Do you bring yr parents/inlaws for tours/travelling?

[Strparent]

If there is one thing I learnt from my father, was that loving your own children is unconditional, and in that aspect, so should filial piety be. He always do all the chores for his parents, buy them any good food when he could afford, bring them to watch shows, bring them on short holidays, etc, and each time never expecting any gratitude back or appreciation. Why ? I think he is just returning whatever he can back, for their efforts when he was growing up.


Likewise, my brothers and I do the same - we bring our parents ( and in-laws ) on holidays when we can. Sometimes to places we want to go, and sometimes to places they want to go, or even sometimes to places where we can only afford to go . It doesnt matter where - one brother likes to to go Japan, Taiwan, Australia, one likes to go Europe, China, HK, and one may only can afford to go Thailand, Malaysia, Bali, etc, and sometimes we go all together in a big group of 15 to 20 ppl. But it doesnt matter where, you can always tell the parents are very happy to be with their child and their grandchildren.

We have to ask ourselves - why we bring our own parents overseas, or just for a nice dinner ? To gain gratitude ? Envy ? :scratchhead:

I thought it is because we do it, because we appreciate all they have done before and still doing as grandparents. Without them, we wont be here, and nothing we can do, will ever repay back everything they have done. The best thing is, our kids also see this action and reasoning, and hopefully ( but not necessary ) they will want to do the same for us in future.

Just my own thoughts. I feel that it should just come naturally and unconditionally.

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[711mum]

It's fun to travel with families, along with my sis family, we brought our parents to Taiwan last Christmas, the feeling was great and kids love it too would like to do this more often when we can

[janet88]

With my parents, definitely yes. But no way with hubby’s side.

Holiday will be ruined spending 24/7 with them. A holiday is meant to be enjoyed. Besides they don’t like to fly. The last time they went to US (early this year), they were so reluctant…even though tickets already issued. Bags not even packed the day b4 flight.

[cnimed]

Strparent, good post.

[MMM]

My 6 years old recently told us that she will bring us for holidays when she is a grown up. She would help us to carry our luggage and pay for the trip as we are old then. I told her that mummy loves to go countries like Europe and US


Sure our our offsprings grow up to be filial kids.

[yqyq]

My parent has been travelling with me at least once or twice a year. Usually total expenses will be share among the siblings or at lease me and my sis.

And irregardless who bring, all os us will try to chip in…after all both of them in 60’s jor…if now dont travel, in future maybe difficult to walk or enjoy if too old.

[Strparent]

yqyq:

My parent has been travelling with me at least once or twice a year. Usually total expenses will be share among the siblings or at lease me and my sis.

And irregardless who bring, all os us will try to chip in..after all both of them in 60's jor...if now dont travel, in future maybe difficult to walk or enjoy if too old.

yqyq I agree wholeheartedly.

when my father was diagnosed with cancer a few years ago, he said he had not visited 3 places - Shanghai, Perth ( he has been to all other major cities in AUS except Perth ) and Las Vegas.
but due to his chemo treatments, it was difficult to plan. My brother managed to bring him and mum to Shanghai after the 1st complete cycle of chemo. After the 2nd cycle, I brought him and mum to Perth. But Las Vegas......super long trip and his condition.... We failed to fulfill that last wish.
Even now, once a while, I think of him and I hated the fact that we had all the time in the world BEFORE, but we did not asked him where he wanted to go. He was always chinchai when we discussed, and usually end up go places where we or the kids liked.
So now, when my mum said she feels like going a place, we will try to plan to go soonest.


Dont leave it too late to regret. I still miss my old man.

MMM:

My 6 years old recently told us that she will bring us for holidays when she is a grown up. She would help us to carry our luggage and pay for the trip as we are old then. I told her that mummy loves to go countries like Europe and US

Sure our our offsprings grow up to be filial kids.

MMM, that is sweet...but you should hope she will also said that when she is 16

and I am a firm believer that kids will take after their parents, so don't worry about the filial part :imanangel:

[yqyq]

Strparent:

yqyq:

My parent has been travelling with me at least once or twice a year. Usually total expenses will be share among the siblings or at least me and my sis.

And irregardless who bring, all of us will try to chip in..after all both of them in 60's jor...if now dont travel, in future maybe difficult to walk or enjoy if too old.

yqyq I agree wholeheartedly.

when my father was diagnosed with cancer a few years ago, he said he had not visited 3 places - Shanghai, Perth ( he has been to all other major cities in AUS except Perth ) and Las Vegas.
but due to his chemo treatments, it was difficult to plan. My brother managed to bring him and mum to Shanghai after the 1st complete cycle of chemo. After the 2nd cycle, I brought him and mum to Perth. But Las Vegas......super long trip and his condition.... We failed to fulfill that last wish.
Even now, once a while, I think of him and I hated the fact that we had all the time in the world BEFORE, but we did not asked him where he wanted to go. He was always chinchai when we discussed, and usually end up go places where we or the kids liked.
So now, when my mum said she feels like going a place, we will try to plan to go soonest.


Dont leave it too late to regret. I still miss my old man.


Sad to hear that...take care strparent

[ningning]

Some of us are lucky to have siblings that chip in expenese, no matter what are the size of their chip in. Its the thoughts that counts. But there are some siblings, who just refused to do so, despite they have very very good income. They have taken their parents love and care for granted. And worse, they are not unhappy that the other siblings has taken the initiative to bear all the expenses for the trip , coz they thought other siblings purposely bring parent to holiday to reflect that they are "filial".


sometimes, bring parents to holidays, can also lead to unhappiness among siblings…too

[MMM]

Strparent:

MMM:

My 6 years old recently told us that she will bring us for holidays when she is a grown up. She would help us to carry our luggage and pay for the trip as we are old then. I told her that mummy loves to go countries like Europe and US


Sure our our offsprings grow up to be filial kids.

MMM, that is sweet...but you should hope she will also said that when she is 16

and I am a firm believer that kids will take after their parents, so don't worry about the filial part :imanangel:

strparent : are you the one trying to get a house so that everyone can stay together????

Yes I agree. That's why I said to her.... are you sure you will do that???? She even insist that we should stay with her and not our 2 older kids....

I feel that as parents we need to lead by examples. Then they will start to think that what we are doing is the norm and will not have 2nd thoughts about it.