Advice Needed Urgently! Withdraw from SAP Sec School !

[Littlefly]

Just want to rant. So pissed off with my brother. I smsed him the email addresses i received so far to reach out to mummies experienced in homeschooling and he asked me to write on his behalf. I told him to do it himself as he is the parent and he said his English is poor (he is chinese educated). Told him to ask my nephew to go email himself and he said my nephew won't do it. Then in the end, he said he will draft the requests for me to vet before sending over. I told him i cannot be the middle person (redirecting email traffic) forever, he has to step up.


Maybe I am also impatient with him coz my lil one is feeling under the weather..:(

[Snow Crystal]

Littlefly:

Maybe I am also impatient with him coz my lil one is feeling under the weather..:(

You are a great sibling to be so concerned. I would think homeschooling requires dedicated parents and your bro and SIL don't seem suitable if they can't even take the initiative to touch base with the homeschoolers. I see parents like 2ppaamm are extremely encouraging, motivating and dedicated parents who have initiative to sail the unchartered seas (at least local context wise). Perhaps your brother or you can share with your nephew on the uni credits system and if your nephew is interested, he can explore that route all by himself with the material, forms etc. But funding for uni when he qualifies will be a problem. Ask your brother to talk to school on Chen's suggestion to self study then go school exams only. He sounds like very independent so he may be able to self study all by himself. Any questions email the teachers. At least give him a life buoy. The nephew seems to be at his wits end *poor boy* so please ask your brother to look at the situation from the angle of his son and not from society. On the other hand, if his only main problem is anxiety over answering questions, can't special arrangements be made with the SAP school to request that questions not to be directed at him. He seems to be a bright independent boy - don't write him off juz because he's special and different. It's interesting that the same boy may be labelled as trouble maker or a Thomas Edison, depending on the parents' perspective.

[Mdm Koh]

Littlefly:

My brother (a buddhist) has said his son is not born to be kind. He is very selfish and not capable of showing any compassion. I do not know my nephew well enough to make any observations. He seemed to be living in his own world (plus internet plus his parents only).

Every child is born with a clean slate. Your nephew is the way he is now because of parental indulgence.

[2ppaamm]

Littlefly:

Just want to rant. So pissed off with my brother. I smsed him the email addresses i received so far to reach out to mummies experienced in homeschooling and he asked me to write on his behalf. I told him to do it himself as he is the parent and he said his English is poor (he is chinese educated). Told him to ask my nephew to go email himself and he said my nephew won't do it. Then in the end, he said he will draft the requests for me to vet before sending over. I told him i cannot be the middle person (redirecting email traffic) forever, he has to step up.


Maybe I am also impatient with him coz my lil one is feeling under the weather..:(

Get your nephew to seek help himself. It is always better that way.

[MrsSeah]

I have no experience in home schooling. But from the way you wrote, do you think your brother and your nephew is suitable for home schooling?


I feel in order to home school the kids, parents and kids commitment is very important. They must be well organise of what to do and good time planning for the day. If not, in the end, all may just lay around the house doing nothing. Isn't that become worst? :roll:

Both your brother and nephew don't want to take the 1st step to source the information and expect you to do everything for them. How sure are they that they are able to commit to daily work that required them to go thru for home schooling?

Than is my own point of view. I may not be right. :roll:

[MrsSeah]

2ppaamm:

Littlefly:

Just want to rant. So pissed off with my brother. I smsed him the email addresses i received so far to reach out to mummies experienced in homeschooling and he asked me to write on his behalf. I told him to do it himself as he is the parent and he said his English is poor (he is chinese educated). Told him to ask my nephew to go email himself and he said my nephew won't do it. Then in the end, he said he will draft the requests for me to vet before sending over. I told him i cannot be the middle person (redirecting email traffic) forever, he has to step up.


Maybe I am also impatient with him coz my lil one is feeling under the weather..:(

Get your nephew to seek help himself. It is always better that way.

I agreed.

Think out of the box - Since your nephew want to homeschool himself. Than he has to list down how is he going to plan for his 4 years in secondary at home. How is he going to work this out. Eg. What is his schedule, what subject he is going to take for his o'level. How is he going to do his exam as a homeschooler. Since he is good in sourcing information and he knew can be homeschool than ask him draft out his plan for his parent.

It is easy to said he want home school and want to quit school and leave the rest of the thing for other to worry and plan for him.

If he can give a good plan out of it and sure homeschooling is good for him. Than as a parent, they can than support him.

I feel maybe you should push the ball to him and tell him to come out a good plan before they agreed to let him quit.

[Littlefly]

2ppaamm:

Get your nephew to seek help himself. It is always better that way.

2ppaamm, can you message me your email so i can pass to my brother and get my nephew (or brother) to contact you directly ? Thanks.

[Littlefly]

Snow crystal: Thanks for your kind words.


Mdm Koh: haha, I don’t disagree with you. My kids are still little and how they will turn out in future, I can’t foresee but I am a believer of tough love.

Mrs Seah: Honestly I don’t know if they are suitable or if my nephew would come up with funny suggestions (like quit study etc). My bro and SIL are just fire-fighting crisis over crisis to meet demands from my nephew.
Fully agree with you ‘It is easy to said he want home school and want to quit school and leave the rest of the thing for other to worry and plan for him.’

[Bbee]

I really feel for the boy, I don’t understand what he is going through but am sure he is very frustrated and angry to behave the way he is.

Hopefully you will be able to get some leads or at least advice on where to start etc.

2ppaamm’s kids are lucky to have such a great mum who is so resourceful and determine to help her kids. Am sure it was a long, hard search/battle before she found her solutions. Most parents of such kids are clueless. I also understand that not all have the resources.
I really hope you get some leads soon on how to go about this. All the best and take care.

[Littlefly]

Bbee: Absolutely agree with you on this! It takes a lot of drive, commitment from the parents too. Its not easy on my brother and sil to handle a child who obviously outwit, outreason and outtalk both of them and highly sensitive. Actually I don't know where to start too but i will try to read up and hopefully dont ask silly questions myself. Haha.

Bbee:

2ppaamm's kids are lucky to have such a great mum who is so resourceful and determine to help her kids. Am sure it was a long, hard search/battle before she found her solutions. Most parents of such kids are clueless. I also understand that not all have the resources.