All About Life Without Maids

[fifiyeo]

cherrygal:

Hi 24-hr mum,

Can I check if the dryer increases the electricity bills significantly as compared to pre-dryer days?

I noticed that the dryer does not increase my electrical bills significantly. Aircon does and of course when I had a maid, the bills were higher by almost $100 than now.

[Oppsgal]

fifiyeo:

cherrygal:

Hi 24-hr mum,

Can I check if the dryer increases the electricity bills significantly as compared to pre-dryer days?

I noticed that the dryer does not increase my electrical bills significantly. Aircon does and of course when I had a maid, the bills were higher by almost $100 than now.

Any good top load brand for dryer? Cannot have front load as my kid will play with the door... :skeptical:

[24hr-mum]

didnt compare electr bills cos i had a dryer ever since i got married. actually i heard that if u leave the scv setup box on standby mode, that will eat up a lot of electricity. hvg a maid, of cos, will shoot up the bill cos they wash everyday mah.

plus they wont try to save water and power.
i hvnt since a top load dryer but i still recommend u get a front load dryer - maybe one wif a child lock. so that if u ever move to a place that cant let u put dryer and washer side by side, esp a smaller place, u alwayz hv the option of stackg up the dryer.

some more, if u get a front load dryer, u can alwaz stack the dryer on top of the washer, so high, how can ur kid reach?? unless he uses a chair.

[Oppsgal]

24hr-mum:

didnt compare electr bills cos i had a dryer ever since i got married. actually i heard that if u leave the scv setup box on standby mode, that will eat up a lot of electricity. hvg a maid, of cos, will shoot up the bill cos they wash everyday mah.

plus they wont try to save water and power.
i hvnt since a top load dryer but i still recommend u get a front load dryer - maybe one wif a child lock. so that if u ever move to a place that cant let u put dryer and washer side by side, esp a smaller place, u alwayz hv the option of stackg up the dryer.

some more, if u get a front load dryer, u can alwaz stack the dryer on top of the washer, so high, how can ur kid reach?? unless he uses a chair.

My kid probably won't reach for a chair...will probably use the banging to try to tumble the equipment down. For child locks. Don't think will work. :gloomy: But anyway I think is better to stick to no dryer and use natural drying.

Front load also very troublesome, have to bend up and down to put clothes in.

My top load washing machine can also use to do a quick wash and fill up the water level if you have more clothes to wash. So far I didn't use the normal cycle. Lazy to wait for the cycle to finish. As long clothes come out no detergent is consider clean for me.

[Sarah0501]

feeling gd n less stressful without maid . more peaceful . younger boy in childcare n elder 8yrs put in student care …

[YJL]

I will be going maid less, dropping bomb to her real soon. Am all ready for the challenge tho I know the phrase of settling down will take awhile. But enough is enough when i feel that she doesnt reciprocate our care on her anymore. I thought I have got a heaven sent helper these years but things really change ever since she started her off, getting more demanding and I have to put up her black face and mood swing. She’s into a relationship and also joined some basketball club during her off and very active in FB, so much so she’s always on the hp. It’s the attitude thing that drives up my nerve and sometimes it’s difficult to put thing across when they have been with u for long. From a kampong girl when she first came with nothing to one that has a lot that we showered her, she has taken us for granted and she knows our weakness is we are the soft speaking, gentle nature type and predicted that we will never send her off suddenly.得寸进尺best describe it.


Now I only headache how am I going to tell her we will not renew her
contract anymore. This will be our first and also last helper. Any advice how i should go about it? How advance will
you inform your helper? Thanks in advance for your kind sharing.

[stressedoutmummy]

YJL:

I will be going maid less, dropping bomb to her real soon. Am all ready for the challenge tho I know the phrase of settling down will take awhile. But enough is enough when i feel that she doesnt reciprocate our care on her anymore. I thought I have got a heaven sent helper these years but things really change ever since she started her off, getting more demanding and I have to put up her black face and mood swing. She's into a relationship and also joined some basketball club during her off and very active in FB, so much so she's always on the hp. It's the attitude thing that drives up my nerve and sometimes it's difficult to put thing across when they have been with u for long. From a kampong girl when she first came with nothing to one that has a lot that we showered her, she has taken us for granted and she knows our weakness is we are the soft speaking, gentle nature type and predicted that we will never send her off suddenly.得寸进尺best describe it.


Now I only headache how am I going to tell her we will not renew her
contract anymore. This will be our first and also last helper. Any advice how i should go about it? How advance will
you inform your helper? Thanks in advance for your kind sharing.

I have been through that. My maid of 3 yrs changed ever since she got to know a few other maids. Wanted a handphone and when we don't allow, she cried and sulked. We relented on condition she uses it only on weekends. But she wants to use it on weekdays too, and gently threatened that she wants to go home if we do not agree. So, I granted her wish but without telling her we were sending her home. 2 days before her flight, we told her that we were sending her home coz we do not agree to her using the hp. (Btw, her work and attitude becomes worse with handphone and facebook). She was shocked at first, but we explain to her our reasons. She was ok thereafter and in fact, looks happier, especially when we brought her around shopping. But I do not give her any gifts or extra, coz I had given her an extra 1 month salary when she extended her contract.

Wish you all the best.

[24hr-mum]

YJL:

I will be going maid less, dropping bomb to her real soon. Am all ready for the challenge tho I know the phrase of settling down will take awhile. But enough is enough when i feel that she doesnt reciprocate our care on her anymore. I thought I have got a heaven sent helper these years but things really change ever since she started her off, getting more demanding and I have to put up her black face and mood swing. She's into a relationship and also joined some basketball club during her off and very active in FB, so much so she's always on the hp. It's the attitude thing that drives up my nerve and sometimes it's difficult to put thing across when they have been with u for long. From a kampong girl when she first came with nothing to one that has a lot that we showered her, she has taken us for granted and she knows our weakness is we are the soft speaking, gentle nature type and predicted that we will never send her off suddenly.得寸进尺best describe it.


Now I only headache how am I going to tell her we will not renew her
contract anymore. This will be our first and also last helper. Any advice how i should go about it? How advance will
you inform your helper? Thanks in advance for your kind sharing.

i had the same situation as u, wf my exmaid who left in nov after wkg for us for 4+yrs. she was similar to ur maid, from a humble maid to one who started using fb, and getting on the hp more often during the day tho not talking on the phone but was usg fb n sms. she was shocked when i told her that my mil coming to stay wf us (just an excuse) and so we had to send her off cos they cant get along. it was v emotionally stressful for me to tell her the news and on that day itsf i still felt bad and stressed cos generally she is ok but more shortcomings are showing but its becos she has worked too long. no more humility already in her attitude towards us so she needs a new boss to be back to square one. or maybe she compared wf her frds who worked for angmoh?

anyway, find some excuse to say u not renewing her. but never mention its becos of her work etc or the kids etc. find a good way to end.
maids are like some food... they are only \"best before...eg 3 years\" ie they do hav an expiry date.

[fifiyeo]

Hi! Does anyone own a Philips Airfryer or a Tefal Actifry?

[YJL]

stressedoutmummy:

I have been through that. My maid of 3 yrs changed ever since she got to know a few other maids. Wanted a handphone and when we don't allow, she cried and sulked. We relented on condition she uses it only on weekends. But she wants to use it on weekdays too, and gently threatened that she wants to go home if we do not agree. So, I granted her wish but without telling her we were sending her home. 2 days before her flight, we told her that we were sending her home coz we do not agree to her using the hp. (Btw, her work and attitude becomes worse with handphone and facebook). She was shocked at first, but we explain to her our reasons. She was ok thereafter and in fact, looks happier, especially when we brought her around shopping. But I do not give her any gifts or extra, coz I had given her an extra 1 month salary when she extended her contract.
Wish you all the best.

Thanks for your personal sharing on this.
I always have fear that if I tell her only days in advance that we are sending her off, I think she will be mad with us for not telling ahead and given her a choice if she wants to transfer to another home. With that in mind, I'm not sure what she will put up for the few days when she's still with us. To say or not to