Guilty about not spending enough time with my kids
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What can he really do for his kid when he only stays in Singapore for a few days at a time? He probably thinks his young baby won't know his absence but I can guarantee you the wife will surely feel \"abandoned\" occasionally, esp when the baby falls ill or throws tantrums.
Making your adventures too interesting may only spark your kid to ask why can't you take him along? Or why are you \"enjoying life\" without him... My son asked me that when I only went for short business trips...
As a wife, I would prefer my husband to be there than to have \"compensation\" in kind.
As for what you think dads should do... it all depends on the age of the kid. You should go to http://www.dadsforlife.sg to read up on the important role of a father. And it's not just to provide money. Fathers have great influence over their kids. Boys and girls have different expectations of their dads. -
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Some can spend whole weekends with the kids and still felt insufficient, while some is proud with just 1x short outing on weekends. The right balance depends on your family support, your children’s needs, finances etc. If I may ask, why do you feel guilty? (besides wanting to spend more time with them) Is it b’cos you think they need better care? You miss out on their growing years? Find the cause and decide what you can/want to do about it. Guilt will harm the relationship with spouse/kids (e.g. over indulgence in them).
We all contribute to the family in different ways. Find your own balance, decide what you want/can do about it then be at peace with the situation. Feeling drives actions, actions drives results.
cheers!
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dadforgood:
Wow, at least you are here finding out how to deal with this problem because most fathers I know do not even bother. Some even \"engineer\" their way out of family time and sell their souls to cycling, golf, marathon running but claiming that the little time they have with their kids is \"quality time\". The sad truth is that many fathers miss the window where they can make the most impact on their children, before they turn into teens and soon enough into young adults.Hi all,
I feel guilty that I don't spend enough time with my kids because of work. Does anyone here feel the same? If so, how do you cope with it?
Would love to hear and learn from all of you.
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hehe, just decided to bring my 4yr old for a golf outing where he can just sit in the buggy. Quality time? Not sure but I’m sure he’ll enjoy.
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