Club Only Child Club

[Angelight]

You mean you don't meet your SIL and her family during family occasions like Christmas and CNY?

just888:

Angelight,
My SIL also have 3 kids...U know 3 years have past and until now I have never seen my SIL's youngest child since born! I dun think the kid even know he still got an uncle, auntie and cousin.

[just888]

Angelight:

You mean you don't meet your SIL and her family during family occasions like Christmas and CNY?

just888:

Angelight,
My SIL also have 3 kids...U know 3 years have past and until now I have never seen my SIL's youngest child since born! I dun think the kid even know he still got an uncle, auntie and cousin.

Ya never so far, coz' different timing mah. I think my MIL is in a diffcult position to take care of 2 family's kids fairly. Hence, I think she told her daughter so. So far the 2 family never appear at the same place same time one. My MIL is also very secretive about how they are doing..never share anything about my SIL's family and her kids to us. Only when we are not at their place then maybe my SIL's family come back home.

On the other side of the coin, my son is also not close to his cousins as they do not even have chance to play together. Only know their names that's all....not even looks. So my son is closer to my nephew on my parent's side and the neighbours' kids.

[Angelight]

Just888, at least you are not forced to see the relatives you don't wish to see. For me, no such luck...:(

[kaitlynangelica]

Again on Saturday night.


Brought dd to see the doctor. Whilst waiting to go in, one Ah Gong saw her and said :" Oh she reminds me of my daughter when she was young.Is she the only one?"

I nodded.

" Oh my! How can you stop at one? Cannot! They will be very lonely."

OMG! Am I the only one that gets this all the time??

[Angelight]

Kaitly, you are not the only one. i get it from relatives and well-meaning friends too. I can understand how you feel, but don't take it too hard. I believe some of these people meant well (that the only child is indeed lonely), but they are not sensitive enough that it is not our choice to have only one child.


I train myself to be immuned to such remarks so that I won't get upset by people who don't matter to me. That's the only way to keep our sanity.

kaitlynangelica:

Again on Saturday night.

Brought dd to see the doctor. Whilst waiting to go in, one Ah Gong saw her and said :\" Oh she reminds me of my daughter when she was young.Is she the only one?\"

I nodded.

\" Oh my! How can you stop at one? Cannot! They will be very lonely.\"

OMG! Am I the only one that gets this all the time??

[kaitlynangelica]

Its also difficult to consider having another child now because the one child that we have needs a lot of attention for the schoolwork.

[kaitlynangelica]

Its also difficult to consider having another child now because the one child that we have needs a lot of attention for the schoolwork.

[Flowermonaster]

kaitlynangelica:

Again on Saturday night.


Brought dd to see the doctor. Whilst waiting to go in, one Ah Gong saw her and said :\" Oh she reminds me of my daughter when she was young.Is she the only one?\"

I nodded.

\" Oh my! How can you stop at one? Cannot! They will be very lonely.\"

OMG! Am I the only one that gets this all the time??

No, you are not the only one to get that kind of comment. I used to get that too when my DS was young. From my mum, friends to strangers. Even now I still get such comment occasionally. I am not bother by them As I know what I can and what I cannot. I don't let others affect my feeling and life. I think the most important is my DH has the same thinking as me & that gives me the support I needed.

[just888]

Just curious does any of ur hubby request u all to try for another kid?

I am asking coz’ I think of STOP trying lor esp me this year 37 already… tried so many years already I am kinda of tired esp when my hubby is not those co-operative type.

[bigsnoopy]

Flowermonaster:

kaitlynangelica:

Again on Saturday night.


Brought dd to see the doctor. Whilst waiting to go in, one Ah Gong saw her and said :\" Oh she reminds me of my daughter when she was young.Is she the only one?\"

I nodded.

\" Oh my! How can you stop at one? Cannot! They will be very lonely.\"

OMG! Am I the only one that gets this all the time??

No, you are not the only one to get that kind of comment. I used to get that too when my DS was young. From my mum, friends to strangers. Even now I still get such comment occasionally. I am not bother by them As I know what I can and what I cannot. I don't let others affect my feeling and life. I think the most important is my DH has the same thinking as me & that gives me the support I needed.

I also get this kind of comment all the time... Comes Chinese new year it would be worse cos every relative will ask u that question of why stop at one... I just stop myself of answering mind ur own business....