What is being a KiasuParent?

[scenic98]

which caring parent is not kiasu? of course if kiasu to the extend of irritating the person next to you, then cannot la.

we all want the best for our child. we want our child to be successful in life so that some parents can basked in glory, others to so called reaped the returns from the "investment" and some simply know that they have done the right thing. Well, I guess most parents have a mixture of the above.
Me? I just wish my girl does her best. If her best means she’s in the middle of the pack, so be it, there are plenty of other options these days, unlike our time where academic means almost everything.
We as parents will now what is the potential of our kids. We as husband and wives should also watch out for each other to ensure we do not kill the flame in the child early.
Most important, we should be good models to our child.

[super_dad]

Yes, indeed....we need to not forget that the person that has the most influence in our children's life is ourselves. We do need to be good models for our children.

[fo12eal]

Kiasu:-


1. Just because your cousin’s children learn piano, you also want your child(ren) to learn even though they might not be interested. Worst of all, add in another one - violin lesson

2. Having K1 lesson in 2 different place. Morning and Noon session

3. Just because you hear say this enrichment lesson is good (thanks to media or even kiasu friend or colleages say so) you send your children there too.

4. Before baby is born, already enroll baby for a programme age 6mth to 18mth (on waiting list) to a branded play group.

[jedamum]

super_dad:

We do need to be good models for our children.

I strongly agree on this.
Recently, my boy has been 'picking' on my 'double-standards'....ie why I asked him to let his younger brother watch dvd when he is in the midst of his tv programme and that I refuse to let the younger brother watch dvd when I am in the midst of watching my tv programme. :roll:
Cannot bring him shopping too...ie 'why mummy said she like the dress she can buy, why mummy said didi like the book, can buy, but why I said I like the toys, I cannot buy.' :roll:

[tamarind]

\"kiasu\" means \"scared of losing\" in Chinese. Many parents are scared of losing to their friends and relatives. The biggest problem is when parents start to compare their kids. They become kiasu.


Teaching the child new knowledge and skills, simply to enrich the child's life, is not being kiasu. If the child is capable to learn to read at 1 year old, then teaching him at this age is also not being kiasu.

fo12eal:

2. Having K1 lesson in 2 different place. Morning and Noon session

:shock: Shocking. I wonder how a child can survive this ?

[jedamum]

tamarind:

fo12eal:

2. Having K1 lesson in 2 different place. Morning and Noon session

:shock: Shocking. I wonder how a child can survive this ?

tamarind,
this is not uncommon. it is similar to childcare arrangement too, except that it is cheaper and that the mum/maid need to send and fetch twice a day. if you consider the workload of some pcf or kindergarten (that some of us claimed is not doing enough for academic preparations), it may not be stressful for the kid to attend both sessions.
to some parents, it sure beats leaving the kids at home with the maid.

[tamarind]

jedamum,

I thought a child that age should still be taking afternoon naps ? It will be very tiring to attend classes both in the morning and afternoon. My girl’s K1 class is 4 hours long, I cannot imagine if she does another 4 hours in the morning.

A child should have time for free play. Staying at home with the maid or grandparents do not mean they are doing nothing. They can learn a lot of things through free play.

[kaitlynangelica]

tamarind:

jedamum,

I thought a child that age should still be taking afternoon naps ? It will be very tiring to attend classes both in the morning and afternoon. My girl's K1 class is 4 hours long, I cannot imagine if she does another 4 hours in the morning.

A child should have time for free play. Staying at home with the maid or grandparents do not mean they are doing nothing. They can learn a lot of things through free play.

Hi tamarind,

I tot you mentioned you gal also does attend some enrichment class in the afternoon? I had a friend who's kids attended PCF in the morning and then attended enrichment from Mon to Fri in the afternoon. The maid ferried them by taxi.

Also, the kid tends to pick up a lot of bad grammar from the maid and sometimes the grandparents as well.

[tamarind]

kaitlynangelica,

My kids only go to Chinese enrichment class once a week on Saturday only, 1 hour 45 minutes During weekdays, they only attend nursery/kindergarten in the afternoon, no other enrichment classes.

My concern is that the child will not get any rest if she attends morning and afternoon kindergarten everyday. I think full day childcare is still relatively better, because they have nap time in the afternoon.

[kaitlynangelica]

tamarind:

kaitlynangelica,

My kids only go to Chinese enrichment class once a week on Saturday only, 1 hour 45 minutes During weekdays, they only attend nursery/kindergarten in the afternoon, no other enrichment classes.

My concern is that the child will not get any rest if she attends morning and afternoon kindergarten everyday. I think full day childcare is still relatively better, because they have nap time in the afternoon.

HI Tamarind,

You are really good! I had a quick look at your blog. You teach your kids so well! I tried teaching my k1 gal but found it difficult so I bit the bullet and sent her off to a more expensive kindergarten this year. She has improved but i wish that I could have taught her myself. Would have saved so much money. It's because of the financial factor that all these years, I have hesitated to have a 2nd kid. Really ex if you want to send them off to expensive schools like Pat's and all the enrichment classes. I know of pp who spend 1k a mth on each child and they really stretch themselves!