2011 PSLE Discussions and Strategy
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Snow Crystal:
i've been asking my DD to sleep early. but she still wants to study till 12am! sighh...smartiemommy:
i'm very worried for my DD as she is very afraid of the Chinese and Science papers as she is not good in the subjects... she is having trouble sleeping well. she gets only borderline As for the subjects.. she wants to have 4 A*s! i'm worried for her.... i can't believe children can have so much stress too! :nailbite:
Dear smartiemommy, depending on her school standard and difficulty of the prelims, her usual performance of borderline As is not impossible to translate to A*. But if her school papers are set at normal standards and her usual is borderline As but her aim is 4A*, as a mother, you have to manage her expectations for PSLE. You have to give her lots of TLC (tender loving care) and encouragement at this moment. Please tell her to just do her best and don't think so much. We can't control results outcome. Do watch her emotional and mental health closely since she's not sleeping well. For you and your DD jiayou jiayou :rahrah: :rahrah: -
firefly38:
wow.. 91.5 or 93 marks is considered not good enough.. parents are getting very greedy & hard to pleased.. no wonder our children are feeling so stressed nowadays! :sad: :sad:[/quote]no la.. is my DD's own expectations! top 10 in the level leh, what you expect
sigh.. mine even worse.. for prelim get only 91.5... now already lost about 5 marks in PSLE already.. A* flying away!!!!smartiemommy:
[quote=\"irelaxonli\"]aiyo. your children all so smart math paper almost get full marks. But my DD onli (Confirmed) get 93 for maths quite sure t score will suffer...
aiyo.. so stressed
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Can’t agree more! No offence but in this case, it is the parents’ expectations that make the children stress!
When they are saying these, wonder if they have imagined what if they are in the shoes of those who are just average or even below and it is not due to laziness for not studying hard enough but that these children may be late bloomers or slower than others and had worked and studied very hard!
I said this because I know of some parents who simply ignored the hard work their children put in and focus only on the results. They were reprimanded or even punished when they could not get the results their parents expected. One of them was even forced to still attend school and tuition although she was having a high fever![/quote]
luckily im not like that… -
firefly38:
hey author 2001, wrong number leh :slapshead: ! i am NOT the one who is worried with 93 marks hor (please read very carefully all previous posts)! :rant:
ya parents cannot simply demand for good results. We need to earn that right to scold our kids. If we can't solve the problem sum ourselves how can we expect our kids to solve them. If we don't understand grammar, how can we expect those little ones to write good comp....No lah, not true. If we don't know, I think the best way is to study with them. We can then understand their problem and the level of difficulty. We can then empathise and encourage. Those times were so painful and fearful and I am so glad that it is over.atutor2001:
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Can't agree more! No offence but in this case, it is the parents' expectations that make the children stress!
When they are saying these, wonder if they have imagined what if they are in the shoes of those who are just average or even below and it is not due to laziness for not studying hard enough but that these children may be late bloomers or slower than others and had worked and studied very hard!
I said this because I know of some parents who simply ignored the hard work their children put in and focus only on the results. They were reprimanded or even punished when they could not get the results their parents expected. One of them was even forced to still attend school and tuition although she was having a high fever!
By the way, I can understand why firefly38 is worried with 93 marks. To get to the top school, the kid needs a 270 to be comfortable. If a kid is not that strong in the 2 languages, he/she need to strive for perfect score for math and science (very difficult) to cover the shortfall.
in fact, i feel sad when i read about 2 parents complaining about their children doing \"badly' in their math exam as they got only 91.5 and 93 marks. i feel that parents are getting very greedy & hard to please, hence causing our poor children to be sooo stressed nowadays! :sad:
as ppnqq mentioned in her post, we need to be sensitive towards other parents' feelings whenever we post our thoughts here. imagine how will parents with 'average' kids feel, when they read such posts.
btw, i will be the last parent to worry about the '93 marks' thingy, as DS has already secured COs from RI & HCI
! as i have always told DS, as long as he has tried his best (which he always does), i will be very proud of him, regardless of what marks he gets.. :hugs: :snuggles:[/quote]jiayou to all our kids!
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my DD is so stressed, she cries herself to sleep… HELp!!! how?!
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Ms tay:
Haha, thanks but no bingo :evil: I am not a Chinese teacher but just a hands on mummy who is aware of current syllabus. Benefited from KSP for one PSLE and now wants to return something to KSP new PSLE parents/kids :grphug: Btw Ms Tay, my first post in KSP was for you. Hope your DS gets into RI/HCI! :rahrah:
:goodpost: sound like an experience Chinese teacher
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alamak so serious arh! my dd’s friend minus 4 marks in the exam also like lock himself in the room dun want to eat, make the mom so stress call every parent in his class and ask what happened. Also the level head told him that their school’s top scholar depends on him this kind of thing make the child so stressed!!
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smartiemommy:
my DD is so stressed, she cries herself to sleep... HELp!!! how?!
my ds also felt v depressed and stressed before prelim ... what I told him as long as he tried his best then ok liao...What my dh usually does, is to tell him some funny jokes and he would normally feel a bit better after some laugh.... :roll: .Sometimes kids are giving themselves alot of stress.. -
Cockroach:
alamak so serious arh! my dd's friend minus 4 marks in the exam also like lock himself in the room dun want to eat, make the mom so stress call every parent in his class and ask what happened. Also the level head told him that their school's top scholar depends on him this kind of thing make the child so stressed!!
ya this is something very bad to tell a kid especially at this age...It will give them hell lots of unnecessary stress...and end up they will under perform :skeptical: -
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