DSA 2011

[Paddy Field]

Pen88n:

Have just received HCI letter and it is a rejection. DS will have to depend on his PSLE score now but hope this will be a wake-up call for him .


DS is in the midst of his prelims, with 2 more papers to go till Fri. I am wondering :scratchhead: if I should break the news to him, or keep till Fri? Still indecided...... :slapshead: :stupid:

Sorry to hear that .. If it's me, I will break e news to him only aft prelims.
He still has 1 month to chiong, using prelims as a guide, he can concentrate on areas he's weak in n I'm sure he'll do well in psle.

[wonderm]

Pen88n:

Hubby and I have spoken and we have decided that we should break the news to DS. Reasons:


1. His classmates will start talking as some of them have already received news yesterday. This might cause more anxiety if no news for him.

2. This is a small obstacle and he should learn to deal with rejection. Able to pull himself up and move forward in the face of adversity is what he should learn and experience. In future, there may be bigger / more obstacles whereby we are not around to \"protect\" (or hide from) him, so he should learn to be a stronger person.

We felt that he has been \"over-protected\" these years, and have not exactly experienced much adversity / disappointment (he is also too easily satisfied). We just to be very \"practical\" and \"factual\" about the situation and let him see the need to move on and do his best to achieve his dream. Let's hope it all works out!

Pen88n, I would do the same if in your shoes. If I were him, knowing all the friends have already heard the results except me, I won't be able to concentrate on prelim revision. Knowing the outcome actually provides certainty. I am sure he can handle this disappointment and be more determined to do well for Prelim and PSLE. Tell him not getting DSA offer may be good too, he can then choose which school he really wants to go after the PSLE result. All the best to him!

[vlim]

TwaTau:

My choice will be RI.

But my DS may have different idea though. Will let him decide.

Yes!! go for it!!! :imcool:

[lew2105]

Dear Pen88,


May I know if ur DS is a GEP boy?

Thanks

[Pen88n]

lew2105:

Dear Pen88,


May I know if ur DS is a GEP boy?

Thanks

Nope, mainstream.

[Paddy Field]

Congratulations to vlim & TwaTau!


My postman comes only in e evening, so another few hours’ wait for me.
So no email was sent by HCI?

[vlim]

Paddy Field:

Congratulations to vlim & TwaTau!


My postman comes only in e evening, so another few hours' wait for me.
So no email was sent by HCI?

no email le... guess the email comes slower then the snail mail...

[Pen88n]

wonderm:

Pen88n:

Hubby and I have spoken and we have decided that we should break the news to DS. Reasons:


1. His classmates will start talking as some of them have already received news yesterday. This might cause more anxiety if no news for him.

2. This is a small obstacle and he should learn to deal with rejection. Able to pull himself up and move forward in the face of adversity is what he should learn and experience. In future, there may be bigger / more obstacles whereby we are not around to \"protect\" (or hide from) him, so he should learn to be a stronger person.

We felt that he has been \"over-protected\" these years, and have not exactly experienced much adversity / disappointment (he is also too easily satisfied). We just to be very \"practical\" and \"factual\" about the situation and let him see the need to move on and do his best to achieve his dream. Let's hope it all works out!

Pen88n, I would do the same if in your shoes. If I were him, knowing all the friends have already heard the results except me, I won't be able to concentrate on prelim revision. Knowing the outcome actually provides certainty. I am sure he can handle this disappointment and be more determined to do well for Prelim and PSLE. Tell him not getting DSA offer may be good too, he can then choose which school he really wants to go after the PSLE result. All the best to him!

Thanks, everyone (Vlim, Funx3, Paddy Field, Wonderm, phtthp, jtoh, etc......in case I missed some posts), for your advice. I'm now going to prep my \"speech\" / \"discussion notes\" to be in time for DS return soon.

[TwaTau]

Pen88n:

Hubby and I have spoken and we have decided that we should break the news to DS. Reasons:


1. His classmates will start talking as some of them have already received news yesterday. This might cause more anxiety if no news for him.

2. This is a small obstacle and he should learn to deal with rejection. Able to pull himself up and move forward in the face of adversity is what he should learn and experience. In future, there may be bigger / more obstacles whereby we are not around to \"protect\" (or hide from) him, so he should learn to be a stronger person.

We felt that he has been \"over-protected\" these years, and have not exactly experienced much adversity / disappointment (he is also too easily satisfied). We just to be very \"practical\" and \"factual\" about the situation and let him see the need to move on and do his best to achieve his dream. Let's hope it all works out!

Sorry to hear that. I agree with you to tell your DS. His schoolmates will have already be talking about it. Hope he will be a stronger boy after this, (It is really tough, they are only 12 years old boys, to have to go through all the anxiety and stress). All the best for his PSLE, and hope this will spur him to work harder to get into his dream school.

[wonderm]

vlim:

Paddy Field:

Congratulations to vlim & TwaTau!


My postman comes only in e evening, so another few hours' wait for me.
So no email was sent by HCI?

no email le... guess the email comes slower then the snail mail...

No email was sent last year.