All About Full-Time Maids

[DesertWind]

Wah, you really have fine taste AB! This mountain tortoise just went surf the web to have a look at Lurpak butter, Billington sugar and, yes, the Nespresso capsule!


No, certainly not pathetic at all, shopping (even for groceries) is also one kind of retail therapy that will do us some good! My "me time" is my lunch time at work!

By the way, before somebody protest we OT, here is my maid news:
(a) My PIL’s maid came today - finally after almost 6 weeks!
(b) My mother’s maid going home this week, finishing her contract already. Replacement maid coming in next week.
My own maid going home for Hari Raya in few months time!

[eduedu]

actually hiring maids is really a gamble. we've had many bad experiences with maids and some even end up scarring our children or the elderly. but that doesn't make all of them bad eggs as well.


as with all people, there are some good ones and some bad ones. had a great experience with my maid of 12 years, she was a fantastic home keeper, great patient and understanding individual and took care of the children so well she was like a mom to them.

unfortunately she needed to return to her husband in phillipines.

[dooelsie]

I do not take jam, peanut butter, etc, since the doctor says I have to control my sugar intake. That means I buy my maid her own spreads. But even if I could take sweet stuff, I will still buy my maid her own jam, etc. It is up to each employer to set the house rules and it has absolutely nothing to do with treating your maid as a ‘pariah’. Employers should not be made to feel guilty for not embracing their maids into their family’s bosom just because she works in their household. Let’s be very clear - a maid is an employee, not your blood relative. So long as she is fairly and respectfully treated, it is up to individual employers to decide for themselves how close a working relationship they want with their maid. To avoid any misunderstanding, I prefer to draw the line and keep things on a ‘professional’ level. That is not to say that we do not share a few jokes now and then, and my maid knows that she can always turn to me for help and advice if she has any problems. This has worked very well for both of us and my maid is into her third contract with me.

[MyFriend]

dooelsie:

I do not take jam, peanut butter, etc, since the doctor says I have to control my sugar intake. That means I buy my maid her own spreads. But even if I could take sweet stuff, I will still buy my maid her own jam, etc. It is up to each employer to set the house rules and it has absolutely nothing to do with treating your maid as a 'pariah'. Employers should not be made to feel guilty for not embracing their maids into their family's bosom just because she works in their household. Let's be very clear - a maid is an employee, not your blood relative. So long as she is fairly and respectfully treated, it is up to individual employers to decide for themselves how close a working relationship they want with their maid. To avoid any misunderstanding, I prefer to draw the line and keep things on a 'professional' level. That is not to say that we do not share a few jokes now and then, and my maid knows that she can always turn to me for help and advice if she has any problems. This has worked very well for both of us and my maid is into her third contract with me.

Well said. Absolutely agree.

\"Employers should not be made to feel guilty for not embracing their maids into their family's bosom just because she works in their household. Let's be very clear - a maid is an employee, not your blood relative. So long as she is fairly and respectfully treated, it is up to individual employers to decide for themselves how close a working relationship they want with their maid......It is up to each employer to set the house rules and it has absolutely nothing to do with treating your maid as a 'pariah'\"

[moonee]

MyFriend:

dooelsie:

I do not take jam, peanut butter, etc, since the doctor says I have to control my sugar intake. That means I buy my maid her own spreads. But even if I could take sweet stuff, I will still buy my maid her own jam, etc. It is up to each employer to set the house rules and it has absolutely nothing to do with treating your maid as a 'pariah'. Employers should not be made to feel guilty for not embracing their maids into their family's bosom just because she works in their household. Let's be very clear - a maid is an employee, not your blood relative. So long as she is fairly and respectfully treated, it is up to individual employers to decide for themselves how close a working relationship they want with their maid. To avoid any misunderstanding, I prefer to draw the line and keep things on a 'professional' level. That is not to say that we do not share a few jokes now and then, and my maid knows that she can always turn to me for help and advice if she has any problems. This has worked very well for both of us and my maid is into her third contract with me.

Well said. Absolutely agree.

\"Employers should not be made to feel guilty for not embracing their maids into their family's bosom just because she works in their household. Let's be very clear - a maid is an employee, not your blood relative. So long as she is fairly and respectfully treated, it is up to individual employers to decide for themselves how close a working relationship they want with their maid......It is up to each employer to set the house rules and it has absolutely nothing to do with treating your maid as a 'pariah'\"

yup, well said! I agree tat employers shld not feel bad about setting their own house rules. After all, we set rules for our childrens behaviour and a maid is an employee here under work permit to do a job. No one has the right to impose their personal preferences on us and tell us how to run our households.

[peapot]

I agree with MyFriend. Different folks different strokes. That’s what I want to do, just keep the relationship as employer and employee.


This reminds me of an incident. My ex Burmese maid turn around and say I never give her off day in some months. I was mad. After this, I ask her to sign for her off day every month just like her salary. It’s kind of stupid but she leaves me with no choice.

Generally, I think how we treat our maid is shaped by our past experience with our own maid.

[LOLMum]

Nearly have a heart attack :yikes: when I saw my maid standing on high chair to clean the outside of the windows.



Told her many times no need to clean outside. Just lock windows and wipe inside ok already. Watched her a few times okay. But today went into room and horror......

She has been good so far but sometimes still a bit communication problem...

[Karl12]

Dear mummies,

My helper is coming soon and its my first time getting helper.
So now busy getting things for her.
Can i check for mattress, i intend to get those foldable type to save space.
I went NTUC and saw some really cheap ones but its like sleeping on floor.
Is there ok ones which are affordable??

Also, i know its too late. But i paid an agency fees of $1,500 and another $321 for insurance fees. My frn told me its ridiculous. Now i feel being treated as carrot.
But this agency told me i can have unlimited replacement after 6 mths while other agency probable only have 1-2 replacement. And i am clueless abt market rate…

I had been to one at Far East Shopping who introduce maids whos experience dont telly with their MOM employment records. So when i went to this agency, who claim they only take in "quality" transfer maid. But now looking bac, it does sound v v exp… heard there are some who charges agency fees of $88!

[LOLMum]

If you are getting her a foldable mattress, get her a good one. Don’t buy those thin mattress. Check out sea horse brand.


Don’t know the current rate but if this agency said it supplies quality maids then why is there a need for unlimited replacements.

Getting a good maid really really depends on luck. I hope yours is a good one.

[peapot]

Don’t think there’s anymore $88 agency fees around. Actually the fees you pay may be the new fees hike reported recently in the papers.