no reason.

Your dh expessed his love to you based on his own love languages? :rahrah:

I guess that is pretty much the norm with most people right?

We will usually show our love in the ways that makes more sense to ourselves. If we like to be touched and held, we will likewise be touching and holding our partners as a way to show our affection. It comes naturally, without much effort.

That is why there is this language of love book, to help couples bridge the gap. For the recipient to understand what the giver is trying to say and for the giver to know how to 'give' more effectively.

[kiddo]

Chenonceau:

kiddo:

Yap this is my DH too Sistas....simple act of love .... i probe for

mine fair share until i get it ....while he is cutting the vegetable
\" tell me \" :heresmyfish: \" you love me\" now and he have to oblige. :faint: then i go away happy...not enough come back for more.

Haha! So cute!

How about this though... I buy something I really like and then say to him \"This is a present that you bought for me because you love me. Say 'yes'\". He says 'yes' and if not enough, I go buy me some more pressies. That works great for me.

:faint: yap not enough come back for more whichever way we want them to express love :rotflmao:
sometime DH :faint: the place and timing when i probe for love :faint:
poke fun at him better oblige or mei wan mei liao :heresmyfish: no peace

[sleepy]

Funz:

That is why there is this language of love book, to help couples bridge the gap. For the recipient to understand what the giver is trying to say and for the giver to know how to 'give' more effectively.

I suspect I've been mis-interpreting dh's love language. He told me his is 'act of service'

[sleepy]

Chenonceau:

sleepy:

Interestingly, he doesn't express his love using his own languages. He expresses his love by 'act of service' so he does a fair bit of house chores voluntarily. Erh, still accetable la, that means I've less chores to do at home :evil:

Hey... that's like us!! I think I have an easier time. All I have to do is open my mouth and say \"I'm so glad you're by hubby\" or other soppy stuff. He actually has to DO stuff for me. But well... I ain't complaining. Nope nope... not complaining.

:celebrate:

[BeContented]

Have been having some health issues and also under monitoring of my multiple growing fibroids.....recently, DH's colleague had to undergo an urgent womb removal due to huge fibroids....he became worried & urged me to quickly go for my half-yearly review.


Did the womb review & called him to report that it's stable (growing slowly) and can opt not to do womb removal yet.....review 6mths later. Also, blood test for some markers was OK (had a lump at neck, giddy spells etc)......

We didn't speak much that night & after a long day, I slept early while DH went out @8pm for a long cycling exercise. ~1+am, he came home, I was dead asleep. All sweaty, he came & held my hands and said \"You know, I'm very happy everything OK\". I could barely open my eyes.....saw him still in his biking attire, \"oh\" him and drop back to sleep immediately. The next day, I recalled the whole incident.....only then I realised he was referring to my health status.....well, he doesn't express or say much most of the time, but in times like this, I know he cares and it sure feels good :love:

[kiddo]

cwc:

Have been having some health issues and also under monitoring of my multiple growing fibroids.....recently,


I slept early while DH went out @8pm for a long cycling exercise. ~1+am, he came home, I was dead asleep. All sweaty, he came & held my hands and said \"You know, I'm very happy everything OK\". I could barely open my eyes.....saw him still in his biking attire, \"oh\" him and drop back to sleep immediately. The next day, I recalled the whole incident.....only then I realised he was referring to my health status.....well, he doesn't express or say much most of the time, but in times like this, I know he cares and it sure feels good :love:

TAKE CARE cwc - in time like this nothing warmed like a spouse love :hi5:

[BeContented]

kiddo:

cwc:

Have been having some health issues and also under monitoring of my multiple growing fibroids.....recently,


I slept early while DH went out @8pm for a long cycling exercise. ~1+am, he came home, I was dead asleep. All sweaty, he came & held my hands and said \"You know, I'm very happy everything OK\". I could barely open my eyes.....saw him still in his biking attire, \"oh\" him and drop back to sleep immediately. The next day, I recalled the whole incident.....only then I realised he was referring to my health status.....well, he doesn't express or say much most of the time, but in times like this, I know he cares and it sure feels good :love:

TAKE CARE cwc - in time like this nothing warmed like a spouse love :hi5:

Thanks. Will take care....would want to see my kids to University (wah, another 15 years...gosh). And yes, our spouse will be for life, so all of us should try to keep the fire alive so that when our kids are gone, our spouse would still be holding OUR hands & not mistress's hands

A song which I like by 赵咏华 - 最浪漫的事. Enjoy the lyrics......
我能想到最浪漫的事， 就是和你一起慢慢变老，
直到我们老到哪儿也去不了， 你还依然把我当成手心里的宝。
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5VwuAWnACS8

[Champion]

cwc:

kiddo:

[quote=\"cwc\"]Have been having some health issues and also under monitoring of my multiple growing fibroids.....recently,


I slept early while DH went out @8pm for a long cycling exercise. ~1+am, he came home, I was dead asleep. All sweaty, he came & held my hands and said \"You know, I'm very happy everything OK\". I could barely open my eyes.....saw him still in his biking attire, \"oh\" him and drop back to sleep immediately. The next day, I recalled the whole incident.....only then I realised he was referring to my health status.....well, he doesn't express or say much most of the time, but in times like this, I know he cares and it sure feels good :love:

TAKE CARE cwc - in time like this nothing warmed like a spouse love :hi5:

Hello, my dear friend,
:imsorry: have not been able to catch up with many threads for quite sometimes...How are you, my dear friend? I sincerely pray & hope that you are getting beta and do drop me a note if you want to talk, ok?
:grphug:

Thanks. Will take care....would want to see my kids to University (wah, another 15 years...gosh). And yes, our spouse will be for life, so all of us should try to keep the fire alive so that when our kids are gone, our spouse would still be holding OUR hands & not mistress's hands

A song which I like by 赵咏华 - 最浪漫的事. Enjoy the lyrics......
我能想到最浪漫的事， 就是和你一起慢慢变老，
直到我们老到哪儿也去不了， 你还依然把我当成手心里的宝。
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5VwuAWnACS8[/quote]