All About Autism

[cnimed]

chibi:

she often ask me tho, why is she so sensitive to loud noises and strong smells? i told her , mummy is also very scared at times if a smell gets so strong, but mummy knows how to cover her nose and control her sensitivity .

Chibi,
I tell my sons (one doesn't like loud noises one doesn't like strong smells) with their help, I can definitely survive in the jungle because one can smell all danger and one can hear all preys and predators.

I share with them the importance of our senses - smelling helps our ancesters determined what food is still safe to eat, to detect fumes etc. I also inform them of jobs such as perfume making where a very keen sense of smell is prized. It is NOT a bad thing. They just have to be aware that other people do not have as keen a sense of smell and adjust their expectations of others. If your daughter has a keen sense of smell, cultivate it! Let her smell the different flowers. Smell food and see if she can tell the ingredients that went in through the smell. Learn about the different notes in perfume and let her explore!

For sound, again, it is not a bad thing. They are valuable commodity if we are living in a rural setting. (erm, for boys you can tell them they will make excellent hunters and spies.) Cultivate their ear - learn to distinguish different instruments, and at the same time, teach them to politely move away from noisy environments to give themselves a break.

[specialboymum]

windie:

specialboymum:

most of our kids are 'visual learner' and are very good in memorizing.

For my boy, he learnt all the roads in Singapore by playing with the iphone google map app (the one that have photos). He is now our walking GPS and street directory. Visual aids is always helpful when we are teaching visual learner. For my son, I got to use fingers to help my son to learn the 4 intonation in hanyu pinyin, which he is struggling with.

Regarding reading people's expression/feelings, it can be taught, but then must first build up eye contact.

my son also struggles w the 4 intonation in HYPY. Can u share how you teach?

Actually I'm still at the trying stage, so the method hasn't shown to be 100% successful yet. My boy has no problem with the pinyin but will always get confused with the word should be '1st', '2nd' tone and so forth, he can imitate each tone but have difficulties corresponding each tone to its right order. To help him, I have to put up 4 fingers, point to 1st finger and said the 1st tone, 2nd finger for 2nd tone etc, if I have papers and pens around, I will just write each of the sign with corresponding number 1-4 for him to see.
Er... not sure if you understand what I'm trying to explain, very difficult to explain through writing.

So far, the 'visual aid' helps slightly but once I remove the aids, he forgets everything and start struggling again, so I'm still trying to find ways to fine tune the teaching method.

Anyway, I wonder which high flyer, probably a government scholar officer in MOE came out with this brilliant idea of learning hanyu pinyin before learning the chinese words.. I don't think is a correct approach. sigh! but what to do?

[cnimed]

Teach the hanyu pinyin and give occasional practice, but put more emphasis on learning to write characters. That is what I did. Don’t tear your out over it. By P2 and P3, they transit over to words anyway.

[chibi]

hi deminc

thnks!
but this aside, lol the bad thing is, with my daughter's heightened sense of senses, she can almost smell / hear it every time i fart , even as light stinky as it is, or as soft as it is, and she wil goes, \" mummy, why are you always farting???\" :stupid:

[cnimed]

Hahaha…my son complains of stinky armpits. We threaten to remove all sweets if he dares utter that in public. (slap backside)

[helplessmum3]

nugget:

helplessmum3:

Chibi,

Time and time again I will always lost control of myself . And start to hate God.

Helplessmum3,

Please be strong. All of us here have been through what you went through. After the psychological assessment and if your child is really confirmed under ASD, you will go through another emotional turmoil again.

This is not a easy road and ASD is not something that can be cured. Most importantly help your child while you can. He is only 2.5 yrs old. Early intervention will be very very helpful for him.

Nugget,
My son physcologist app is on my birthday .
So this yr birthday , God send me a present, a autistic son.

Early intervention as u say not cure.
Still they remain defective in their life.
Like crack glass or mirror. Can't be mend .

My son is a mutant there onwards, Fantastic 4 maybe. All hav special intelligence but yet consider disability lo... High IQ yet consider disability individual . Fast learner yet disability .

Temple gradin is a scientist yet disability ..

Is sickness . Is mental sickness that always feel there is a door exist..

[Sun_2010]

helplessmum3:

Nugget,
My son physcologist app is on my birthday .
So this yr birthday , God send me a present, a autistic son.

Early intervention as u say not cure.
Still they remain defective in their life.
Like crack glass or mirror. Can't be mend .

My son is a mutant there onwards, Fantastic 4 maybe. All hav special intelligence but yet consider disability lo... High IQ yet consider disability individual . Fast learner yet disability .

Temple gradin is a scientist yet disability ..

Is sickness . Is mental sickness that always feel there is a door exist..

:hugs: :hugs: :hugs:
You are so in pain . Its ok to be sad.
But Hang in there, take it one step at a time.

:hugs:

[schweppes]

helplessmum3:

My son physcologist app is on my birthday .
So this yr birthday , God send me a present, a autistic son.

Early intervention as u say not cure.
Still they remain defective in their life.
Like crack glass or mirror. Can't be mend .

My son is a mutant there onwards, Fantastic 4 maybe. All hav special intelligence but yet consider disability lo... High IQ yet consider disability individual . Fast learner yet disability .

Temple gradin is a scientist yet disability ..

Is sickness . Is mental sickness that always feel there is a door exist..

Helplessmum3



STOP thinking rubbish!!

STOP talking rubbish!!

STOP acting rubbish!!


Autism is NOT a sickness nor a mental illness!!

Your son is NOT a mutant and this is NOT a punishment from God.

Autism CAN BE managed.

You make the opportunities happen for your child.

From what you share here about your son's progress and efforts, he is a bright and sensitive boy. I rejoice in his little achievements. Be proud of those!!

I believe in God and sometimes I wonder what He has in store for my child. I have stormed Heaven with my tears and a mother's desperation. But a mother's love knows no end. And I will do whatever it takes within my means to help my child.

Whatever God's plans are for my family, I believe things happen for a reason. A positive reason.

If you want to help your son, then you must STOP your negative thoughts!!

[nugget]

helplessmum3:

Nugget,
My son physcologist app is on my birthday .
So this yr birthday , God send me a present, a autistic son.

Early intervention as u say not cure.
Still they remain defective in their life.
Like crack glass or mirror. Can't be mend .

My son is a mutant there onwards, Fantastic 4 maybe. All hav special intelligence but yet consider disability lo... High IQ yet consider disability individual . Fast learner yet disability .

Temple gradin is a scientist yet disability ..

Is sickness . Is mental sickness that always feel there is a door exist..

I understand you are in pain and it also sounded like you are angry over this situation.

I don't know how to comfort you as I also feel as helpless as you are.

After a while,I started to read up as much as I can on ASD, re-adjust my finances, reset my priorities and lower my expectations for my boy.

Yes its true like crack glass or mirror. Can't be mend .But I chose to make the best situation out of it. I will polished it bright and clear and will put some decorations on it so it bring out the best of its usefulness. We can still look into a crack mirror and see our own reflection right?

It all boils down to who can accept this mirror and who can't.

My expectation of my boy now is as long as he can live independently when I die one day, I will be happy.

That is all i ask of him. Nothing more.

[schweppes]

nugget:

I understand you are in pain and it also sounded like you are angry over this situation.

I don't know how to comfort you as I also feel as helpless as you are.

After a while,I started to read up as much as I can on ASD, re-adjust my finances, reset my priorities and lower my expectations for my boy.

Yes its true like crack glass or mirror. Can't be mend .But I chose to make the best situation out of it. I will polished it bright and clear and will put some decorations on it so it bring out the best of its usefulness. We can still look into a crack mirror and see our own reflection right?

It all boils down to who can accept this mirror and who can't.

My expectation of my boy now is as long as he can live independently when I die one day, I will be happy.

That is all i ask of him. Nothing more.

:goodpost:

you have penned it so eloquently, nugget. i love the analogy of the cracked glass and mirror