Club SAHM
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mom was a ftwm. didn't voice out but can sense her disapproval and disappointment when i became a sahm. but mil is a sahm so DH is supportive of my decision.
sometimes ds asked me to go out to work and let papa stay home. cos i'm always busy with housework while DH always plays with him at home. -
cwc:
We SAHMs need to give each other lots of support. Those working women think they are so full of glamour...they think they have loads of money to buy this and that, as well as hire tutors for every subject. But the bond that SAHMs have with their kids is something money cannot buy.Actually sometimes I think SAHM has the stigma of being a notch lower in status :gloomy:
Dunno am I being over sensitive, but despite all the 'flowery' words from relatives/friends etc, the underlying message seems to always boil down to
- SAHM have much easier life at home (to some extend yes, but it's a sacrifice/trade off we have consciously made). WorkingPeople (WP) gotta work so hard and cannot have good-life at home like us
- SAHMs' contributions is valued at a lot lesser than WP.
Guess SAHM here, we need to give more moral support to each other. :please: -
For me, its also the good habits that we can cultivate for them when they are young. They may be small things like taking a shower the moment they reached home, no running around when eating their meals, clear up after a meal etc, also to do some housework. If I am working and delegate this to maid or grandparents , I cannot enforce some of these and when they are teenagers, I doubt they will be able to have such habits esp doing some housework. Some things need to start young. Another thing is that we are always around when they need some help , be it emotional support when they had a bad day in school or some schoolwork. The bonding is definitely worth it.
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When I was working, I wanted so much to be SAHM. Now that I’m one I wonder if I’m better off working. Sigh. Have been having a lot of conflict with my K2 DS, who is starting to talk back and disobey me in a many instances. Actually they are trivial stuff just that I tend to get irritated easily, and will start scolding him. Find that I’m scolding him alot more than when I was working. I know that I used to scold him less because I closed my eyes to some things as I did not have the energy to enforce discipline after a hard day’s work. But it sure feels tough.
Btw when I was working someone mistook me for SAHM and I was really pleased haha -
one of the best things being a sahm is you take care of your sick child yourself. you dont have to worry about the wrong dosage given by maids or caretaker (be it grandparents or nanny) or sometimes medicine was never even given.
when i was working, i saw my friends (working mums) screaming at the maids/grandparents and sometimes even husbands over the phone for not giving the right dosage of medicine or none to the sick children. kid sick but mum working so maids/grandparents took kid to see dr and in the end cant give a proper explanation to mum about kid’s sickness. -
LOLMum:
This I agree totally. There was once mil gave ds's antibiotic to DD goshone of the best things being a sahm is you take care of your sick child yourself. you dont have to worry about the wrong dosage given by maids or caretaker (be it grandparents or nanny) or sometimes medicine was never even given.
when i was working, i saw my friends (working mums) screaming at the maids/grandparents and sometimes even husbands over the phone for not giving the right dosage of medicine or none to the sick children. kid sick but mum working so maids/grandparents took kid to see dr and in the end cant give a proper explanation to mum about kid's sickness. -
Breadandmuffins:
For me, its also the good habits that we can cultivate for them when they are young. They may be small things like taking a shower the moment they reached home, no running around when eating their meals, clear up after a meal etc, also to do some housework. If I am working and delegate this to maid or grandparents , I cannot enforce some of these and when they are teenagers, I doubt they will be able to have such habits esp doing some housework. Some things need to start young. Another thing is that we are always around when they need some help , be it emotional support when they had a bad day in school or some schoolwork. The bonding is definitely worth it.
Every point you mentioned is so true !!! Although we can't afford to fall sick, but being around for the kids is such a good feeling...and when they want to snuggle up to you. :goodpost: -
Hi mummies,
Been following this thread closely. I have 2 kids, 4 and 2 years old. Increasingly tempted to be a SAHM too, especially reading all the wonderful posts here. But two issues are bugging me :
1) Not sure if we can manage on a single income
2) My mum might flip (I mean, she will most certainly flip)
Really confused about the way forward
hope you ladies will give me some inspiration! -
nerov:
It's not an easy decision to quit and be a full time mother. First criteria is strong family support from hubby and in some cases parents. If you have been contributing to your parents and decide to quit, they may not be able to handle the lack of pocket money. What about your personal expenses like insurance ? Is hubby willing to take over ? These are the issues you would have to discuss with him.Hi mummies,
Been following this thread closely. I have 2 kids, 4 and 2 years old. Increasingly tempted to be a SAHM too, especially reading all the wonderful posts here. But two issues are bugging me :
1) Not sure if we can manage on a single income
2) My mum might flip (I mean, she will most certainly flip)
Really confused about the way forward hope you ladies will give me some inspiration! -
cwc:
I think at the end of the day, we as mummies, especially SAHMs juz have to account to our kids n husband on the things we do. Nt to anyone else coz they are and will never be in the loop of our child raising process; at least tats for me!Actually sometimes I think SAHM has the stigma of being a notch lower in status :gloomy:
Dunno am I being over sensitive, but despite all the 'flowery' words from relatives/friends etc, the underlying message seems to always boil down to
- SAHM have much easier life at home (to some extend yes, but it's a sacrifice/trade off we have consciously made). WorkingPeople (WP) gotta work so hard and cannot have good-life at home like us
- SAHMs' contributions is valued at a lot lesser than WP
A lot of times, gotta try to be Ah-Q & ignore the remarks by others....else I'll probably start feeling inferior and negative.
Guess SAHM here, we need to give more moral support to each other. :please:
Learn to love ourself (stand by the decision we make to be a SAHM) n then we will be able to love our own family more. :grphug:
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