All About Teaching Values

[sleepy]

insider:

我另一位朋友母亲的做法，则恰恰与王婆婆是南辕北辙，家里一切好吃、好用的，都是由他们做父母、长辈的先享用，才再轮到小孩，所以至今他们做孩子的虽都已为人父母，甚至有做了阿公阿妈的，但当一得到什么好东西，还是会「习惯性」地先去「进贡」给父母。


Source: http://mandarincounsellingsg.blogspot.com/2011/08/blog-post.html

I practise method 2. But dh isn't quite agreeable. Why 妈妈和孩子抢东西吃?
I told him to wait 20 years and he will know I'm right

[Nebbermind]

sleepy:

I told him to wait 20 years and he will know I'm right

Unfortunately, alot of children will not accept this kind of reasoning these days.

[sleepy]

Nebbermind:

sleepy:

I told him to wait 20 years and he will know I'm right

Unfortunately, alot of children will not accept this kind of reasoning these days.

referring to my dh

[Nebbermind]

oh, see wrongly!

[coffeequeen]

Hello, just to share, my daughter told me (a few weeks ago) that a classmate was sent out of the class because she kept interrupting the teacher with irritating remarks. When the teacher told the girl that it was rude to keep interrupting, and to allow him to finish his instruction first, the girl told the teacher off that he could choose to ignore her.


When I heard this I was shocked, you mean, these days, students \"talk back\" at their teachers like this? I wouldn't know how to react if I'm the teacher.

I tell my girls if they ever talk back at their teachers, they will get it from me!! haha, tyrant mother

[concern2]

sall:

Teaching of values is the job of parents. But some parents are so focused on academic results of their children, they forget about other non- academic but extremely important values their children are lacking. My sister is one such example. My niece is in an elite sch, but when we go to her house, she would not even come out of her room to greet me, not a word of 'Hello, aunty'. During Chinese New yr, not a greeting, not a word of thanks after collecting angpow. And my sister did not even correct this. No basic manners, no respect for elders...

When I visited her sch's open house, I was also very disappointed to see that the students there are very aloof and unhelpful, maybe it's the sch's fault too.

:yikes: How ah? It's your sis leh... did you try to tell her what you think? Is she your younger sis or older sis?

[jedamum]

coffeequeen:

Hello, just to share, my daughter told me (a few weeks ago) that a classmate was sent out of the class because she kept interrupting the teacher with irritating remarks. When the teacher told the girl that it was rude to keep interrupting, and to allow him to finish his instruction first, the girl told the teacher off that he could choose to ignore her.


When I heard this I was shocked, you mean, these days, students \"talk back\" at their teachers like this? I wouldn't know how to react if I'm the teacher.

I tell my girls if they ever talk back at their teachers, they will get it from me!! haha, tyrant mother

this also happen in my boy's school. so i guess it can happen any where as there are bound to be all sorts of people in life.
one time, the teacher accused my boy of talking in class (actually it was the one sitting beside him). when he tried to explain (\"but, it's...), the teacher scolded him for talking back. :roll:

[sall]

concern2:

sall:

Teaching of values is the job of parents. But some parents are so focused on academic results of their children, they forget about other non- academic but extremely important values their children are lacking. My sister is one such example. My niece is in an elite sch, but when we go to her house, she would not even come out of her room to greet me, not a word of 'Hello, aunty'. During Chinese New yr, not a greeting, not a word of thanks after collecting angpow. And my sister did not even correct this. No basic manners, no respect for elders...

When I visited her sch's open house, I was also very disappointed to see that the students there are very aloof and unhelpful, maybe it's the sch's fault too.

:yikes: How ah? It's your sis leh... did you try to tell her what you think? Is she your younger sis or older sis?

She's my older sis. I don't have to waste time telling her what I feel. She's the type who thinks she's always right. I don't go to her house anymore, don't even talk to her, unless really necessary.

[concern2]

sall:

concern2:

[quote=\"sall\"]Teaching of values is the job of parents. But some parents are so focused on academic results of their children, they forget about other non- academic but extremely important values their children are lacking. My sister is one such example. My niece is in an elite sch, but when we go to her house, she would not even come out of her room to greet me, not a word of 'Hello, aunty'. During Chinese New yr, not a greeting, not a word of thanks after collecting angpow. And my sister did not even correct this. No basic manners, no respect for elders...

When I visited her sch's open house, I was also very disappointed to see that the students there are very aloof and unhelpful, maybe it's the sch's fault too.

:yikes: How ah? It's your sis leh... did you try to tell her what you think? Is she your younger sis or older sis?

She's my older sis. I don't have to waste time telling her what I feel. She's the type who thinks she's always right. I don't go to her house anymore, don't even talk to her, unless really necessary.[/quote] :sad: That's how differences in values can cause strain in relationships...

Sis and I grow up together, we're very close. She's like the best friend to me so I'd dread the day such things happen. Ever since we got married and have our own families, we start seeing differences in our values - somewhat. However, I have to admit that we tread on thin lines when it comes to issues on how to raise our kids...As the elder sis, I try not to impose my values on her, letting her choose how to lead her own life. Ultimately, it is her children, not mine. There are times when our kids get into conflict, and situations get sticky. We just had to pull the kids aside and teach our own kids instead of pointing to each others' kids and affect our sisterhood...a challenge indeed..

[phtthp]

can parents share - from the book of Proverbs, how do you teach your child values ? Thank you very much.