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[auntieM]

omgmum:

auntieM:

My ILs also long story (like bigsnoopy)..They were so dissappointed my DS came along and spoil their 'plans'... :evil:

Shouldn't they be more than happy to have a grandson??? So weird.

We were childless for quite a few years, DH elder bro passed on and left a nephew..I have a leechy gambler for younger BIL that was 'sucking' on my DH..
PILs told relatives that picha lobang to me ...would have preferred us to take over the kid and continue being sponged by all :mad: :mad: :mad:
Arrival of DS changed everything...
My story mentioned in the ILs thread liao.. :oops: ..

[sakuratattoo]

my DD also bugging me to give her a meimei. right now, cannot yet. not very stable yet. and honestly and selfishly speaking, im enjoying my ME time now (im a SAHM with no help). i have a few hours to myself when she’s at school. when she’s at home, she can do things on her own and wont bother me much. im also not sure if i can go through all the infant-toddler-preschooler phase again. it’s just too stressful sometimes.

i also want her to accept that it is possible to have a baby brother too. i dont want her to be disappointed and unhappy if we will have a baby boy. she really really wants a baby sister…
but of course the happiness a new baby brings is indescribable and will erase everything. maybe next year i will think about it again…

[Tokidoki]

auntieM:

omgmum:

[quote=\"auntieM\"]

My ILs also long story (like bigsnoopy)..They were so dissappointed my DS came along and spoil their 'plans'... :evil:

Shouldn't they be more than happy to have a grandson??? So weird.

We were childless for quite a few years, DH elder bro passed on and left a nephew..I have a leechy gambler for younger BIL that was 'sucking' on my DH..
PILs told relatives that picha lobang to me ...would have preferred us to take over the kid and continue being sponged by all :mad: :mad: :mad:
Arrival of DS changed everything...
My story mentioned in the ILs thread liao.. :oops: ..[/quote]sorry to hear abt what happen to you. hope ur PIL treat ur DS decently, else it's so unfair to him! :rant:

[Tokidoki]

sakuratattoo:

my DD also bugging me to give her a meimei. right now, cannot yet. not very stable yet. and honestly and selfishly speaking, im enjoying my ME time now (im a SAHM with no help). i have a few hours to myself when she's at school. when she's at home, she can do things on her own and wont bother me much. im also not sure if i can go through all the infant-toddler-preschooler phase again. it's just too stressful sometimes.

i also want her to accept that it is possible to have a baby brother too. i dont want her to be disappointed and unhappy if we will have a baby boy. she really really wants a baby sister...
but of course the happiness a new baby brings is indescribable and will erase everything. maybe next year i will think about it again...

agree that it's btr to start planning for 2nd one when you are ready (mentally & financially). else can be tough to the family.

[1amber]

hello all,


One child for me as well…and unlikely to add on more…turning 46 and DD only 5. DH 53. Tough on both DH and me physically up till recently. Tried having another with medical help but didn’t work out. Got pregnant but foetus didn’t develop. Had something like miscarriage while living in UK a few years back.

Sad episode for us for not being able to have at least another one. Talked about it with DH once every now and then if we have the courage to defy biological clock. But odd are stacked against us. DH always overseas and me having those crazy hormonal and fibroid challenges.

3 would have been great for us. DH loves kids. But nevertheless we are truly blessed with a gift from God.

[Angelight]

I know how you feel, 1amber. :hugs: If it's God's will for us to have only one 'bao bei', we just have to accept it. DH and I are content with our little princess until we learnt that his brother is going to have a 3rd child next year (dragon baby)...life is unfair, right? Some pple can have many kids, some only one, some worse - couldn't have any...

1amber:

hello all,

One child for me as well...and unlikely to add on more...turning 46 and DD only 5. DH 53. Tough on both DH and me physically up till recently. Tried having another with medical help but didn't work out. Got pregnant but foetus didn't develop. Had something like miscarriage while living in UK a few years back.

Sad episode for us for not being able to have at least another one. Talked about it with DH once every now and then if we have the courage to defy biological clock. But odd are stacked against us. DH always overseas and me having those crazy hormonal and fibroid challenges.

3 would have been great for us. DH loves kids. But nevertheless we are truly blessed with a gift from God.

[bigsnoopy]

Tokidoki:

bigsnoopy:

Mine is. Long story concerning ILs....

:? your ILs ask you to stop at 1 ah? or you dun want to give them extra excuse to come your place? :evil:

Haiz... More like i don want to share my kid with them... I am under the obligation to allow my kid to spend at least 8hrs (without me) a week at ILs place... I don want to be bound by this obligation and so decided not to try to have any but it is also i have hormone issues and not easily get preggy...

[HappyAvon]

Hi, my DD is 6 yo and she used to bring up the subject of having siblings citing all her classmates had sibings and she was the only one without any sibling…We din want to try for another one cos my gynae did state very clearly will be another premature delivery due to my health issues…how early no one can tell…since DD was born @32 week and weighing only 1.43 kg…we decided that one is enough and we should feel blessed she is now a healthy and smart girl except she is highly myopic…again doctor claimed could be due to prematurity cos both of us dun have this problem…


Lately, DD told me when someone asked her whether she got any siblings at home and she will reply :"Yes I have one sister and its my dog…" hahaha…

[Tokidoki]

1amber:

hello all,


One child for me as well...and unlikely to add on more...turning 46 and DD only 5. DH 53. Tough on both DH and me physically up till recently. Tried having another with medical help but didn't work out. Got pregnant but foetus didn't develop. Had something like miscarriage while living in UK a few years back.

Sad episode for us for not being able to have at least another one. Talked about it with DH once every now and then if we have the courage to defy biological clock. But odd are stacked against us. DH always overseas and me having those crazy hormonal and fibroid challenges.

3 would have been great for us. DH loves kids. But nevertheless we are truly blessed with a gift from God.

:hugs: sorry for starting this topic on trying for 2nd one. seems to bring out a lot of bad memories.

Let us cherish our one & only precious DS/DD.

[Tokidoki]

HappyAvon:

Hi, my DD is 6 yo and she used to bring up the subject of having siblings citing all her classmates had sibings and she was the only one without any sibling...We din want to try for another one cos my gynae did state very clearly will be another premature delivery due to my health issues...how early no one can tell....since DD was born @32 week and weighing only 1.43 kg...we decided that one is enough and we should feel blessed she is now a healthy and smart girl except she is highly myopic...again doctor claimed could be due to prematurity cos both of us dun have this problem...


Lately, DD told me when someone asked her whether she got any siblings at home and she will reply :\"Yes I have one sister and its my dog...\" hahaha...

ur DD's reply is so cute!