Pei Hwa Presbyterian Primary

[Mrsbongz]

Happy Children's Day!!


DS told me last night that since it is Children's day, he should get a day's rest, and I shouldn't ask him to help with chores like making breakfast!! But the thing is, he doesn't help that often lo! :siao: he has big plans to spend tomoro with his brother (though I rather he prepare for chinese assessment next week), hopefully they don drive my mom crazy...

[janet88]

E3:

Happy Children's Day to all young and 'old' :dancing: :dancing:


Funx3, your little one's last year to celebrate! I believe it'll be the most meaningful one in all her Pri sch years cos it can be celebrated with total light-heartedness!! Enjoy. :rahrah:

Hi E3,
I agree with you. This Children's Day is truly enjoyable and meaningful for the P6s who have just completed PSLE. They are the ones who can celebrate in a total CAREFREE and whole heartedly, since they have successfully completed primary school. I was just telling my son that last night...others still can lah, but has a naggy feel of SA2.

[Scary]

markfch:

drickymummy:

Boys r mostly like that lah... Remind, remind n more naggings lor...but dun spank leh... I never spank DS for anything to do with his studies leh.. For the fear that he will associate studies to spanking n hate learning...

I kinda agree with you on this one, drickymummy.

Scary, The road ahead is long. I understand the frustration of finding out that your ds not paying attention, when you're trying to exert the remaining ounce of energy to teach him at the end of a hard day's work. We \"same boat same illness.\" But pls consider what drickymummy is saying.

Confucius says, \"He who gets spanked for making careless mistakes will grow up not trying anything hard for fear of being spanked again.\"

Actually my spanking is not the cane type. I smacked his palms hard.

My boy needs to be spanked before he can focus. His violin teacher said the same. :faint:

I am so tired hearing the complaints from his school and enrichments teachers.

[Trapwithin]

E3:

Happy Children's Day to all young and 'old' :dancing: :dancing:


Funx3, your little one's last year to celebrate! I believe it'll be the most meaningful one in all her Pri sch years cos it can be celebrated with total light-heartedness!! Enjoy. :rahrah:

Funx3 , your dd next year lose one holiday liao ...

[dyh]

IJJ:

dyh:

that looks huge. maybe u should put a ruler next to it so that we can tell the actual size.

Wow, so 'CSI'! :rotflmao: The total weight for the largest 3 were around 27 lbs. My eldest said carrying the largest is like carrying her baby sister. :rotflmao:

drickymummy:

So big!!! Must remember to keep the seeds...wash them clean, dry them a bit n toast with salt in your oven...v fresh n yummy!

I did not know that! Just dump a whole lot today! Do they taste like the sunflower seeds?

That's 12 kg! can eat quite a few meals.
i wonder if can bring the seeds back to SG to plant here or not.

[dyh]

markfch:

Confucius says, \"He who gets spanked for making careless mistakes will grow up not trying anything hard for fear of being spanked again.\"

I don't really quite agree with this Confucius saying. To me, making genuine mistakes is ok but the child should try their best to eradicate any careless or repeated mistakes. However, i agree that spanking is too extreme. can try other ways like reduce tv or computer game time instead?

[drickymummy]

Scary:

drickymummy,
Have been telling myself to calm down calm down, but first question is always the easiest. To get it wrong is very silly and seriously, I think the marker's mood will be affected too. He/She will be thinking, \"Huh, first question already wrong?\" Very bad impression given.

I can understand your frustration .....but I will talk to him n explain why I m disappointed n what kind of checking he shd have done...DS regular work is also full of careless mistake cos rushing thru his work.. But exam time he usually more careful in his papers cos I insist on seeing all workings on the paper...cannot erase... If not he will get my naggings n long lectures again..

Other than how to do questions, I will guide him on how to do checking too.. N emphasize on checking again and again during exams ...

[drickymummy]

markfch:

Funx3:

Oh .... OOOOOOOOOOOOoooooooooooooooo ....
Pei Hwa P Is Gonna Come After Me for such ....
Bad Influence!
:siam:

Bad influence nevermind. The impt thing is can go RGS/RI. :rahrah:

Yah... We welcome more such influences if can go RI...

[drickymummy]

Scary:

Actually my spanking is not the cane type. I smacked his palms hard.

My boy needs to be spanked before he can focus. His violin teacher said the same. :faint:

I am so tired hearing the complaints from his school and enrichments teachers.

I dun even spank his palms... At the most I scream at him..n threaten to cancel all his tuition classes n stop guiding him in sch work.. He will be good for a period ..but kids after all, they forget n the whole drama repeats again lor he must know your disappointment rather than anger... Anger see too much also no effect on him... Praise him when he put in effort or make even the slightest improvement ... Give him challenges to fulfill to boost his confidence n interest in work.. Every small success they make goes a long way...

[IJJ]

I am refraining from posting my comment on discipling kids because I understand and respect different ways of disciplinong the child since parents love their kids and know them best. Just that this verse from Prov 13:24 keeps ringing in my head and I have to get it off.

[quote]24 Whoever spares the rod hates their children,
but the one who loves their children is careful to discipline them. [/quote]Some stuff to read...http://www.religioustolerance.org/spankin8.htm

For us (my hubby and I), oh yes, we do corporal punishment, for serious mistakes. I once spank my 2nd daughter's bottoms when she deliberately walk at the edge of the pavement despite numberous warnings. That could be life-threatening should she falls off the pavement and hits by a vehicle. I immediately spanked her and held her close to me (with a baby in another arm).

I still have alot to learn..i.e. to keep my blood from reaching the boiling point. Overtime, I learn and strongly believe that administering disciplinary acts is best when we are doing it calm-headed. That way, we can be more rational and the kids will respect us doing it, which means a longer 'effectiveness' period. When I feel my blood heating up, I move away to a separate room and cool myself down looking at photos, listening to praises etc before walking back to the child to chide her off. It is easy to go overboard when one is super mad. I know, it is easier said than done. I am quite an impatient and quick tempered person and I am still working on it. I am hoping one day, I can be a more loving mom. My aim is to provide a cosy home where the kids look forward to come back to after braving the storms in the outside world. Even little kids nowadays have a more complicated world to deal with.

Of course, there are always times I feel guilty and mean...well, I tell myself, no parent is perfect, so am I. Hence, I do think over how otherwise I should do to achieve a better (win-win) situation. Then just move on.

Having these said, there is one kind of parenting that I :roll: These parents will not administer any scolding act at all, let alone corporal disciplinary. That is one extreme which I cannot believe any parent in the right mind will let their kids go down w/o making any effort to bring them right on track.

For Proverbs 19:18 says :
[quote]Discipline your son while there is hope, And do not desire his death.[/quote]

Coincidently, my 2nd child has her memory verse this week as

\"Children obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.\" Eph 6:1

Memorising this verse with her is reminding me to do my part right.