All About Full-Time Maids
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omgmum:
My maid is the same. She has been with us for about 1.5 years now. Started off very on-the-ball and do things proactively. She claims that she has worked in KL for a Chinese family for 4-years so I expected her to know \"stuff\".I also find that my maid acts one way in front of me, and another way in front of my husband. Does anyone else has that experience?
About 6-9 months into the employment she started to get lazy. She listens to me but not my mother. Problem is that I do travel at times and my mother would complain to me about her going off doing what she pleases. She never admit her mistakes and sometime I catch her answering loudly to my mother.
Maid.. such headache. But I can't do without one at the moment -
happy to be mum:
My 1st maid was talkative. She made friends with all the maids in my neighbourhood. She can talk to all PHL that she met, even those that she saw in restuarants while we are having our meals. She's usually the one who striked the conversation. But she doesnt talk much to us.hi there
anyone with FTM that talk and talk alot? My DH stand is that maids should be allow to talk else they will be \"kuku\". I also agree but recently i really feel my Phinoy maid is talking so excessingly & it does bother me. Told her before, after telling will be okay then will be back again. thinking now whether to renew or not renew her, 50 / 50. She is a fast worker and can trust her with my kids alone.
My DH said she did no major wrongs so if I decide not to continue with her, not very fair but I know it will be difficult for her to change since we have allowed it already. How?
I think it is a personality thing. Tough to change. -
Nid some advise here:
Recently my DD2 has been very notti… esp towards helper… aws wants to beat her or slap her… we will scold her if we saw… but hor… at times when she’s alone wif my helper… she will also slap/beat her… when she insist DD2 go bath or eat,etc… ytd… when my mum went over my plc… DD2 was crying… N upon seeing my mum told her tat helper beat her… Mum questioned helper, n DD1 defended helper saying it was mei mei who beat aunty den aunty beat mei mei…
Wat do u parents tink?
Firstly, hw can i stop DD2 frm beating helper?
Secondly, do u allow ur helper to beat ur kids, even if ur kids are the ones tat started first? -
No. Helper cannot beat kid, even if the kid started it 1st.
How hard can a kid’s slap feel on an adult, compared to an adult’s slap on a kid?
It will become a habit if u don’t give a warning to your helper on hitting your kids. She shld approach yourself or your mum for help to discipline your kids n not take things into her own hands. It is v dangerous to let the helper discipline your kids.
Btw, you hv not say how old is your DD2 and your DD1.
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mlim650,
must be frustrating for your mum! Did you talk to your helper about this? I told my helper that she must never be rude to me or any of my family members or me.
Still can’t decide if showing a black face and smirking etc is considered rude.
Would you tolerate a maid who shows a black face, but who still talks politely to you? -
Hi bzmum22,
Thanks for answering my qns..
I have 3 kids in all, DS =5.5, DD1=4, DD2=2.5..
Helper has been w me for 6mths only. No experience but quite smart, noe her rights, etc.. She's a Phil..
I told her juz last mth she cannot beat my kids no matter wat.. n she told me ok.. but the incident happened again ytd.. sigh.. M going to speak to her tonight..
Want to seek opinions frm parents here to b sure tat i m not wrong in disallowing my maid to discipline my kids.. -
I agree with bzmum. Helpers should never smack a kid, especially in anger. I think you should talk to your maid about this. As parents, we may want to smack our kids, but I feel that helpers should never be allowed to, because they may not know when to stop.
It sounds like your helper has hit your girl before? Then it seems to be becoming a habit. I think you have to tell your helper very firmly that in singapore, hitting a child can be considered child abuse. She is an adult, she is more in control of her actions than a child. Your dd is still a kid, even if what she has done is not right.
I guess you’ll have to try telling your dd that it’s not okay to hit other ppl, and when she hits other ppl, they can get angry and hit her back. -
Thanks ongmum for ur advise as well..
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omgmum:
omgmum,mlim650,
must be frustrating for your mum! Did you talk to your helper about this? I told my helper that she must never be rude to me or any of my family members or me.
Still can't decide if showing a black face and smirking etc is considered rude.
Would you tolerate a maid who shows a black face, but who still talks politely to you?
Your situation reminds me of one of the scene in a HK drama serial that I've watched. The helper always has a black face, but she is v good in her job....but the grown-up kids dun like her and complained to the father of the household abt her black face. So the father told them...the helper is here to do work, not to smile at you :rotflmao: .
So if your maid can do her job well and she is humble and will change when you tell her she did wrong (ie dun talk back), then shld not be bothered abt her black face. Just dun look at her face unless necessary. -
mintymin, any idea why your dd is acting up? My dd acts up when she doesn’t nap, or when she wants attention. Maybe your girl wants some attention too?
If that’s the case, then maybe your helper can set aside the work for a work and entertain your girl?
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