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Haha. Kiss, I will give the teacher a call today. I tried emailing her but the email kept bouncing back. And during orientation she did say a few times that she prefer parents to drop written notes instead of email.
DS has a folder for all his homework and memos from day one. Just that he did not put his set of worksheets, which comes in the form of a thin A4 size booklet, into the folder and through the course of the day, the booklet got sqashed to the bottom of his bag and that was where we found it.
As for the Stellar book, we are very sure that it was handed in to the teacher. First the teacher said DS most probably did not hand in. When he insisted he did the teacher said he most probably did not write his name on it which again we are very sure his name was on it. I wrote it for him myself. Then again even if his name was not on it, there should be a nameless copy of the book right? So what happened then? We have no idea. But it being a small matter I told DS to just move on when he kept harping about the book not being his. Yesterday he finally told me why it bothers him that much. I thought he was bothered cause of the imperfection of the front page having another person’s name which was blanked out. He said this was someone else’s book, what if that person is also trying very hard to find it but cannot find it because I am using it. That person will be very worried. What if his teacher punish him because he cannot find it?
DS is indignant now. He is asking me stuff like, why is the teacher allowed to misplace my book but I get punished the first time I forget something. Is forgetting to bring something being naughty? You said it is ok to make mistakes mummy, so long as we learn from it. But my school does not allow mistakes. Not even once!
Last night he got up from bed twice just to check his bag to make sure he has everything in there. I had to stop him from getting up another time. This morning he said he did not sleep well.
I told DH, not only is DS having problems adjusting to this school, I am having some problems as well. DD’s school is totally different her teachers are a lot more approachable and forthcoming. -
Funz.. i feel u definitely nid to tok to ur DS's FT abt it n not hold on any longer.. Ur ds has pointed out a very valid factor.. Abt making mistakes.. everyone make mistakes.. n if its the first.. a chance shld be given.. n not immediate punishment.. I feel the FT is not professional enuff in handling the matter..
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Thanks Mintymin.
Yet to hear the teacher’s side of things. Called but could not get her. So waiting to hear from her before I pass ‘judgement’ on her capabilities. haha.
Sometimes, kids perception of things can be different, so always good to hear what the teacher has to say. -
My take is...
In school, follow school rules and teachers' instructions.
At home, follow parents' rules and instructions.
As long there's no physical danger to dd at school, I would give her teachers the benefit of the doubt.
I would not to disagree on teacher's approach in front of kid, else the kid will come home and EMO about everything that teacher does.
Of cos' my 慈母 wife will disagree with me. :razz:
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Agree, about the following school rules and instructions. But certain things warrant punishment certain things don’t. I am not disagreeing with the teacher in front of DS. In fact I have been explaining her actions to DS. But a parent has to be careful to support their kids and acknowledge their concerns or before you know it, your kid will stop telling you things.
I have no issues with the teacher punishing my kid. I just need to know what is her style and work with DS on how to manage his teacher. Like I said before, if the issue is the school or teacher or a bully, a lot easier to resolve. If problem is DS’s own attitude, things will be trickier.
I am frustrated that this had to happen just when DS is trying so hard to be positive about school. But well, I think we will muddle through somehow. -
Hi funz…
In a way, I agree with what Daddy D has said.
When we attended the Orientation, that was what the Principle mentioned.
If you are denying or questioning what the Teachers has done or said infront of your child, then it is very difficult for the Teacher to manage the students.
Of course, we all make mistakes… but if the Teacher is to give chance to one… it means he/she will need to give a 2nd chance to all other 29 students… and how many chances can the Teacher give? Ponder for thought… -
Again, who said anything about disagreeing with the teacher in front of my kid? DS doesn’t even know that I am trying to talk to his teacher. And like I said, I am trying to hear the teacher’s side of the story.
In front of my boy, I tell him, be more careful and more aware of your stuff and things happening around you. You made a mistake, you got punished, more importantly is you learn and you improve.
What I am trying to do is to know what kind of a teacher DS and I are dealing with. One who is lenient or one who is strict or one who deals with the children according to the ‘weather’.
Doesn’t each and every child deserve a 2nd chance? Is DS wrong to want to understand why his is put in the naughty corner. Is forgetting/misplacing something being naughty? How to expect children to dare to explore and experiment if they are punished even for the slightest transgression? Ponder for thought.
I agree, schools have their rules, teachers need to be given the space to manage the class as they see fit. Children need to take some knockings to prepare them for the real world. But that does not mean parents blindly accept everything that is happening in school and neither should they accept everything that their children say to them. So only way is to open up communication between school and parents.
If the teacher is ultra strict, I cushion it for my kids. If the teacher is too lenient, I will be the one being strict to ensure my kids don’t slack. I fill in the gaps.
If at first you don’t bother to understand or make an effort to be understood, don’t blame the other party when things go south. That is my take of things. -
Funz, is the FT around when the school ends?
Think somewhere along the way, it was misunderstood that DS knows you are confronting the teacher. :grphug: -
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