How much household income is enough?

[spwriting]

I have friend who also earn 10k each. They hired a maid who must have the capability to drive. (drive kids to school), pick wife and then they go grocery shopping.... its also trust i guess but the maid has been with them for about 3 years now....


they think the 10k is better than being SAHM. To each their own beliefs.

Imp75:

HOw about this? Middle income grossing couple earning more than $10k each but hubby earns slightly lesser but wife can't drive. Should the wife contemplate staying home, the only monetary impact is less savings I guess, lifestyle and all else remains.

[Jasmy]

Imp75:

Given that you are SAHM, do you outsource the kids tuition to enrichment centers? ARe your spouse agreeable to that arrangement? If you are teaching your kids FT by yourself at home, would you say that your kids benefit staying at home under your tutorage than enrichment schools?

Still outsource for tuition. Sec 3 and P6, no joke. Can't teach them myself, most of the secondary sch stuff, all forgotten (i got no degree). Only help my P6 maths and Chinese since she got no tuition for these two. Basically, DH still ok to spend the money. We treat it as an 'investment' for our children. I think if a SAHM is capable of teaching her kids, the kids will benefit more than enrichment sch simply because a SAHM can tailor the 'program' to suit the kids but for enrichment sch, it's the other way round.

[LittleLambie]

Imp75:

Given that you are SAHM, do you outsource the kids tuition to enrichment centers? ARe your spouse agreeable to that arrangement? If you are teaching your kids FT by yourself at home, would you say that your kids benefit staying at home under your tutorage than enrichment schools?

I am a sahm with three kids. We spend good money every month for their enrichment classes (not tuition) even though my DH & I are fully capable to teach them ourselves. We view enrichment & tuition as two different purposes. Enrichments are like an additional source of exposure to what the school teaches, hence beneficial. Tuition to us, are for weaker kids who needed more guidance in their current schoolwork. In that sense, yes we parents can double up as tuition teachers.

Having said that, I do have ex-MOE teachers now sahms who outsourced all teachings to outsiders bcos in the process of coaching & teaching, it sort of soured the mother-daughter/mother-son relationship cos of expectations. After the outsource, their relationships turned for the better.

[Imp75]

Yeah how to be a SAHM if hubby expects me to be the maid, teacher, caretaker, cook and the laundry woman? I am not a superwoman.

[jedamum]

Imp75:

Yeah how to be a SAHM if hubby expects me to be the maid, teacher, caretaker, cook and the laundry woman? I am not a superwoman.

can.
but he cannot expect 100% from all.
ie 25% maid, 25% teacher, 25% cook, 25% laundry woman = 100% SAHM. :evil:
ie i clean the house 2x a week, teach 1 out of 4 subjects, cook 3x a week and do laundry 3x a week. :imcool:

[Jasmy]

jedamum:

Imp75:

Yeah how to be a SAHM if hubby expects me to be the maid, teacher, caretaker, cook and the laundry woman? I am not a superwoman.

can.
but he cannot expect 100% from all.
ie 25% maid, 25% teacher, 25% cook, 25% laundry woman = 100% SAHM. :evil:
ie i clean the house 2x a week, teach 1 out of 4 subjects, cook 3x a week and do laundry 3x a week. :imcool:

:rotflmao:

Same here, but I'm lazier than u. I only clean the house once a week, cook max twice per week but laundry wash everyday.

[Funz]

Imp75:

Yeah how to be a SAHM if hubby expects me to be the maid, teacher, caretaker, cook and the laundry woman? I am not a superwoman.

For a lot of FTWM, their hubby also expect them to be maid, teacher, caretaker, cook and laundry woman.

Rare are the ones who pitch in autmatically without the wife kicking up a fuss or going on strike.

Going to get from some of the superdads here liao.

:siam:

[toddles]

Imp75:

Yeah how to be a SAHM if hubby expects me to be the maid, teacher, caretaker, cook and the laundry woman? I am not a superwoman.

Short answer is - he shouldn't.

[LOLMum]

Imp75:

Yeah how to be a SAHM if hubby expects me to be the maid, teacher, caretaker, cook and the laundry woman? I am not a superwoman.

tsk tsk tsk, my dear, you forgot something very important!

we still need to have energy to \"fried rice\" with the hubby!!! :faint:

炒饭 炒饭 炒饭 炒饭 炒饭 炒饭
:faint: :evil:

[cnimed]

Imp75:

Given that you are SAHM, do you outsource the kids tuition to enrichment centers? ARe your spouse agreeable to that arrangement? If you are teaching your kids FT by yourself at home, would you say that your kids benefit staying at home under your tutorage than enrichment schools?

I don't outsource though hubby doesn't mind. I clean, cook, teach, and work from home. It's not something that I chose to do, cleaning and cooking not being my forte, but I HAD to do it because of my children's needs. One has environmental and food allergies, one has learning needs. For the first time in my life I start to examine mops and ask for cleaning tips. I google ways on how to clean the toilet, haha. I just could not find someone who can clean to my specifications, and I can't buy cooked food that my child can eat without reactions.

I had no choice and after some struggling, I find that I CAN do it. It was a painful learning curve where cleaning and cooking were concerned, but
pretty manageable now.

My hubby does spend time with the kids after he gets home from work, and does the dishes and he is in charge of the fishes. We hardly go out by ourselves, maybe once a month or so? Me time is rare and only if I can outlast the kids at night. But I find that it is okay.