One of the slowest kid in class...

[Guan Hui]

seekinghelp


You may want to send him to those motivational workshop like adam khoo’s " I am gifted so are you" program

Do not misunderstand I do not work for adam khoo=D

[Seekinghelp]

Hi Mrs Wong, u are so blessed to have such a gd parents. If all the parents could be like yr parents, that would be great. Even though my nephew is the only son of my sis but I do feel that they dun love him that much. Sometimes I'm wondering, y in the first place still want to give birth to him, let him suffer in this world.....I must admit I'm not a gd auntie too, coz I will hit him too if he shows disrespect to me or din pay attention to what I said.


His parents would never send him to that workshop, Guan hui....

[atutor2001]

Guan Hui:

seekinghelp


You may want to send him to those motivational workshop like adam khoo's \" I am gifted so are you\" program

Do not misunderstand I do not work for adam khoo=D

Please don't. That is all I want to say and please don't ask why. I will not answer.

[marvic]

Seekinghelp:

Hi Mrs Wong, u are so blessed to have such a gd parents. If all the parents could be like yr parents, that would be great. Even though my nephew is the only son of my sis but I do feel that they dun love him that much. Sometimes I'm wondering, y in the first place still want to give birth to him, let him suffer in this world.....I must admit I'm not a gd auntie too, coz I will hit him too if he shows disrespect to me or din pay attention to what I said.


His parents would never send him to that workshop, Guan hui....

\"Even though my nephew is the only son of my sis but I do feel that they dun love him that much. Sometimes I'm wondering, y in the first place still want to give birth to him, let him suffer in this world\"....hi seeking help, maybe that is the root of the problem. this child could be yearning for love and attention...

[tutormum]

I think I understand your nephew’s problem after reading your various posts. It takes all types of parents to make up this world. I have a sis in law who has the same problem. She’s not the type to like bringing up children so she only has a son and left him with her mother in law in another country. This boy was only brought back when he had to start school. His granny spoilt him as she thought that he was neglected. His parents thought that he was ill-disciplined and secretly blamed his granny. The parents were harsh on him in order to rein him in. The boy became very rebellious and didn’t do well in school. I feel sad cos I didn’t have the opportunity to help him. The parent - child relationship is so strained that parents and child are living their own lives after this boy has grown up.

I have another student whose parents also neglected her and was left alone with her maid all the time. She did badly in school until when I started to tutor her in P2. Besides tutoring her, I spent time talking and teaching her as if she was my own daughter. She always look forward to my tuition cos that was the only time she had someone to look up to and confide in. Not only her grades improved remarkably, she’s a very well adjusted girl and is popular among her friends. Her family and relatives are impressed that though she grew up in a disadvantaged environment (can’t tell you whole story) she’s now a confident and diligent child.

[Seekinghelp]

My nephew is also a stubborn person, always thinks he is right. Still doesn’t know how to cherish the things he has, taking things for granted. And he always loves to argue with u. How to make him listen to u without talking back at u?

[Tang]

concern2:

He needs to learn to love himself Sounds like you may the one to turn his life around :shock: before it is too late

Sounds exactly like my sister.

She speeds up when she can play computer games or gameboy after her meal or homework.

[Seekinghelp]

Tang:

concern2:

He needs to learn to love himself Sounds like you may the one to turn his life around :shock: before it is too late

Sounds exactly like my sister.

She speeds up when she can play computer games or gameboy after her meal or homework.

Oh yes, exactly like yrs!!!! Whenever I allowed him to play PSP or xbox 360, I realised that after playing, he did even badly in his homework! Duno why like that. So I chose not to let him play when comes to test or exam, he sure scored badly in his paper....Lately, he kept complaining this and that...no time to play but it's he himself slow in his work, other kids can complete a couple set of worksheets in the given time, 2 to 3 hrs but he can take 5 to 8 hrs to complete it...that\"s why no time to play.....he simply dun get it when I tried to explain to him that the pb lies on him....always make those irritating sound.......

[tamarind]

Kids who are living a comfortable life, and who are never hungry, will not understand why they need to work hard for a better life. They already have a very good life !


I feel that parents of such kids should try to create an environment in which the kid can experience "hardship". For example, eating small portions of rice and vegetable everyday, let him experience hunger. Remove TV, computer games, all electronic games, toys, etc. No more outings. No more new clothes and new shoes. Sleep on the floor.

Tell the kid that this is the life he will be living when Daddy and Mommy are no longer with him.

BTW, there are many poor kids in Singapore who are really living this sort of life. I have students whose combined family income is $0. These are the students who know how to study hard.

[Seekinghelp]

I did ask my sis not to bring him for outings but she ignored at times. He's not my son afterall, I've no say in it. It's not easy when too many pple discipline one kid.... I do not spoil a child like some other parents. Give whatever their kids asked for. It's not so gd, the kids will not be able to take hardships in future.