How much u trust ur wife/husband? wholeheartedly? 200%?

[Imp75]

Well I think nO need to check. If something happens there will be other telltale signs so just get a PI to get the evidence

[LOLMum]

BeContented:

cherrygal:

Yup, trust must be earned. If hubby hide here hide there, we are bound to suspect. My hubby lets me open his letters and bills, play with his handphone etc. Our bank books and passports are lying around so we can see anytime.


You want to check, check in full view when all is well. Dun dig around in a sneaky manner especially after a quarrel. Bad timing.

But but but.....when all is well, who would check?
And once something is fishy.....the cheater would have already started hiding here and there. How to check in full view by then? Can only dig sneaky right?

Actually I also believe....when one has nothing to hide, he/she will not be afraid of anything.

always ask yourself \"what are you going to do if he has an affair\" first before confronting him..

[cherrygal]

居安思危


Check when all is well means eternal vigilance…

[missk]

Trust him to behave around outside? Always

With my son? Um... 50%
With housework? Never! You might have to undo his mistakes afterwards!

[fightingmom]

missk:

With housework? Never! You might have to undo his mistakes afterwards!

Oooh... if my DH helps out ( and he does occasionally if i am overwhelmed with housework plus revision with my DD), i will still show my appreciation even if it is \"not up to my standard\". To me, certain stuff can be overlooked ... more important is the effort he puts in to make the place that we call home

[missk]

Trust him to behave around outside? Always

With my son? Um... 50%
With housework? Never! You might have to undo his mistakes afterwards!

[missk]

Trust him to behave around outside? Always

With my son? Um... 50%
With housework? Never! You might have to undo his mistakes afterwards!

[LOLMum]

i suspect my dh has a bit of 洁癖 (emotional and physical contact with others) so i am not too worried.


some guys dont mind having one nite stand or a fling but in their heart, they dont have any intention of divorcing the wife.

one of my brothers is very hands on with the housework, taking care of the children, very minimal social outings with friends and has already saved up quite a tidy sum for all his 3 kids and his wife. his is family first. but i would cant say he is a fantastic grab as a husband.

why?

because he runs his household in a very military style. must listen to him (very practical but can be very stubborn 99% of the times). everything is about discipline and obedience.

i think my sil prefers he goes out with his frineds more often.

[missk]

fightingmom:

missk:

With housework? Never! You might have to undo his mistakes afterwards!

Oooh... if my DH helps out ( and he does occasionally if i am overwhelmed with housework plus revision with my DD), i will still show my appreciation even if it is \"not up to my standard\". To me, certain stuff can be overlooked ... more important is the effort he puts in to make the place that we call home

True, he says my standard too high. Hey, but I had to draw the line the last time he decided to save water and use water that was soaking soiled clothes to wash toilet floor

[kwokwc]

sleepy:

Agreed. Trust but not blind trust.

My friend's dh travelled to China frequently and she said her dh 'confessed' that during entertainment have to 逢场做戏 so he did caress ktv girls' arms, waist and thighs but he insisted nothing beyond. Don't know how she managed to dig that juicy bit out from him :scratchhead:

Looking at her dh, he's the goody goody honest, good husband, good father kind of man. So trust or don't trust in this case? Furthermore, it's so far away, there's no way she can verify his words. On home ground, he is well behaved.

So my friend chose to trust him. But she sort of gave 'warning' by asking her dh innocently whether it's fine if another man touches her arms, waist and thighs. If he expects these zone to be acceptable to her, then he can accept the same 尺度 too, so long they can come to an agreement to avoid any future misunderstanding. She said her dh went paled Okay, my friend is still quite beautiful for her age so I guess her threat seems viable.

Sorry, want to find a place to get some opinion. My dh travels to China often too and he does confess to me that he also 逢场做戏 so he also caress ktv girls' arms, waist and thighs. However, for his trip recent trip, he told me that one of his friend actually can get a room in the KTV and do you know what. Then just 2 days back, he told me his friend got hom a room. Hmm, he told me nothing. How to believe him? I mean can men resist such temptations? I really wonder. :scratchhead:

Not really that I don't believe him. All along he has lied to me several times. He is that type unless I can catch him red-handed, he won't admit that he has done the thing. Nope, he has not done anything unfaithful before. But he drinks when I don't really want him to drink so much. And I have caught several times hiding from me when he drinks.

I am really confused now and don't know what to do. I really need some advice. Feeling really terrible. :sad: