All About Bullying

[smartmummy]

Breadandmuffins:

FOr two days this week, my P3 boy was black-faced and looked very unhappy when I picked him up. I knew someting must have happened so asked him what happened. He said his fellow P3 schoolmate tried to strangle him on his neck. This happened when I read the news about the choking game...I asked if its so bad that he can't breathe. He said its just painful. He said it happened a few times already and that the boy is just playing a fool....How should I handle this? This happened at the area where the boys are waiting to be picked up...very difficult for the school teachers to spot as quite chaotic...

Inform the form T.The T will take nessessary action.

[Snow Crystal]

Breadandmuffins:

FOr two days this week, my P3 boy was black-faced and looked very unhappy when I picked him up. I knew someting must have happened so asked him what happened. He said his fellow P3 schoolmate tried to strangle him on his neck. This happened when I read the news about the choking game...I asked if its so bad that he can't breathe. He said its just painful. He said it happened a few times already and that the boy is just playing a fool....How should I handle this? This happened at the area where the boys are waiting to be picked up...very difficult for the school teachers to spot as quite chaotic...

Did your kid ask him to stop it? He must learn to fend for himself :nunchuk: Stand up and say stop it loud and clear in that boy's face :stompfeet: Practise at home. When the boys are waiting to be picked up, any teacher or principal around? Ask him to report to the nearby teacher if it happens again. You should take down name of that student and class. If too serious ie he doesn't stop and your boy feels dusturbed, report to that boy's form teacher.

[Nebbermind]

Just let the other boy’s form 'cher know what happened n ask her to remind the children not to play choking or strangling game as it May hurt their friends. Then see how it goes lor.

As for yr son, as advised by above, he Shd assert himself without turning to violence

[notakidnoraparent]

Actually, if you all think about it, fighting is indeed wrong but at times, if you put yourself into their shoes, you would want to fight back. In fact, I would say that the bullied should get together and "fight" back against the bullies. Who knows, it teaches them courage, teamwork and perhaps justice. Bullies always target those who are alone and weak. So if the bullied banded together, I doubt they will be easily targeted anymore.

[Canvas]

I think this is a serious problem in schools. My DS (pri 2) was bullied right from the first day of school (he was quite small build) and DH & I had several talks with him on how to handle the situations better. He goes to a boys’ school and on the bus, an older boy would taunt the younger ones. His name was constantly made fun of and he was also punched in his stomach twice. I told his teacher who gave the bully a warning. There was a letter from the principle asking parents not to approach the "bullies" directly so obviously that has been a problem.


On our part, we talked to DS and asked him to offer suggestions. We decided to teach him how to deal with situations if not it could be worse when he goes to NS next time. However, we will not ignore his complains. I have reflected the issue in the yearly parents’ survey. As we noticed the bullying only happened on board the return school bus, we have decided to not let him take the school bus as of next January. Will have to fetch him using public transport from then on but I think that makes DS feel more secured.

[sushigal]

I realised the Big Bully so called is the parent themselves. Children are just the reflection of them.


The parents themselves are the BIG BULLIES.

So please do not blame the children. Children just learned how their dad and mum’s behavior.

[SBKS]

sleepy:

jedamum:

ds1 will ignore teasing (then, some people said he is 胆小鬼)

Maybe your ds is truely not affected at all? Then he isn't 胆小鬼 la.

I read a book about making friends (can't recall book title now). One of the chapters talked about differentiating friendly or vicious teasing. If a child is too sensitive, then will easily feel hurt (unnecessarily) even when friends really mean no harm. Child will build walls & withdraw into protective shell & become a loner instead

Depends on the manner of teasing. If vicious one, of course must stand up & resist.

When that boy called dd names, he is teasing her. My dd is not very bothered because she is confident that she isn't fat at all, just not on the skinny side wat.
She said she read that boy's facial expression, he said it in a friendly & joking manner. dd told him to stop saying that anyway. And of course having other friends who rebute that boy when he called dd names helped a lot too. That boy talks a lot to dd everyday, so I gathered they're friends. Although nobody likes to be called names la

:goodpost: i like...

sushigal:

I realised the Big Bully so called is the parent themselves. Children are just the reflection of them.

The parents themselves are the BIG BULLIES.

So please do not blame the children. Children just learned how their dad and mum's behavior.

:goodpost: true true..

[SBKS]

basically, there is a thin line between teasing and bullying. alot of factors weigh in to have unexpected results.


more or less, i find that teachers cant help much. i was bullied before in school. bully's mentality is deciphered here, looks for vulnerable or easy to bully face. aka me. but i aint small size then. i told my dad about it, he went to school, complained to principal, and the next day the whole school knows that my dad complained to principal and called me names like weakling, coward, ask daddy to complain, fight your battle, blah blah blah. i ignored them but the feeling is not good.

so what do you think will help ur kids if you go down to school? make them embarrassed more?

next, since bully's bully those who are loner and stuff, (which i totally agree), if those loners start to find more friends who agree with them, and form a group? what will happen? even if the kid who initiates the forming is not your kid and is others, will you stop them? peer pressure sets in, all agree to form the group to so-called protect themselves from being bullied, then what happens? once you are in a group, its difficult to stray off and follow ur own actions and thoughts.

I am just highlighting on the dark side. all of us wouldnt want that to happen. but it does and it did before.

Reading here helps me find ways to counsel my DD but will she turn out as what i said above? I felt lost...maybe because I think too much.

any views? :?

[sushigal]

I have encounter my girl’s bully’s parents are educators.


Very sad. No principal in life and teaching others’ people’s kids. It’s a shame.

[peapot]

Teasing is ok if kept at a minimum. But once teasing becomes excessive, it becomes a form of bullying as well.