How much u trust ur wife/husband? wholeheartedly? 200%?

[fightingmom]

I would say the basis of a healthy marriage is trust. It can be cultivated and nurtured if you create a safe emotional space. Trust is something that both the husband and wife should work on together.


I think it is very important to keep the lines of communication open. Share with each other about your concerns and fears.

[fightingmom]

Found this wordings very meaningful so thought i would just share here:


人生最大的寶物，是給予信任與獲得信任。

有一對夫妻從不互相懷疑對方的手機、信件裡有不可告人的​秘密
另一對夫妻則是經常懷疑對方有不可告人的秘密…

怎樣做才正確很難一言說盡，但「信任是人生最難得的寶物​」，當你獲得時，一定要好好珍惜。

[MrsSeah]

fightingmom:

Found this wordings very meaningful so thought i would just share here:


人生最大的寶物，是給予信任與獲得信任。

有一對夫妻從不互相懷疑對方的手機、信件裡有不可告人的​秘密
另一對夫妻則是經常懷疑對方有不可告人的秘密...

怎樣做才正確很難一言說盡，但「信任是人生最難得的寶物​」，當你獲得時，一定要好好珍惜。

I feel is a mutual feeling. If the husband got nothing to hide, why worry his wife will see his handphone? I never check my hubby handphone because he never worry that I will read message on his phone. He also never lock his handphone with password that I don't know. Occassionally, his handphone beep, I help him read the message.

If my hubby lock his phone with \"secret\" password, do not allow me to see/assess his phone... I believe I will start to suspect............

[cherrygal]

Yup, trust must be earned. If hubby hide here hide there, we are bound to suspect. My hubby lets me open his letters and bills, play with his handphone etc. Our bank books and passports are lying around so we can see anytime.


You want to check, check in full view when all is well. Dun dig around in a sneaky manner especially after a quarrel. Bad timing.

[Imp75]

My hubby always read my SMS although there is nothing to hide however I do not do the same to him. I pin it down to kaypohness rather than distrust. What do you think?

[cherrygal]

Imp75, you must be a really attractive woman… hahaha

[Imp75]

Attractive? Well I say beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder. Anyway old already lah how to fight with young sweet thing? We are no spring chickens you know!

[BeContented]

cherrygal:

Yup, trust must be earned. If hubby hide here hide there, we are bound to suspect. My hubby lets me open his letters and bills, play with his handphone etc. Our bank books and passports are lying around so we can see anytime.


You want to check, check in full view when all is well. Dun dig around in a sneaky manner especially after a quarrel. Bad timing.

But but but.....when all is well, who would check?
And once something is fishy.....the cheater would have already started hiding here and there. How to check in full view by then? Can only dig sneaky right?

Actually I also believe....when one has nothing to hide, he/she will not be afraid of anything.

[Imp75]

Well I think nO need to check. If something happens there will be other telltale signs so just get a PI to get the evidence

[LOLMum]

BeContented:

cherrygal:

Yup, trust must be earned. If hubby hide here hide there, we are bound to suspect. My hubby lets me open his letters and bills, play with his handphone etc. Our bank books and passports are lying around so we can see anytime.


You want to check, check in full view when all is well. Dun dig around in a sneaky manner especially after a quarrel. Bad timing.

But but but.....when all is well, who would check?
And once something is fishy.....the cheater would have already started hiding here and there. How to check in full view by then? Can only dig sneaky right?

Actually I also believe....when one has nothing to hide, he/she will not be afraid of anything.

always ask yourself \"what are you going to do if he has an affair\" first before confronting him..