Do you cane your daughters when they misbehave?
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with the kids nowadays, caning only makes them more rebellious. what i would suggest is more practical methods of punishing them. like reducing their allowance or grounding them. talk to them and advise but do not nag at them. at their age, anything that appeals to them as nag falls on dead ears. hope that helps.
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I think the question for me is whether am I disciplining or
Am I punishing. What appears to be the same really isn’t. -
agree with the 8 tips and we can our 18months daughter when she misbehaves too or when she does dangerous acts like touching the fan, etc.
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Yes, i cane my 2 daughters when they really drive me up the wall…but each time after using the cane, i would feel very very guilty that i am not a good father…each time i remind myself i should be more patience, patience…i am still improving on this.
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Happyfate:
Yes, i cane my 2 daughters when they really drive me up the wall...but each time after using the cane, i would feel very very guilty that i am not a good father...each time i remind myself i should be more patience, patience...i am still improving on this.
When i got so angry and wanna cane my boy when he's naughty. i couldnt bear to do so as caning him will make me feel that im a failure mother. didnt give him a complete family... -
Yes.
imho: we as parents should use the cane.
But the cane is a double edge sword. It can work in your favour if used correctly … or it can cause distance and rebellion.
My daughter is only 2 yrs old, but we use the cane.
We make sure we are not canning her out of frustration or anger. Rather it is a painful lesson, that we hope she will learn from.
no point using the cane if it is not painful, yet it is even worse when you are angry and hit the child recklessly.
If it is not painful, no lesson learnt. If hit receklessly, lesson learnt is parent has gone mad …
Cane with objective and an explanation, but all we can do is hope they understand it is for their own good. In fact … it hurts us more than her … -
I dont think it’s an good idea to cane your children… this shouldnt be the right way to educate them to be a better person, it’s best that we parents do not resort to cannings, for the first few times maybe they’ll be afraid but as they grow older they will be very immune to the punishment and it is not gona help… so instead of doing it for their own good, they will turn against you … Best solution is to talk to them and spend time understanding the problem.
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-- I usually get caned by my mom for simply using the computer to play games ANY TIME. EVEN DURING THE HOLS --
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But I can see after entering 12 years old, the caning kinda dropped to only once in 7 or 8 months.
ALTHOUGH I STILL USE AS MUCH COMPUTER AS BEFORE. -
2ppaamm:
poor thing.. so what was her buttocks like after the 26 strokes? can she sit properly?Hit her on her buttocks. She has to prone on the bed and cannot resist. Otherwise, I will increase. That's why, after 21 times, she said, \"Mama, can you wait a while, it is very painful, I need a break.\"
Quite poor thing, hor? If I don't teach her, who will?
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