Can't control the temper

[happyfather]

Thank for yr suggestion. Anger is part of personal well being, quite true

[kittybank]

Hi happyfather, your behaviour reminded me of someone i know who always wants to prove himself right and therefore always find opportunity to verbally abuse his wife. His kids are the victims. His kids even told the mum that they wish that they will never see him again. He is like a volcano which erupts at the slightest movement. The root of the problem is he has a very big ego.

Do u have a big ego? Love should conquers all. Maybe the love is not strong as yet. U r already taking up the first step to change as u r able to write about it and see the potential harm done to your girl. Take care. Take more time to reflect. Wishing u peace!
:sad: :salute:

[Haywiremom]

I’ve gathered from your reply that you’ve neglected your gf still. At least she still trying to change while you did not but still claimed you are not wrong. By ending the relationship is simple but you’ve will definitely ruined your daughter laughter, childhood, her future & her love for you. You cannot feel your daughter love for you? Do you bear to see her suffering like that?

It will never be easy for her anymore, she was given 2 different environment & she is just 8 years old…omg…
The choice is still yours…if u dont even wished to change, you wont able to accept any suggestions or listen to what other people say…

[tankee]

verykiasu2010:

if you quarrel over small things every few months, perhaps it is needful to think through why and resolve it


resolve could mean moving on, and you feel set free

but the \"anger\" part must be managed - is alright to seek professional help if needed. the \"violence\" must stop

anger-management is also part of personal well being

agreed with verykiasu2010.

for the your sake and that of the little girl that you loved so much, do have a thorough think through and seek professional help on managing your anger.

[keepgoing]

Hi happyfather,


I suppose by you writing in this forum, you are actually taking a moment to reflect. As I can feel that you realized that your actions were actually in the moment of anger triggered by what happened during that moment.

Have you also paused to think why both of you came together, been together, what
you both has gone through, the visions you both had together, planned for the future? For all you have been through and planned for, it’s it worth giving up at this moment? There may be disagreement, quarrels which happens to all couples because every individual is different and unique. But does it warrant a break off? From what you shared, the trigger point is really over what I think is a small issue… Housework/dinner? Maybe there are more underlying issues accumulated overtime…
So think again… Is it really over the housework, dinner, smashed iPad, pride?

What is it that brought both of you together? I’m sure it’s worth some thoughts rather than to decide hastily… Moreover, now we have a little princess involved. Whatever the decision or outcome, she will be greatly affected. Is this what you really want?

When things dont work out, it’s always easy to call it quits and walk away… But a lot of times, one may look back after years and think again what will it be if you have decided differently… Hopefully no regrets…

A gentle reminder, human errs as no one is perfect. Give & take is a basic requirement in all relationships not only BGR.

I hope things will be well for you and all.

Best wishes!
The choice is yours

[Dark Hope]

Do you know, why God created gaps between fingers?

So that someone who is special to you,
comes and fills those gaps by holding your hands forever



I will remember this ... thanks

[jeestan]

That is a nice reminder:)