Is Your Kid Gifted? Probably Not

[en107rn.01056yahoo.01056com.01056sg]

May be I should be the one to feel offended. I am the one that bring up the clothes label in the other forum. Am I offended? Nah... I still stand firmly that my son is not gifted. Just bright, inquisitive & a clever boy.


But I do like the thread that Tamarind started on \"Any parents of gifted children ?\". The thread is so alive with discussion & the number of viewers are outstanding.

Hi Tamarind

You fall asleep. Me? My favourite phrase is \"next week\" :oops:

[metz]

Hi EN,


PMed you.

[breguet]

Hi Mincy, Thanks for sticking up for me. Dunno why I'm being picked on ...


Hi En, I really meant it tongue in cheek. I caught the expression about the collar from CKS' post and thought he was hilarious. Glad you understand. Your son sounds really smart though - certainly smart enough for you to sit up and wonder what else you can do for him. I know I would

But yes, freedom of expression is for everyone. We're all sharing opinions and ideas here. The best posts are those that hold different views from mine, so I can try to see what the other person's perspective is - probably because I'm worried about missing out, haha! I guess that's why I'm a kiasu parent .

I hope we don't lose sight of what the discussion is about. What I like about the article is that it asks us to focus on the child and not the label. A question I'd like to ask is, is preparedness the same thing as gifted? In this day and age especially in our society where we place great value on education, are we equating the two? And is it really the same thing?

[metz]

breguet:

Hi Mincy, Thanks for sticking up for me. Dunno why I'm being picked on ...

Hi Mincy,

Thanks too. Didn't know that my post is treading on sensitive ground :oops:

[jedamum]

breguet:

A question I'd like to ask is, is preparedness the same thing as gifted?

My answer is No.
I believe that giftness runs in the family...it is somehow genetic (and from tamarind's other post, i believe her husband is gifted 8)). That's why doctors usually have their kids going into medicine and so on.

[ChiefKiasu]

jedamum:

My personal favourite verse...


I tried to teach my child with books.
He gave me only puzzled looks.

I tried to teach my child with words.
They passed him by often unheard.

Despairingly I turned aside.
\"How shall I teach my child?\" I cried.

Into my hand he put the key.
\"Come,\" he said, \"play with me.\"
...

It's so beautiful...

[jedamum]

ChiefKiasu:

It's so beautiful...

:lol: So sentimental tonight?
As much as i would like to play with my ds1, i find his bossy behaviour a bit suffocating at times....it almost felt like he is dictating how i should play instead of playing alongside with me.

[ChiefKiasu]

jedamum:

...As much as i would like to play with my ds1, i find his bossy behaviour a bit suffocating at times....it almost felt like he is dictating how i should play instead of playing alongside with me.

That sounds like you have a little future CEO in the making The easiest way to win a game is to be in charge of defining its rules. Guess your kid really likes to win :lol: .

[jedamum]

ChiefKiasu:

Guess your kid really likes to win :lol: .

Sometimes i really wonder if the 'freedom of speech' (not like olden days where kids are supposed to be seen and not heard) allowable at home is really a good idea.

[ChiefKiasu]

One of the things I feel very honoured about KiasuParents.com is how we have managed to bring together some of the brightest parents in Singapore to discuss parenting issues. If you go through the posts, you will find that the proportion of very insightful postings is uncommonly high compared to what you will find in other forums. Somehow, we have attracted very smart people to our portal.


In any such meetings of great minds, there will always be different points of view which are passionately argued by all sides. The airing of views from different angles allow completeness in the treatment of each subject that we bring up; and it is only by listening to all sides that we can derive deep understanding of the issues involved.

This is not about the freedom of speech - a term which I think is meaningless in today’s environment. Even in the US, it is politically incorrect to call a black a "black". You must say "African American". Those who say "black" are frowned upon.

This is about openess, tolerance and purpose. As long as there is no overt malice, we must learn to pay attention to what each other are saying, and agree to disagree if there are misalignments in views. We must not lose sight of our objective, which is the hope that through such interactions, we can become better parents to our young children.