Children and PSLE

[babyJC]

:xedfingers: Absolutely right! In fact, some mothers are even prepared to quit their jobs or take no paid leave for that critical year.

[janet88]

babyJC:

:xedfingers: Absolutely right! In fact, some mothers are even prepared to quit their jobs or take no paid leave for that critical year.

A friend of mine took 1 year LOA from her job to be present for her son. She may not know everything but her presence meant a great deal. The result is astonishing !!! 4 A*s.

[ruohoo97]

The Last one year may not be enough. In my son’s school, I have observed some P6 boys need a lot help in studies. But, "gasp", now seems too late to help. Some of them have only P1 level for Chinese and P3 level for maths and Science. I think their parents should do something much earlier!

[janet88]

babyJC:

:xedfingers: Absolutely right! In fact, some mothers are even prepared to quit their jobs or take no paid leave for that critical year.

Being present for the child at just P6 is insufficient...of course it is not always possible to take no pay leave for too long. My son is in P6 this year. It is a tough and stressful year. He has already cried bcos of stress and insufficient time to get math tuition hw done. He is tired bcos of school and getting hw done. Time is tight. He is used to take a nap everyday or else he will be cranky.

Just yest, I had to re-look at his time table again. Lost count of the number of times I had to edit it.

[mummy so kiasu]

fightingmom:

Unless the child is mature enough but at this stage usually parents are more gan jiong and will most probably guide them rather than \"leave them alone\" to prepare.

I guess parents do not want to take risk. This is a crucial year & kids are still not so mature at this age.

[mummy so kiasu]

janet_lee88:

babyJC:

:xedfingers: Absolutely right! In fact, some mothers are even prepared to quit their jobs or take no paid leave for that critical year.

A friend of mine took 1 year LOA from her job to be present for her son. She may not know everything but her presence meant a great deal. The result is astonishing !!! 4 A*s.

Not all of them get A* when their mum take LOA. If this is the case, most mum will quit their job for the kids. Why not? I think it is worth it. I am a stay at home mum. Hope my boy could get 4A* too. :rotflmao:

[babyJC]

Quit = 4A* ?

Isn't it worth a zillion ? Better than striking lottery...

[mrswongtuition]

Whether being a SAHM or taking leave during that crucial year resulting in fantastic results really depends on individual child and family.


Scenario 1:
SAHM is busy with other children. Barely has time to guide homework. Can’t afford external help or can only afford minimal external help.
Child is independant and self-motivated to do well and set an example for siblings.
Will this child do well? Yes, even with little resources at home, a hardworking child will find means and ways to do well. (I have heard of students from poor families who want to borrow my students’ tuition notes/worksheets to copy out the questions to try. <3)

Scenario 2:
SAHM has maid to take care of the house. Other children are well-taken care of (either with maid to help or grandparents to help).
Child is not motivated and chooses not to focus during study time.
Will this child do well? Maybe, depends on how the parents are able to convince and motivate the child.

Scenario 3:
Parents are busy with work. Send to enrichment classes. Child is motivated learner and loves the enrichment classes.
Will this child do well? Most likely!

Scenario 4:
Parents are busy with work. Send to enrichment classes. Child finds it a chore to attend the classes.
Will this child do well? Maybe?

There are many ‘small factors’ that add up.
So, don’t compare. Just do what you think is necessary for your child because every child is different.

Of course, we all pray that our kids are self-motivated and need minimal prodding/guidance from us. But then again, we’ll feel ‘lost’ because our baby doesn’t need us anymore! wails

I’ll be honest, I think my 5yo is the type that needs me to prod him all the time. I’ve already made mental prep to take a step back on tutoring when it’s his turn to enter primary school. And in fact, I’ve started to get nightmares about it. I dream of myself holding a cane and screaming like a mad woman. For those who have met my boy, he talks NON-STOP, seriously - NON-STOP. I’m pretty sure my phone will be busy flashing the school’s staff room number soon.

[janet88]

mrswongtuition:

I'll be honest, I think my 5yo is the type that needs me to prod him all the time. I've already made mental prep to take a step back on tutoring when it's his turn to enter primary school. And in fact, I've started to get nightmares about it. I dream of myself holding a cane and screaming like a mad woman. For those who have met my boy, he talks NON-STOP, seriously - NON-STOP. I'm pretty sure my phone will be busy flashing the school's staff room number soon.

Teachers who taught my son since P1 until this year have one similar complaint - he loves to talk. After a warning, he will clam up for few min and then back to square 1 soon after. My son is exactly like your son, non stop talking. I am stressed with his talking from 130pm on weekdays.

I have emails from teachers regarding his love for talking. I showed son those emails.

[mrswongtuition]

janet_lee88:

mrswongtuition:

I'll be honest, I think my 5yo is the type that needs me to prod him all the time. I've already made mental prep to take a step back on tutoring when it's his turn to enter primary school. And in fact, I've started to get nightmares about it. I dream of myself holding a cane and screaming like a mad woman. For those who have met my boy, he talks NON-STOP, seriously - NON-STOP. I'm pretty sure my phone will be busy flashing the school's staff room number soon.

Teachers who taught my son since P1 until this year have one similar complaint - he loves to talk. After a warning, he will clam up for few min and then back to square 1 soon after. My son is exactly like your son, non stop talking. I am stressed with his talking from 130pm on weekdays.

I have emails from teachers regarding his love for talking. I showed son those emails.

For mine:
After warning - Shut for 5 minutes
After MAD MUMMY warning - Shut for 30 minutes
After ANGRY DADDY warning - Shut for 12 hours

But we can't possible do the 'mad mummy' and 'angry daddy' stunt everyday. Sigh~

Right now, mine's quite happy talking to my younger boy who laughs at anything and everything the kor kor says. * Peace for my ears *