[Fun Poll] How satisfied are u with ur child(ren) results?

[Pen88n]

Chenonceau:

No problem lah Piggy... nothing is a problem for the next few days because of his 78... :dancing:

Huh?? :scratchhead: Only for the next few days?? I thot you will be :dancing: for at least 1-2 weeks to a month!!!

[tankee]

insider:

Showed my daughter my son's math paper to ask her to go and claim an ice cream from him (agreed between the two that Jie Jie will teach and if he gets good results, he will give her a treat), and at the same time, give him a pat on the shoulder for showing his best efforts.


She went through the paper and laughed.

She said she had told him must remember to check his answers again after he completes the paper, and she was pleasantly surprised that he actually went to the extent of drawing a line on the left of the paper (right line was provided on the paper itself), bothered to write the word 'Check' and re-did his working, which is something that she didn't think of.

Son is very into 'mental math' and he actually hates to do working and that cost him a lot if the numbers 'jump' in his brain. Doing working is never his liking.

She said, \"青出于蓝”.

I re-looked at the paper and think this maybe a good way for kids' to do checking. Wonder it is son's own idea or instructed by teacher. (yet to check with him. He is on a boring fishing trip with his dad and brother while the ladies hole ourselves at home...)

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Shown DS what your son did.

[atutor2001]

Just my personal opinion. Boys get addicted to lego easily. Parents think that it helps in developing creativity. Schools have robotic cca using lego - reinforcing parents’ beliefs (the annual competition maybe just a gimmick to promote sale). It gives kids a false sense of achievement after programming the robot.

Personal observation - may need to be careful with it.

[cimman]

Chenonceau:

Pen88n:

It is a huge improvement from the time he hardly can read a decent composition, and he deserve a big hug for this effort :hugs:

Yup! I agree!! And Grandma has stopped criticising how I went about Chinese. I tell you... I had to bear with 10 months of \"You don't even know how to read Chinese, so you dunno how to teach it... you must do this... and this... and this... and this.\"

Now, I have peace. I am so pleased that I am actually gloating a bit. So bad hor...

you deserve the satisfaction to gloat. You put your theory to the test, stuck with it and it now produces results. That's a good reason to gloat.

[Chenonceau]

Pen88n:

Huh?? :scratchhead: Only for the next few days?? I thot you will be for at least 1-2 weeks to a month!!!

Tiger Mother mah... never satisfied. :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil:

cimman:

you deserve the satisfaction to gloat. You put your theory to the test, stuck with it and it now produces results. That's a good reason to gloat.

[Strparent]

Chenonceau:

ksi:

[quote=\"Strparent\"]cane ?

Cannot be...the son needs to consider and I don't think Chenonceau is one who uses the cane on her children, at least not for academic stuff.

:oops: :oops: :oops: :oops: :oops: He IS considering the use of cane. I do use the cane but under very structured conditions with each condition pre-defined and agreed to.

We have used this method to cure his carelessness once in the past. This is not a method the non-psychologist parent should use. There is too much to watch out for (that I have not written here) and the negative fallout can be very bad if you dunno what to look out for.[/quote]Chenonceau,

wow, I was right. The reason I guess it was because I am an advocator of Spare the Rod, and Spoil the Child. :oops:

However just to clarify, I DO NOT ever use the cane after the exams results, as I know the kids would have worked hard and tried their best, which is all we asked for....seriously.

The cane is used only for ill disciplined situations and inappropriate bad behavior when they were younger. Quite often I must add, when they were btw 6 to 8. But after that, we do not have to use it much anymore, the STARE replaced the cane, or rather the ' Would you like to see Mr Cane look ' is suffice. After 10yr old, REASONING takes over, but the STARE is there as a backup.

I have seen really bad behaviour by many kids in public, when I see that their parents lose control, it is seriously frustrating and may I say embarassing for the parents.

If you have no cooperation and discipline from a child before 10 yrs old, it will be almost impossible to make them listen to your advice when they reach teenage stage. :skeptical:

For carelessness in exams - yes, it is simply enough to discuss and explain to make them understand how crucial it is. They probably feel even more heartache than us. Words of encouragement and reward baiting usually works better here, in my personal view.

Kudos to your chinese self-tuition :salute: . For this area, I am a fish out of water. :sad:

[corneyAmber]

Strparent:

Chenonceau:

[quote=\"ksi\"]

Cannot be...the son needs to consider and I don't think Chenonceau is one who uses the cane on her children, at least not for academic stuff.

:oops: :oops: :oops: :oops: :oops: He IS considering the use of cane. I do use the cane but under very structured conditions with each condition pre-defined and agreed to.

We have used this method to cure his carelessness once in the past. This is not a method the non-psychologist parent should use. There is too much to watch out for (that I have not written here) and the negative fallout can be very bad if you dunno what to look out for.

Chenonceau,

wow, I was right. The reason I guess it was because I am an advocator of Spare the Rod, and Spoil the Child. :oops:

However just to clarify, I DO NOT ever use the cane after the exams results, as I know the kids would have worked hard and tried their best, which is all we asked for....seriously.

The cane is used only for ill disciplined situations and inappropriate bad behavior when they were younger. Quite often I must add, when they were btw 6 to 8. But after that, we do not have to use it much anymore, the STARE replaced the cane, or rather the ' Would you like to see Mr Cane look ' is suffice. After 10yr old, REASONING takes over, but the STARE is there as a backup.

I have seen really bad behaviour by many kids in public, when I see that their parents lose control, it is seriously frustrating and may I say embarassing for the parents.

If you have no cooperation and discipline from a child before 10 yrs old, it will be almost impossible to make them listen to your advice when they reach teenage stage. :skeptical:

For carelessness in exams - yes, it is simply enough to discuss and explain to make them understand how crucial it is. They probably feel even more heartache than us. Words of encouragement and reward baiting usually works better here, in my personal view.

Kudos to your chinese self-tuition :salute: . For this area, I am a fish out of water. :sad:[/quote]Wah you are spot on for the guess of the cane!! :salute:

My parenting style is the same as those highlighted in red.
I too believe in using the cane but only for correction of bad behaviour and attitudes but never results of exams and use the cane before 10 as far as possible. My child already feels the pain of losing careless marks more severely than I do.....so she is even more eager to be careful, giving herself little issues in this area.

I too :salute: the way Chenonceau is teaching Chinese, it's mission impossible for me.

[Busymom]

ksi:

Strparent:

cane ?

Cannot be...the son needs to consider and I don't think Chenonceau is one who uses the cane on her children, at least not for academic stuff.

CAMP? Maybe a \"drill\" camp to eliminate the carelessness? :?

now you know better... :evil:

Think her post was on portal before.

[Busymom]

BeContented:

DS results OK, some up some down. DD just finished, no news yet.

At this stage (P4 & P5), as long as they hit certain reasonable target, I'm not so edgy.....but will ask/nag them work harder cos' the eventual goal will be PSLE.

DS is not so exam-smart, but he is disciplined and I know he himself wants to do well, so the rest is up to his own effort. DD tho seems less intelligent, has managed to do well enough (quite a lucky gal in this aspect)....she herself is anxious to maintain her position & takes care in her work....but somehow, still get careless. Since she feels the pain, I just need to remind her to be careful.

Guess I'm pretty lucky, have not had to cane them over their school results so far. Caning is reserved for behavioural/attitude cases. Younger children do tend to be more careless/bo-chap .... I did cane a few times & I really make sure it's hard/painful enough to make them sit up, remember and not want to be caned again. As they grow older & understand the implication of being careless.....I stopped the caning, the rest is up to them

So like what verykiasu2010 mentioned, as long as they have tried their best, I'm happy.

PS : Funx, I also did something similar. I reinforced the idea and placed sweets they liked and told them it's all theirs to take. But with each careless mistake, one will be taken away. So when one see the other have more.....they :stompfeet: and 'realised' what their careless mistake is causing them.

I remember there was another mummy who rewards her child for every careless mistake corrected. Have yet to try it to see if it works.

DD has been consistently losing 4 marks for her school practice papers before her Math test. I joked with her that she must have liked 4 very much, how come 4 marks lost all the time? This time round, she said she made 1 careless mistake and lost 2 marks... so guess it is an improvement over her practice papers (although last term she managed to get full marks).

[Busymom]

Chenonceau:

BeContented:

PS : Funx, I also did something similar. I reinforced the idea and placed sweets they liked and told them it's all theirs to take. But with each careless mistake, one will be taken away. So when one see the other have more.....they :stompfeet: and 'realised' what their careless mistake is causing them.

Whoa! You Mommies are so smart!! I'm gonna think on this a bit more and see if I can adapt for my son.

please share after you come out with any creative ideas. :please: