Club SAHM

[kero]

sleepy:

Breadandmuffins:

I'm not good at making new friends. My social circle hasn't expand at all the last few years

Mine in fact expanded quite alot since joining forum until my hubby scared that I might get CON by those pretenders. So I have quite a few virtual frens lar..

[happy to be mum]

hi sleepy


you are lucky that your husband is optimistic, how i wish mine is like that!

mine is worrier as though we completely do not have any savings! the problem is he is not a drawn salary worker as he is his own boss..so i can understand his worries and concerns. But by being like that, I will also feel so stress to be a SAHM...*haiz*..why should I do??

[jedamum]

sleepy:

jedamum:

[quote=\"sleepy\"]

I'm not good at making new friends. My social circle hasn't expand at all the last few years

i have a big virtual social circle...does that count? :evil:
heehe...luckily for internet. else i'll lose all contact with the outside world.

You're absolutely right! You're my internet friend :hugs:[/quote]let's drink virtual beer! :celebrate:

[jedamum]

kero:

sleepy:

[quote=\"Breadandmuffins\"]
I'm not good at making new friends. My social circle hasn't expand at all the last few years

Mine in fact expanded quite alot since joining forum until my hubby scared that I might get CON by those pretenders. So I have quite a few virtual frens lar..[/quote]haha...can understand la.
my hubby think that i am a frog in the well.
get cheated easily by con sales men and such.

[LOLMum]

as his own boss and the uncertain market situation, i would be worry too especially if i am only one bringing in the $$$.


if you work, try go maidless and look for a nanny instead. or put the younger 1 in child care and the older one at student care. more expensive but better than be a sahm and fight with dh over $$$ constantly (in case since he worries about $$$).

if really need to be a sahm, are you able to turn whatever skills you have into a home business? like baking, giving tution, or even work part-time. etc?

[Breadandmuffins]

Hi Happy to be mum

I have 4kids and a SAHM with maid to help. After I stayed home, we started to buy more insurance for DH. We did not go for holidays for the last 3yrs, we usually "holiday" in Singapore.Also hardly eat out cos quite expensive for my family size. Eat out only when there are family celebrations like MIL’s birthday.

PS: I think I "saw" you at the pri school thread. Our kids in same school. My DS is in P3 this yr.

[happy to be mum]

hi lolmum,


i also think of going maidless and put kids to childcare, or if to be a SAHM, doing some part time works, etc...still thinking so hard. my current job is very flexible, has very understanding bosses, freedom though not high income earner but still alright and managable. at times like that, really wish and envy those parents who have their parents to help out.

hi bread&muffins, i believe our boys are in the same school your Pri 3 DS is the eldest? salute you for having 4 kids!! much as i want to have a number 3, now cannot think at all!

[Canvas]

happy to be mum:

hi sleepy


you are lucky that your husband is optimistic, how i wish mine is like that!

mine is worrier as though we completely do not have any savings! the problem is he is not a drawn salary worker as he is his own boss..so i can understand his worries and concerns. But by being like that, I will also feel so stress to be a SAHM...*haiz*..why should I do??

My Dh is the same as yours, a worrier. But I attribute that to his poor childhood and that he has worked hard in his education (to get uni scholarship) and work to be in his job position today. We are not poor but we have to control bit by bit if we want to put our 2 kids through university next time.

To be honest, only 3 months as a SAHM for me so I'm still not making much progress in saving $ (too used to spending my own money for so many years) but I am getting there! Getting a shock from seeing my bank statement helped heaps! Wahahaha! :spank:

Money is important but it definitely can't buy the closeness between us and the children. And I like that there is always nutritious dinner waiting for DH when he comes home from work and DS when he comes home from school. :imanangel:

[Canvas]

sleepy:

happy to be mum:

Do your spouses worried alot about finances? I mean good responsible husbands / man will be thinking of that right?

Haha, mine doesn't. He's the over optimistic type. He feels rich 'at heart' all the time. If we look at the same figure on our bank balance, he will say 'wow! no need to worry, can shake legs' and I will say 'oh my gosh! we're so broke'.

The reality check for dh is when he found out his colleague with dual income has 5x more savings in his bank account than dh. Not to mention that colleague also owns country clubs & private properties.

But my dh is still optimistic, he attributes our low savings to single income, so not comparing like to like. Very contented la :imcool:

Such a positive DH is really nice! I mean, some SAHMs feel really stressed at not contributing financially but if the DH complains all the time about money. the SAHMs will feel worse lor. :gloomy:

[janet88]

happy to be mum:

to janet_lee88, i understand what you mean by no time to be busy with houseworks & kids but then hmm...how should i put it? we are adults still so i believe we will definitely miss adult conversations & chats. If i have a network of SAHMs staying near my place will be better cause we will understand how it feel & maybe have a support group esp if our spouses are busy earning money. Finances definitely will be a worry cause i still wish / want to maintain what we have

My kids are 7 and 11 (P1 & P5)...managed to get both in morning school. :imcool: So I get peace in the morning from 715am to 130pm.
As an adult, I definitely miss having someone to chat but it's hard to find someone with similar frequency.
When my hubby used to work from home, sometimes we will go to IMM...he does his work at Mac, while I jalan jalan. No more of those days as he has changed to another dept and has to go office everyday