My daughters suddenly cries very easily and refuse to go sch
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So for sch refusal, we should just continue to send her to sch. Let her get used to going sch all over again?
Just too many changes in sch, doesnt help when she was out for two weeks due to fever and when she returns she will be promoted to a new class with a new teacher and new routine.
I believe that’s why she is feeling all so uncertain. -
Yes, just continue and don’t bend the rules just becoz you heartache. If no choice, you still have to send. The sooner she gets used to it, the better.
You have to be a bit ruthless in the first 2 days and just leave. Dun expect her to wave bye bye to you.
One thing you can do is to get someone to fetch her home earlier for the first few days. I did that when my gal is trying to get used to a new environment. Gradually lengthen the time by half an hour. When my gal first entered childcare, I fetched her at 1pm, then 3pm, then 4.30pm, then now I can go at 6pm and she’s still happily playing with the kids there. -
My son is 2y3m now, attending a 3hrs pre-nursery class. He seems fine when you ask him if he wants to go to school and will also reply you that he goes to school to find teachers and friends while mum and dad goes to work. But once we reach school each morning, it is non-stop crying (and ends up with him puking out his breakfast).
Teachers recommend that we hand him over fast and be out of sight.
Really at wits end as to what to do now. We have been making efforts to him before school starts that he would be attending school without parents and he is fine. Until he actually goes.
Just sharing, but advice welcome -
It's ok, kids always have separation anxiety. Just treat it as morning exercise for their lungs. They will get over it faster if you just leave them and go off :siam: . After some time, they will realise it is ok, and exercise their lungs less. May happen again on bad mood days, or some other occasions :nailbite: .
My DS cried for 3 terms in nursery :yikes: (2nd and 3rd term was dependent on good / bad mood days), but was perfectly adaptable by kindergarten time. He even refused to wear clothes (ran round naked) so that we could not bring him to school :faint: . Ended up we brought him there in pyjamas :slapshead: . I was so stressed I ended up crying with him :oops: !!! Thereafter we discovered he was perfectly alright once we were out of sight :stupid: . -
Thank God my kids adapted really well to childcare. Both took about 2 weeks before they could go into the school without crying.
My tip would be to do every routine item nonchalantly. Wake up, drink milk, dawdle a bit if time permits, set a time limit eg. we will leave after the TV show ends (so choose short cartoons). Dress them up without the need to announce or get agreement every time you do it. Just do it as a matter of fact. Don’t make a big issue of everything. Keep the process calm and clockwork like.
That’s why you need to allow enough time for the morning routine. You panic, they will panic and wail. If they do start crying, just distract with something they like. You can spend a few minutes to talk about other things but carry on with the dressing in a calm manner and start taking the school bag to the car etc. Signal to your kid that it’s time to go. If all else fails, just go in the PJs. He can change in the car or at the school.
In the car, don’t harp on school. Don’t ask him what he learnt etc. Just talk about the scenery outside - cars, trees, traffic lights. I put on a Sesame Street CD for my kid and she starts singing the songs or tells me which monster it is.
When you reach, leave fast esp if he’s crying. Be ruthless. They’ll be ok. I was really ruthless but I call up to check if they are ok.
You are lucky that your kid only needs to attend a 3hr class so it’s really not that long. Give your kid a treat of ice cream for being a good boy when you fetch him.
At night, I do bedtime reading with Sesame Street & Dora books about going to school. These stories help them to see that even Elmo and Dora love school. Don’t ask him about his school at this juncture since he’s still resistant. -
Maybe you are right, my wife and I would usually keep talking with him about school when we are home after work. Will stop and try to make a routine for him. Hopefully he will slowly get used to it.
Today was another terrible experience for him when we left him with the teachers. Once I handed him over to the teacher to carry him in, he was crying and shouting "Mummy, Papa!". Heartache. But no choice, still turn and walk away. Hiazzzzz… -
Why send the little girl to childcare?
1) are you a working mum?
From my past experience, I had learnt one valuable lesson.
Listen to the child . If she is upset, don’t go … Something very upsetting might had happened and she could not relate the entire incident to you yet.
Bear with her, keep her with you or send her to grandparents house to be taken care.
Wait till she is 4years old , then, you can consider sending her to K1.
Frankly speaking, no rush.
That is my just my opinion … -
I think we all have our own reasons for sending the kids to childcare or pre-school. In fact, I think it is beneficial to the child to socialise and learn more skills instead of staying home with grandparents and watching TV most of the time.
It is also not fair to expect our aged parents to chase after an active kid for so many years.
If you really think the school environment is upsetting - impatient teachers, bullies in school etc, change to another school by all means. -
i got a feeling someone is bullying ur baby at school
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glad to have all these great tips! didnt know that kids have terrible twos too hahas. thanks for sharing!
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