Do you teach your child(ren) good manners?

[jedamum]

kiasimom:

I did not see the parent reasoning with the child that he should not be throwing a temper just because he cannot get what he wants. And I did not hear the parents telling the child that he is not suppoosed to hit his own parent.
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perhaps the parent was waiting for the kid to calm down before explaining the situation?
in any case, is mis-behaviour equivalent to bad manners? :?
a well behaved kid can also have bad manners.
at times, kids do not know what is good manners/decorum, and the lack of it in certain situation immediately translate to bad manners.

[cmm]

jedamum:

kiasimom:

I did not see the parent reasoning with the child that he should not be throwing a temper just because he cannot get what he wants. And I did not hear the parents telling the child that he is not suppoosed to hit his own parent.
.

perhaps the parent was waiting for the kid to calm down before explaining the situation?
in any case, is mis-behaviour equivalent to bad manners? :?
a well behaved kid can also have bad manners.
at times, kids do not know what is good manners/decorum, and the lack of it in certain situation immediately translate to bad manners.

I agree with you, jedamum. Sometimes, when faced with a situation we expect children to behave in a certain way that is socially acceptable to us. However, we forget that the child has never been in that same situation before and does not know what is the socially acceptable way to behave. So the child being a child, behaves in a way that comes across as bad manners to us adults.

All too often, I find myself guilty of being too quick to judge my children's behaviour instead of putting myself into their shoes and think why they are behaving in this way.

Got to remind myself to be patient (not one of my virtues.....yet! ) and try to see things from the child's perspective...

[kiasimom]

Talking about good behaviour…

Is good manner equivalent to good behaviour?

If a child is not well-behaved, will this child have good manners?

[kiasimom]

jedamum:

perhaps the parent was waiting for the kid to calm down before explaining the situation?

in any case, is mis-behaviour equivalent to bad manners? :?
a well behaved kid can also have bad manners.
at times, kids do not know what is good manners/decorum, and the lack of it in certain situation immediately translate to bad manners.

I also hope that the parents will explain to the child after he calms down.

[jo.010813ong]

I strongly believe parents should teach children the right manners - especially respecting the elders.


We have instill respecting the elders since they are 2 years old. When they meet anyone at the elevator, my gals will greet uncles or aunties or good morning, etc.

[kiasimom]

jo.ong:

I strongly believe parents should teach children the right manners - especially respecting the elders.


We have instill respecting the elders since they are 2 years old. When they meet anyone at the elevator, my gals will greet uncles or aunties or good morning, etc.

That's very lovely of your children.
Do the uncles and aunties acknowledge their greetings?

When I was in Canada, all the neighbours greet us when they see us and engage in small talks with us

[jo.010813ong]

Well... mostly the uncles and aunties were caught by surprise :!: and slowly compose themselves before they acknowledge my gals. :lol:

[kiasimom]

It is very common in Singapore for everyone to treat everyone transparent


If you are too friendly, they treat you as a weirdo.

[Funz]

I think it all starts with the parents.


My kids will greet our neighbours and even the cleaner if we bump into them. When being served at a restaurant they will automatically say thank you to the serving staff. And if they need anything from anyone, the request will always be accompanied by a please.

At home when we are having our meals, they will always say mummy and daddy, please eat and thank you kakak or mummy if I am the one who cooked. Ok, no they are not stuffy prim and proper kids. Their thank yous are delivered with all the cheekiness of kids their age. It goes like mmm… yummy, thank you kakak for cooking my favourite (while making lip smacking noises). Or ummm… sprouts? not my fav but thank you mummy cos I know it is good for me (while giving me the ‘do i have to eat that?’ look). Hahah.

We did not really have to keep reminding them. It comes almost automatically. Guess I was brought up that way and it is something very natural for me as well, thus the kids just kind of picked that up too.

However, kids being kids, they can be rude at times. Especially with each other or their friends. So still have to guide them or correct them if they behave badly.

[loner]

kiasimom:

It is very common in Singapore for everyone to treat everyone transparent


If you are too friendly, they treat you as a weirdo.

Agree totally! Tried being friendly to neighbours B4 but they start thinking u r up to \"no good\" or has some \"motive\" in mind.... So now, just have to act \"bo chap\" or smile only 20% every time walk past them.... Then they will see u as \"normal\"