In-law problems?

[Angelight]

Hi, do any of you skip the reunion dinner with the in-laws? What are the excuses you gave?

[silverhorse]

janet_lee88:

CNY means having to put up those drama-mama nonsense again :rant:

I usually travel during CNY. Its been like this for years and my PIL are inmmune to it, though they expressed their displeasure.

My parents are cool about it...

So, no nonsense at all for me w MIL. She'll grumble and grumble lor...

[BlueBells]

Angelight:

Hi, do any of you skip the reunion dinner with the in-laws? What are the excuses you gave?

Erm ... does your ILs have reunion dinner with their parents or their ILs? If not, I think it is definitely justified to say that you are following their example, and they can't fault that.

I have my own frustrations and just told my hubby that effectively from next year, the reunion dinner / lunch with ILs must follow my schedule, otherwise, I am not heading back, simply by virtue of following their example of not having reunion feast with their ILs or parents. I can't be faulted for following their example, right??

[janet88]

Angelight:

Hi, do any of you skip the reunion dinner with the in-laws? What are the excuses you gave?

Cannot skip or else hubby will have a big fight with me.
My SIL organizes it every year bcos the old one doesn't want to do anything...totally unbelievable...it's her responsibility.

So we go and eat and spend most of the time yakking with each other.

[kiddo]

auntieM:

janet_lee88:

CNY means having to put up those drama-mama nonsense again :rant:

Can we rant together.. .. :please:

hahhaahhaaa you all so funnie .....
let the Show time begin......CNY

ting ting ting :boogie:

[racoon12]

My mil CNY mode is super duper on liao… Every time my kids will get yak yak for nothing… Till my elder 1 develop immune to it.

[janet88]

racoon12:

My mil CNY mode is super duper on liao.... Every time my kids will get yak yak for nothing.... Till my elder 1 develop immune to it.

My son is not looking forward about the lunch with them this Sun...of late he is starting to get pissed off with their pretence esp the paternal grandmother...so fake till my hair stands. Told him it's just 2 hours and that's it. Just eat.

[racoon12]

janet_lee88:

racoon12:

My mil CNY mode is super duper on liao.... Every time my kids will get yak yak for nothing.... Till my elder 1 develop immune to it.

My son is not looking forward about the lunch with them this Sun...of late he is starting to get pissed off with their pretence esp the paternal grandmother...so fake till my hair stands. Told him it's just 2 hours and that's it. Just eat.

Janet,
Although my boy is nt pissed off as he will be meeting his cousin, he is having the kind of 'hear no evil, see no evil' towards the adult.

Reunion dinner suppose to be a happy occassion but due to people \"crazy for affection and show off attitude\", making it unpleasant occassion. Sometimes i am just wishing i can be skip the dinner with inlaw and having it with my mum and niece.... the feeling will be 1000 x different....

[Strparent]

imho, just put all YOUR personal feelings aside on this occasion, enjoy the family reunion and give thanks for health, prosperity and the future.


If every one give a little leeway, understand that this gathering is NOT about you, not about him, not about HER, etc... http://carrinekua.blogspot.com/2011/02/chinese-new-year-3rd-day-big-family.html in good health and to give thanks and appreciation to the seniors who have brought us up, similarly for the kids to appreciate us..... by smiling and hugging us when we give them those little red packets.

A reunion dinner together symbolise more than just a meal, do not spoil it for yourself ( and others ) by bearing a grudge or showing contempt. Out of 365 days, surely one day is not too much to ask ?

Happy New Year all.

[janet88]

Strparent:

If every one give a little leeway, understand that this gathering is NOT about you, not about him, not about HER, etc...

This year's reunion is not complete family thing...bcos eldest and youngest just had an argument...old one not happy her precious youngest son isn't invited for lunch. Told hubby not to get involved.