In-law problems?

[just888]

U SIL staying/travelling oversea? At least your SIL also got parent’s interest at heart.


I know as parents we would try to help out our kids at much as possible. But then how come some kids are really selfish and no EQ at all to spare a thought for the old ones at home. When comes to good times - travelling etc… short trip the family goes themselves. Only when long journey needs help then invite parents along to help out in the car with the kids during their drives on the road oversea.

My SIL’s hubby ever comment, if they do not mind staying with my in-laws and no need to buy a house if not his parent insisted that they should get one themselves! In my heart, of coz’ lar…all taken care at home with that $300 spend, why not.

[mummy of 2]

At least your DH has seen the true colours of your sil mine still thinking she will do the right thing ie pay market value for the flat she plans to buy from her parents. Just recently she turned up very late for dinner at my house. When asked why she said took train to my place instead of taxi to save money. PLEASE!!! If really want to save money just leave her house earlier no need to tell the whole world she needs to be thrifty. If this isn’t psychological warfare to win over her parents I don’t know what is.

[just888]

One more typicial scenario I saw last time, at 8pm at night during dinner:

SIL: I want to go home already, but have dinner here so I stayed on. Later father you send me home okay? I no need to take bus and can used the bus travelling time 1hr to 陪 you and mama.
FIL: Ok (usual answer to kid, unless he needs to busy at work)
Less than 1/2 hr later SIL’s hubby called asking what time coming back, SIL quickly hurried my FIL to send her back.

I was like huh to my hubby…Where is the "陪" part? Told my hubby if next time DS going to be "so 孝顺" please ask him take bus home himself. Save trouble to sending him back and then come back with an empty car on top of the petrol cost and time spend on driving.

[hquek]

mummy of 2:

At least your DH has seen the true colours of your sil mine still thinking she will do the right thing ie pay market value for the flat she plans to buy from her parents. Just recently she turned up very late for dinner at my house. When asked why she said took train to my place instead of taxi to save money. PLEASE!!! If really want to save money just leave her house earlier no need to tell the whole world she needs to be thrifty. If this isn't psychological warfare to win over her parents I don't know what is.

hmmm, she took train from JB arh. need to clear customs that's why so late? haizzz. hope your ILs don't fall for that 苦肉计, but then knowing parental love, I think the walls will crumble eventually.

[Flowermonaster]

just888:

One more typicial scenario I saw last time, at 8pm at night during dinner:

SIL: I want to go home already, but have dinner here so I stayed on. Later father you send me home okay? I no need to take bus and can used the bus travelling time 1hr to 陪 you and mama.
FIL: Ok (usual answer to kid, unless he needs to busy at work)
Less than 1/2 hr later SIL's hubby called asking what time coming back, SIL quickly hurried my FIL to send her back.

I was like huh to my hubby..Where is the \"陪\" part? Told my hubby if next time DS going to be \"so 孝顺\" please ask him take bus home himself. Save trouble to sending him back and then come back with an empty car on top of the petrol cost and time spend on driving.

Really speechless! This again show that she is really a spoilt brat! I always refuse my dad's offer to drive me home whenever I visit them because he is already 70+ & eye sight not so good. But they keep insisting so I only go visit them when my hubby is free & can fetch me home so they don't need to worry.
I am fortunate that I don't have much IL problem except my 2nd BIL never give my PIL monthly allowance except once during CNY. My PIL depends on my DH to support them every month. (my DH is the youngest) my SIL used to call my DH up (whenever my MIL borrow money from her) and asked my DH did he gives my MIL allowance this month? As my PIL live in Malaysia we only go in once a month to give her the allowance. I got irritated every time she called my DH on this matter because we alway give but we k only go during weekend and not possible to b always on last day of the month. Why she never ask her 2nd bro who live so near my PIL? They all live in the same area.

[mummy of 2]

Hquek


My mil already agreed even before her 苦肉计. I believe this wayang show is to wear down all resistance after DH told her to be fair to ils where the flat is concerned. My good- natured DH will never think that sil is still going to take unfair advantage of her parents even after he talked to her. I think more action is needed from me. Very unhappy and worst is cannot show it but have to bottle it up.

[just888]

Flowermonaster:

I am fortunate that I don't have much IL problem except my 2nd BIL never give my PIL monthly allowance except once during CNY. My PIL depends on my DH to support them every month. (my DH is the youngest) my SIL used to call my DH up (whenever my MIL borrow money from her) and asked my DH did he gives my MIL allowance this month? As my PIL live in Malaysia we only go in once a month to give her the allowance. I got irritated every time she called my DH on this matter because we alway give but we k only go during weekend and not possible to b always on last day of the month. Why she never ask her 2nd bro who live so near my PIL? They all live in the same area.

Can do bank transfer to ur PIL?

Indeed my SIL is so protective over her hubby also that she asked my FIL to climb up the stair to help her drill the holes for curtain rods instead of her hubby. I wonder who fall down who recovering time is longer plus the medical expenses occur. Her hubby is her LORD while parents treat like maid like that. *faint* When I am not around I see no evil, heard no evil.

[just888]

Wasted that most of us here like me do not know how to ACT, else using "苦肉计" maybe we can also earn a fortune.

[Flowermonaster]

just888:

Can do bank transfer to ur PIL?

Indeed my SIL is so protective over her hubby also that she asked my FIL to climb up the stair to help her drill the holes for curtain rods instead of her hubby. I wonder who fall down who recovering time is longer plus the medical expenses occur. Her hubby is her LORD while parents treat like maid like that. *faint* When I am not around I see no evil, heard no evil.

Precisely thats what I suggested to my DH. He did ask his mum to open acct but she refuses saying too troublesome for her. We told her we will still visit her even if we transfer via bank but she said why bother? When u back then give. :roll:

Your SIL is really like what old people said - finger bend out & not bend in type.

[mummy of 2]

just888:

Wasted that most of us here like me do not know how to ACT, else using \"苦肉计\" maybe we can also earn a fortune.

I can act but can't make myself so 没良心