In-law problems?

[just888]

mummy of 2:

just888:

Wasted that most of us here like me do not know how to ACT, else using \"苦肉计\" maybe we can also earn a fortune.

I can act but can't make myself so 没良心

I believe in karma...u reap what you have sow, plus things will go around and come back to u. If we treat were to parents like that next time kids learn and also treat us the same way how? We are living examples for for the children lor..

Sometimes is hubby's family side problem I just share my views with hubby will do not to overstep the boundary also. Wait in-law thinks we KAPO.

Does anyone in-laws communicate with hubby in a dialect or language that you do not understand when u are around? Sounded as if they are comment about u yet do not want u to know like that.

[mummy of 2]

Yup mine speaks Cantonese which isn’t my dialect. I also believe in karma. Trying to stop my kids from too much contact with sil and niece.

[mummy of 2]

If it’s purely an issue that has no repercussion on me I’m happy to let things be.

[just888]

mummy of 2:

Yup mine speaks Cantonese which isn't my dialect. I also believe in karma. Trying to stop my kids from too much contact with sil and niece.

Hi-5! mine in-laws are also cantonese. I only understand hokkien and teochew. Me no need to stop my son for mixing as they auto never appear in front of us for a long long time. I doubt the cousins even knew each other by face if meet on the road.

[mummy of 2]

How I wish no need to see them also. They come every week

[LOLMum]

just888:

Does anyone in-laws communicate with hubby in a dialect or language that you do not understand when u are around? Sounded as if they are comment about u yet do not want u to know like that.

my mil and sil do communicate in dialect which i dont understand and sometimes with dh too. however dh only understand it but cant speak it.

i am fine with it cos what i dont understand dont bother me. also my mum only knew hakka and a bit of mandarin and cantonese so we in the family also only spoke to her in hakka in front of dh.

[auntieM]

Haha... ...I am Hakka too LOLMum.. ..

MIL will rattle of in her dialect when the issue not meant for my ears..
Makan sessions when and when, more gambling debts to be cleared, DH to attend never ending gatherings... :faint:
DH quite bochap nowadays..

[LOLMum]

LOLMum:

my mil and sil do communicate in dialect which i dont understand and sometimes with dh too. however dh only understand it but cant speak it.

i am fine with it cos what i dont understand dont bother me. also my mum only knew hakka and a bit of mandarin and cantonese so we in the family also only spoke to her in hakka in front of dh.

oop,s forgot to say that just like my mum, my mil only speak to her kids in her dialect. when kids got married, no choice but to speak cantonese cos' sils and dils dont understand the dialect. so no deliberate effort to sideline any1 of us.

[LOLMum]

auntieM:

Haha... ...I am Hakka too LOLMum.. ..

:snuggles: it is a dying dialect.

[ningning]

just888:

I stayed with my in-laws after marriage for 2 years before we got our own place. Despite having our own place, we didn't shift our things out and still go back and stay with them on and off throughout the years so as not to give up our bedroom to my SIL. Sometimes whole weekdays if not weekends to prevent my in-laws being bullied by my SIL's family. I do not have in-laws problem as they still treat me rather nice. My problem is only with my selfish SIL.


My SIL had been eyeing my hubby's bedroom since we got our own place. She want to come back and stay with my in-laws too but then keep complaining her current room too small for her family (2A3C). Both she and her hubby loves to tax on my in-laws to help them. Even now not staying together, she wants my MIL in the evening to go over her place and help her with her 3 kids when they are all back at home then ask my FIL/hubby would go and fetch MIL after 10pm home when their kids are asleep. I ever ask my MIL, how come SIL does not let her sleep over instead? They did not even provide a mattress in their mansionette for my MIL! *faint*.

oh you and your hubby were kind enough then, to fetch your MIL home from your SIL place after 10pm. For me, i will tell my DH to be busy and let them bring your MIL back home instead since she so selfish.