All About Autism

[mashy]

Desert wind


‘straight’ means honest and not shrewd.

I think there’s good and bad lah. I don’t think your PIL meant to hurt u. They are just highlighting something u may not want to face. Let’s be honest, he isn’t typical. If he has been, we won’t be having this conversation and you won’t be cracking your brains wondering what to do with his education. I think through the process of finding out more of our child, we have become more sensitive to what others say. We will need to balance this and take a step back.

For me I’m quite the opposite. I suspected from the time he was 8-9mths while my ILs said he is perfectly fine. Just shy and quiet boy. I have told everyone we met and those friends we meet up that I suspected he has autism. Lol. Everyone brushed me off and said no lah, can’t be. It took a detailed drawing of the digestive system for my mil to see my point and asked me to bring him for assessment.

I cried too after the results came out. But for us, it was simply a confirmation of what we suspected all along. That our kid is quirky. The child dev dr sugg we go for group therapy with the pte therapists. After considering, we decided not to. Coz I think he is doing well now. The child dev dr has not spoken more than 10 sentences to him and simply sugg based on the psychologist report. So to me, that was just wasting my time and money. I just continued with the therapies at rehab and see how much more he can improve. Once I find that it is no longer beneficial, I will stop that too. Instead, I signed him up for enrichment classes like other normal kids. Sports, music, Chinese and soon English for comprehension. I think I’m just raising him up like any normal kid. Not much difference. I expect the same discipline, in fact more from him. I punish him when he steps out of line. The diagnosis is simply to make me understand him more, that it’s not his fault sometimes for not hearing me, that he may not like the same stuff as other children etc. He will take more time to master a skill because he gets distracted easily and doesn’t follow instructions. We just spend more time practicing then.

Btw, I think sports are really good for our children. If u have not done any in this aspect, do it. Helps in their coordination, discipline etc.

[nugget]

mashy:

Desert wind

Same! My boy also has the same sweet temper as yours.

Mine is in the same group as you both. Too sweet temper. Even being pushed at playground also wont fight back. I really worry he get bully when he go mainstream.

I guess at some point we also need to learn how to let go.

[mashy]

Nugget


I sent my boy to tkd class. Lol. I also scared he will get bullied.

[nugget]

mashy:

Desertwind

May not be that bad in pri sch. I find so far my boy's pri sch experience has been pretty ok. Kindy teachers aren't as trained and they don't have the support.

Mashy,

Based on this statement, I confirmed dun want to delay my kid for primary 1 enrollment. I think you are right, kindy teachers arent train. I think my boy will be better supported when he go P1.

[nugget]

mashy:

Desertwind

At the end of the year, kkh rehab does a sch readiness prog. U can check it out. Maybe leave your name or something to show your interest. It's to teach the kids what to expect in pri sch and the therapists will try out strategies to see what works for your kid in a sch setting. Like getting them to concentrate on their task, do show and tell, taking turns, handling money etc. I think it's pretty beneficial. This is classroom like group session with activities. After each session, The therapist will tell u the feedback and what skill they were teaching that day. The therapists at rehab side are rather nice. I have gone thru a few already and none has said anything mean. At the end of the sessions, they will write a report which u can give to the teacher or bring up certain parts on how to help your child in sch.

My kid is in the EIPIC. Once in EIPIC, dunno if such KKH rehab classess will be made available to me or not. Cos they say the EIPIC centre will need to take care of all the needs of my son.

[mashy]

Nugget


The therapists at rehab and child dev don't talk to each other. They are separate departments and they keep separate files. They will have absolutely no idea even if u go to rehab centre to do your therapies or anything else. So go. If u are seeing any other dr in kkh (not child dev), u can get a referral to go rehab. If not, just go in as private patient.

I realize that when I went to the child dev and they have absolutely no idea that we were ever in rehab. They couldn't check past dev becoz they have no access to the files. So don't worry about eipic going to be your stumbling stone.

[DesertWind]

Hi mashy,


I agree with you to a certain extend except for the "acceptance" bit. It is not that I do not want to face or do not want to accept. It is just that I am not convinced. I will accept when I am convinced.

For eg. most of what my MIL was alarmed about last time, my boy has already outgrown. Things like he was spinning around at one stage but I told her that was because he was watching one episode of Barney whereby the children was spinning around and looking up to the sky. But I have always told my PIL that my boy has speech problems and he has a fierce temper. They were not convinced about this until my boy threw such a terrible tandrum they have to backoff. Now they are handling him with kids glove. The other extreme which also drive me nuts sometimes…

Recently I brought him to a new ST. This new ST asked whether there is any diagnosis? I told her yes, preliminary ASD. Then she work a while with my boy and when my boy looked at her in the eyes and smiled, she turn to me and said "But he has good eye contact?". So I said yes, that’s why I said "preliminary" lor but also he obviously has speech-delay and couple of other issues otherwise we won’t be here discussing.

So yes and no, I will agree to some and disagree to others.

[helplessmum3]

nugget:

mashy:

Desert wind

Same! My boy also has the same sweet temper as yours.

Mine is in the same group as you both. Too sweet temper. Even being pushed at playground also wont fight back. I really worry he get bully when he go mainstream.

I guess at some point we also need to learn how to let go.

cannot, cannot, have this sweet temper, mus be like Temple Grandin, she fight back... in this society, cannot have sweet temper. tis will consider has being easily get bullied

[helplessmum3]

specialboymum:

Hi ladies,


Anyone know where I can get the temple grandin DVD? I search high and low in different video shops down town but can't find it

Enzy Video at holland v.

they only have 2, call to reserved first.

[helplessmum3]

DesertWind:

helplessmum3:

read more on this.. never give up!

http://www.templegrandin.com/

Perhaps I am an ostrich but I do not want to watch templegrandin because I think I will be super-stressed by her excellent mother. My hubby has been pushing me to watch but i told him please spare me for the time-being. :sick:

i was expecting to see more on her mum, but no lor. is about temple grandin.