Club SAHM

[Mum_2Gals]

dearzen:

Mum_2Gals,


oh yes i agree the stress level can go up even being a SAHM! Currently on my maternity leave. i take over frm bb sitter 2 care 4 my #1 everyday, 24hrs (coming to 2 mths). Gosh! Can reali drive me crazy! :shock:

nw my #1 is super sticky 2 me as hb not in SG, i'm returning 2 work next wk. maid & dad cant handle #1, so boh bian hv 2 ask my bb sitter 2 help me out at least 2 mths. so within these 2mths, i must decide whether 2 be a SAHM or continue working.

Though my #1 is sticky & driving me crazy at times, i tink i do feel abit reluctant 2 return work 2 leave my kids at home. But i dunno if it is jz a phase cos i stay home 2 long liao (4 mths)

So reali headache & mind in a mess! :stupid:

Hi dearzen,
Didn't know you still on maternity leave. must relax, don't worry too much okie? Since you have some help now, take your time to decide what's best for everyone. I know some mothers are happier when they're back to work. My gf actually tendered her resignation after she gave birth. But after two months of maternity leave, she decided she cannot face her baby 24hrs everyday. Lucky for her, the boss wants her back No right or wrong choice. Happy mummies will have happy kids.

[Mum_2Gals]

KingRascal:

Hey, I am also a SAHM managing everything myself. I have only 1 child. We should chat to relieve our stress!

Hi KingRascal,

Right! Must chat to relieve stress, else will go crazy :stupid: ......

[Mum_2Gals]

smurf:

wow, u mean your no2 didn't attend sch? :?

Hi smurf,
Eh, my no2 is not 3yrs yet. :? My personal preference is to put her in half day CC when she's toilet-trained and can speak \"well\". Mummy very particular, afraid CC teachers cannot cope with so many diaper-changing Plan to send her for Nursery2 class next year. now very stressed with her 'toilet-training\" :?:

[buds]

Mum_2Gals:

Happy mummies will have happy kids.

I agree!

:celebrate:

[Mum_2Gals]

buds:

Mum_2Gals:

Happy mummies will have happy kids.

I agree!

:celebrate:

Hi buds,
Glad to \"meet\" you here! :celebrate:
I'm very keen to teach my kids myself, so busy following your threads on preschool curriculum, montessori teaching, etc etc.
Really learnt a lot from you :thankyou: :salute:

[buds]

Really aah?


Hokay, time to update those threads liao.
More followers coming in wor... :shock:

Btw, are you with us already in the http://www.kiasuparents.com/kiasu/forum/viewtopic.php?t=2724&start=465

[mummy of 2]

buds:

Really aah?


Hokay, time to update those threads liao.
More followers coming in wor... :shock:

Btw, are you with us already in the http://www.kiasuparents.com/kiasu/forum/viewtopic.php?t=2724&start=465

Looking forward to your updates too

[sleepy]

sunset_dae:

Would u sent yr child to childcare centre or take care of him yrself?

mommy is the best caregiver

For social interaction, you can send him to enrichment classes.

Mum_2Gals:

Everyone has different priorities, I do enjoy my job but I'm not career-minded. I work for my family--more $, better standard of living??? So if the quality of living is affected when I work, I'll rather quit my job!

My sentiment too!

I still have people telling me 'so wasteful not to work' even though I stopped working donkey years ago.
To most people, it seems kind of wasted if we do not generate any income from our prior investment in education

Mum_2Gals:

I'm happy to chat with you too Hee, Let's learn from each other. I still think I'm barely coping--there are many really capable mummy in KSP. Must search for a SAHM thread and chat over there?

Good idea! Is there a SAHM thread? Let's start one

[dearzen]

buds:

Hi dearzen!


Uhmm guys..... buds oso stay home mum
but didn't want to interrupt the discussions
here yet. The stress is less if either you hv
fixed caregiver to go out to work or if you
are not staying with ILs. Other than
that, when your kiddies grow up like mine
liao... it's a lot of relax time for yourself.

I've been having a whale of a time tea
partying once in a while with friends during
the afternoons. Hi-tea and chit-chat with
girlfriends never fail to cheer me up.

The key is to set a fixed routine with the
children. Be it sleeping... or studying... or
eating... A routine helps children get adjusted
more easily and helps us manage our time better..
for other things. :evil:

For me, it wasn't a choice nor the time to be
SAHM. It was more of no choice. :lol:

Hi buds!

Currently my WHOLE family incl maid is staying wif my dad. :lol: very crowded. But am tinking of getting our own flat if i become SAHM. so tat more space 4 the kids.

I agree if dun stay wif ILs less stress. I tink even wif ur own parents, sometimes get abit of stress too. & not 4getting the conflicts & different schools of thoughts on the taking care, educating & disciplining our kids.

U mention urs is more of no choice. As in u r reluctant 2 send ur kids 2 infant/childcare when they were young?

4 me, i prefer bb sitter 2 tk care of kids. I dun like having a maid ard or sending my darlings 2 infant/childcare. But becos DH suggest maid & CC, so i hv no choice but 2 try. But i reali dun like. So am nw tinking of becoming a SAHM.

[dearzen]

Emelyn:

Dearzen,

Sorry.... Bt Panjang... I not familiar and no experience with the CCC there.

Hi Emelyn

No worries!