Maris Stella High

[bigfoot]

TonyThomasMum:

Need advice from you...

Recently DS became very quiet .... Over the weekends I tried to talk to him...
DS revealed to me that one of his classmate punched him and scolded him.
Not one time but many times already.

I was fairly shocked as this classmate of his which I happened to know is very friendly boy.

DS also come back home and use words like \"stupid\", \"idoit\".
As these are words he seldom use, I asked if someone scolded him with such words.
Sad to hear but DS said yes. That same classmate hit and scolded him.

What should I do to stop all these rubbish?

I suggest you email the form teacher and assistant form teacher for help. I'm sure the FT will address this issue. Also, you may want to get your DS to inform the subject teacher when he is hit. If it was during recess, he should approach any teachers nearby for help or inform his FT later.

My DS had also came home with bruises twice last year. The problems were addressed once we informed the FT. We also taught him how to deal with and avoid such situation. We do not advocate retaliation unless it is for self-defense (and I am sure parents here would agree with us). And yes, he also picked up some unsavoury words in school. But such things can't be avoided (even if he were in a Co-ed school). We can only teach him that it is wrong to use those words on people and hopefully, he will learn. It's all part of growing up.

[ptr]

Same thing happened to ds earlier in the first two weeks of school, there was some bullying in his class. I informed the ft and she was very very helpful. Email the ft first, she will at least pay more attention to try to see what happened.

[cherrygal]

Bullying is very common. The older boys play too rough sometimes and may even corner the younger ones and engage in \"play fight\". We taught our son to pull out and throw the shoes of the boys who try to kick his abdomen. He really did it and it worked!


For cases where he knew his assailant or bullies from the same class, we informed the Form Teacher and she promised to investigate. Trouble is, these boys have very bad memory and start playing together again the next day! :faint:

The form teacher will then come back to me and tell me the boys are still friends leh... :siao:

So, I just tell my boy to protect himself and retaliate when necessary. No point complaining to teacher all the time.

Yup, bad language can be picked up anywhere and I told him I can't prevent him from learning but he must know he can never say them (at least in front of me). Knowing the words doesn't mean you need to use them. I told him only gangsters and uneducated pple use them all the time.

[cherrygal]

Teach your kid to run to the Gen Office if he’s chased by a mob of bullies. Zombies wouldn’t dare to enter the church rite? Look for Mr Peh the disciplinary master.

[Zoji]

Hi All,

my boy also came back with the word idiot. and when i ask if he know the meaning he say dont know. OMG!!!

[Zoji]

Kuasimi:

PapayaDad:

DS do homework in TLC but still need to double check at home its done and done correctly. Also bought workbook from TLC to do at TLC.


Optional enrichment/tuition cost extra.

Can play chinese chess/board games, carum, or read at tlc. som etimes if very good get to play 15 minutes wii/playstation/nintendo ds...

Thanks PapayaDad for the info.

Hi, my son goes to this childcare Bethesda Student Care. It is at serangoon ave 3. I went to both TLC and this Bethesda before confirming on the latter. Personally i prefer Bethesda as firstly it is much cheaper and during school holiday they dont increase the price. (Even when i factor in the schoolbus) Secondly the aunties there are quite strict with the kids.

[ptr]

Zoji, may I know the fees for Bethesda? Are there other marists there too?thanks.

[beanstalk]

cherrygal:

We taught our son to pull out and throw the shoes of the boys who try to kick his abdomen. He really did it and it worked!


For cases where he knew his assailant or bullies from the same class, we informed the Form Teacher and she promised to investigate. Trouble is, these boys have very bad memory and start playing together again the next day! :faint:

The form teacher will then come back to me and tell me the boys are still friends leh... :siao:

So, I just tell my boy to protect himself and retaliate when necessary. No point complaining to teacher all the time.

Yup, bad language can be picked up anywhere and I told him I can't prevent him from learning but he must know he can never say them (at least in front of me). Knowing the words doesn't mean you need to use them. I told him only gangsters and uneducated pple use them all the time.

Very useful tips, thanks! Ditto about bad language.

My son too has been kicked by boys...and he returns to play with them the next day. He does not want me to tell his FT. What to do.

A boys' school has a higher than normal level of testostorone and it all has to come out somewhere. Guess it'll toughen them...

The boys he hangs out with regularly are fine, fortunately.

[TonyThomasMum]

Thank you all for the advice!

[Zoji]

ptr:

Zoji, may I know the fees for Bethesda? Are there other marists there too?thanks.

Hi, monthly is $270. Yes there are other marists there.
Address: 112 Serangoon Ave 3 Singapore 556109. It on the 4th level. Tel:62834419