Club SAHM

[sleepy]

happy to be mum:

Do your spouses worried alot about finances? I mean good responsible husbands / man will be thinking of that right?

Haha, mine doesn't. He's the over optimistic type. He feels rich 'at heart' all the time. If we look at the same figure on our bank balance, he will say 'wow! no need to worry, can shake legs' and I will say 'oh my gosh! we're so broke'.

The reality check for dh is when he found out his colleague with dual income has 5x more savings in his bank account than dh. Not to mention that colleague also owns country clubs & private properties.

But my dh is still optimistic, he attributes our low savings to single income, so not comparing like to like. Very contented la :imcool:

[sleepy]

Breadandmuffins:

After I stopped work, I only managed to meet my ex-colleagues/good friends once after two yrs and till now, its almost 6yrs already and we sort of lost contact . The emotional support would have to come fr yr DH then since nobody to \"fa lao sao\". DH have to bear my nagging abt kids, school work etc as he is the one I turned to when I had a bad day at home.

Colleagues abit hard to maintain contact. I lost contact with all my ex-colleagues too.

Friends yes, my best friend & I sms each other every few other days. We've known each other for 20 years, can't afford to lose contact. We usually meet every other month for movies or karoke or as often as my schedule permits. She's very accomodating.

My friends who are SAHMs are more busy. We sms each other occasionally, every few other weeks or months. Have not meet up at all for years, just maintain sms contact.

I'm not good at making new friends. My social circle hasn't expand at all the last few years

[jedamum]

sleepy:

I'm not good at making new friends. My social circle hasn't expand at all the last few years

i have a big virtual social circle...does that count? :evil:
heehe...luckily for internet. else i'll lose all contact with the outside world.

[sleepy]

jedamum:

sleepy:

I'm not good at making new friends. My social circle hasn't expand at all the last few years

i have a big virtual social circle...does that count? :evil:
heehe...luckily for internet. else i'll lose all contact with the outside world.

You're absolutely right! You're my internet friend :hugs:

[kero]

jedamum:

sleepy:

I'm not good at making new friends. My social circle hasn't expand at all the last few years

i have a big virtual social circle...does that count? :evil:
heehe...luckily for internet. else i'll lose all contact with the outside world.

hi5 jedamum. Thanks to technology for computer and esp FB.

Guess being a SAHM we somehow should \"Count our blessings\" and then also \"Live within our limits\" lor.. Give thanks to our hubby is supportive of our choice and also share the same thoughts on the importance of bringing up our children.

[kero]

sleepy:

Breadandmuffins:

I'm not good at making new friends. My social circle hasn't expand at all the last few years

Mine in fact expanded quite alot since joining forum until my hubby scared that I might get CON by those pretenders. So I have quite a few virtual frens lar..

[happy to be mum]

hi sleepy


you are lucky that your husband is optimistic, how i wish mine is like that!

mine is worrier as though we completely do not have any savings! the problem is he is not a drawn salary worker as he is his own boss..so i can understand his worries and concerns. But by being like that, I will also feel so stress to be a SAHM...*haiz*..why should I do??

[jedamum]

sleepy:

jedamum:

[quote=\"sleepy\"]

I'm not good at making new friends. My social circle hasn't expand at all the last few years

i have a big virtual social circle...does that count? :evil:
heehe...luckily for internet. else i'll lose all contact with the outside world.

You're absolutely right! You're my internet friend :hugs:[/quote]let's drink virtual beer! :celebrate:

[jedamum]

kero:

sleepy:

[quote=\"Breadandmuffins\"]
I'm not good at making new friends. My social circle hasn't expand at all the last few years

Mine in fact expanded quite alot since joining forum until my hubby scared that I might get CON by those pretenders. So I have quite a few virtual frens lar..[/quote]haha...can understand la.
my hubby think that i am a frog in the well.
get cheated easily by con sales men and such.

[LOLMum]

as his own boss and the uncertain market situation, i would be worry too especially if i am only one bringing in the $$$.


if you work, try go maidless and look for a nanny instead. or put the younger 1 in child care and the older one at student care. more expensive but better than be a sahm and fight with dh over $$$ constantly (in case since he worries about $$$).

if really need to be a sahm, are you able to turn whatever skills you have into a home business? like baking, giving tution, or even work part-time. etc?